The part of the brain affected by ADD is the part that has to concentrate on mundane routine kinds of things, that is why they have no attention span and are slobs and cant get the apparently "easy" stuff done. They also seem to be very intelligent kids. I think the contrast between two things makes life difficult for them. I knew Katie was "different" when she was 3 years old, but no doctor could confirm it until she was in 2nd grade. They' re certainly born that way. My other (younger)daughter is completely differnt. A- student, organized, mature. When they were babes, I used to entrust the younger one to keep an eye on the older one when we went out for awhile or they were out playing. Katie is not 100% better, far from it, but she has come a long long way. The other tough thing about ADD kids is that when they are not being annoying, clumsy or impulsive, they are acutely sensitive and more loving than ever. The psychiatrist told me that parenting one ADD kid is like parenting ten normal ones..
My oldest has somethign called CAPD (central auditory processessing disorder) which is only diagnosed from an audiologist, and often is misdiagnsed by teachers/doctors as ADHD innattentive type. He is very organized, mature and responsible. But, he still has the same problem starting and finishing work, daydreaming, etc. He is the one with more of the aggressiont than his brother but he has all the friends.
I've never heard of that. You must have had some good doctors to find that. I wonder if these things are so prevalent with our kids because they grew up with computers, computer games, lots more TV than we had and they're brains just became "wired" differently.
nikkispnce I know exactly what you are talking about! My 8 year old was diagnosed with an Auditory processing problem last school year. He goes to therapy three times a week and practices ear-aerobics. He has severe learning disabilities when it comes to reading because of the auditory processing problem. In fact we actually held him back a grade because he was struggling so much with reading and phonics. The ear-aerobics seem to really be helping him. We had to enlist the help of the Sylvan learning center because his school was not equipped to help him.
Maybe! The people who originallythought it was possible CAPD was my sons school speech therepist and child psycologist. I dont really think it's a new thing I just think noone knew anything way back in the day. Everyone who was behind back then just got failed. Look it up, it's pretty interesting. Nikki
Layla..it is so helpful to hear information like that...I know with Jas, her going from super smart to bad to worse is getting the better of us. I know how frustrated she gets...sometimes I see her really trying to concentrate and she'll just end up crying. She thinks she is not that smart because she is behind in grades and other kids in her class are younger than her..(you know how mean kids can be) and I tell her all the time how smart she is..She is super smart! She just doesn't apply herself in the way other children do and know how to. I have a lot of learning to do...especially if she is diagnosed with ADHD...the phamplets they give to you at the hospital don't explain crap, but this forum sure has!
GinaH, Thats great he got a diagnosis. How was his school about it? Before we moved here we lived in CT (was diagnosed in NY in 1st grade), they were so bad they said he was "grade level" therefore could not get any help, he was on an 504 plan after being taken off his IEP. He had mean ass teachers I wanted to slap so bad. Since moving to Hawaii he has been diagnosed as high anxiety (social) esp with adults and authority figures and got into the spec. ed class, he was in for about 4 hrs last yr a day but they cut it to 1 hr a day this yr cause he's doing so well. He went from c-'s and d's last yr to b+'s to c's this yr. I was so happy. They say they grow out of CAPD sometimes by 5th garde and thats where he's at now so I hope it's getting better he is gettign his homework done on his own now! YAY!!! I thougth about Sylvan too BTW. Nikki
10 normal ones ? try parenting 1 adhd child and 1 add husband. lalayla most days i really am ready for the loony room. my son is disorganized, impulsive, cannot concentrate on any 1 thing for very long unless it is a movie or something that occupies his hands.....like building or drawing. the thing i have the most trouble trying to figure out is why he can watch a movie 1 time and tell you the whole movie but he can't remember how to solve math problems. he is easily frustrated, once his emotions get aroused he cannot be calmed down. ritalin works the best for him. the adderall and the concerta gave him severe nausousness and stomach pains. clumsiness ? he could be standing perfectly still and fall over. he spent many years as 1 big bruise. those who knew him thought nothing of it, those who didn't probably thought we beat him. a structered routine works well for him. if god forbid i need to do something that is out of the norm for the day, he cannot cope and throws a fit. i have to warn him days in advance if we are doing something different. he and his father are the worst enemies. they love each other to a fault but since they are both the same they are always in conflict. my husband will start one thing and then 1/2 way thru an idea will come to him and he will go off and do something else. if say he is cleaning the kitchen and needs to walk out of the kitchen to get something, something else will catch his eye and he will forget what he was doing and start on something else. out house is more dirty after him spending hours cleaning it then before he started. he is a complete slob, has very much a teenager attitude about everything. time means nothing to him. no concept at all of what time it is or how to accomplish a task in the most efficient amount of time. going to the store to get a gallon of milk and 3 hours later he shows up with 15 grocery bags of food. has had more jobs then i can remember, whether he was let go or just decided one day he no longer wanted to work there. he is very dependent on me for alot of things such as jut normal day to day stuff and big things like bill paying. i could go on and on but i think you get the picture.
Holy Moly...this is long...I didn't get though all the pages, but wanted to let you know that there is a difference in Boys and girls with ADHD...they boys usually have the ADHD with the hyperactivity...the girls usually the ADD, dealing with my daughter...I did put her on meds and they worked great...after she got into highschool, she still needed them, but didn't take them and we just made adjustments to our schedule...that is important to have a schedule with these children. They eating problem went away with her. Now the little boy we are raising (he is my deceased Neices boy) we've had him since he was 2 and he is now almost 9. The eating thing is a big problem...but like the others said...they eat when they are hungry...I just try to make sure when he is hungry...he eats something that is good for him. He has teh ADHD very badly. We also put him on meds or we would go absoultly crazy...I get up at 6:15 am on school days...give him his pill then go back to bed till 7:00. That is the only way we can get him ready for school. Otherwise it is big battle. In talking to my dr. about the eating...he said not to worry...that most children are so overweight, that no one knows what it is like to be normal. Nic weighs 52 lbs. and is 53" tall. He is just a bean pole...but healthy. So don't stress to much. Just know that talking and keeping things in the open will be the best thing to do. I hope this helps and I'll also keep you in my daily prayers.... Julie
My goodness Scout..I feel terrible that you go through that...Do your DH and DS talk with eachother at all..since eachother knows what they are dealing with? I couldn't imagine having to deal with that day in and day out, and on top of that, you're cooking roasts, giving advice on TP, caring for your pets AND work full time! Whew!
my husband and my son are actually very close even though they are at each other all the time. my son will want to go somewhere and my husband will say okay just let me finish this. then they both go off and do their thing and then all of a sudden its 5 hours later and too late to do what they wanted. thats why structure is so important because they will get totally lost on what they want or are supposed to do . everyone always tells me that if i got rid of some of our pets i would have less stress in my life. the actuality is if i got rid of my pets i would have no stress relievers. my husband and i got into it one day and i flat out told him that he will never understand what it is like to be me living with him and my son. he really has no concept on how much his and my sons behavior affect those around them.
When I was talking to Jas' Dr. he said that they don't even consider ADD anymore...he said ADD is now becoming more of an LD vice ADD...he told me that they know just call it ADHD. I didn't realize that there was a difference between boys and girls. All I know, is that DD is in need of help....help that I obviously can't give to her :o( and it breaks my heart..the more I read on this thread..the more I realize how much I have done wrong...it's too late for regrets. But I did want to share this with ya'll... She came home from school today (mind you..this is the same child that I yelled at the top of my lungs to and spanked her out of anger) Once again..I will not preach, but they Holy Bible teaches us that it is OK to spank..but not out of anger! I felt horrible, but what was done was done and there was no going back at that point. Anyway...she was up until almost 1:30 last night (maybe later) we talked..she went to bed, we got up late this morning, she went to school, came home and walked in the door. Do you know the first words she said to me when she came through the door?? "Hi, Mom..I had a good day today and I just wanted to tell you something...Thank you for being my Mom!" We hugged, kissed, hugged some more and I said..."Thank you for being my wonderful Daughter" She finished her 5 math problems in like 10 minutes flat! Which is unheard of for her! She is now doing her chores without being told to do so...at this very moment she is cleaning up her room..ON HER OWN!!!!! Some of you may know what this feels like, but for those who don't...OMG, it's amazing!! I want so badly now just to take her off groundation, give her, her TV back, jewelery back and everything..but I CAN'T...see..I know if she can do this today..she can do this everyday! I wonder if she is trying to just please me...or if she feels bad about it all and is trying to make up for it..or if she is thinking that if she's really good that I'll take her off groundation (which I won't..I never go back on groundation). Man oh Man..what a crazy day.
Scout ITA! Pets are a HUGE stress reliever...I know mine help me get through each day with my sanity. I still don't know how you deal with it all, good luck to you and your family...it's gotta be really hard on you. Is ADHD genetic?
i am glad jas came home in a great mood. if she does have the add things like this will happen often. she will get on a roll and everything will be great and then it backslides. at least my husband is that way. we will have a row and he will do his best and really take over and do things, then bam! he is back to his self. i finally think yes hes got it, he can accomplish things in a normal routine fashion but then it gets too overwhelming and he crashes and crashes hard. he is not medicated btw. he refuses to take medications.
Now that you mention it Scout...I do notice how she'll be on a roll and then boom...it's like what happened to my little angel? I have to continue to remind myself that it is not her doing...that is something that will come with time I'm sure. I don't know anyone in our family that has this tragic disease...but DH's 26 yr old brother had issues growing up (DH says a lot of what his brother did reminds him of Jas) which is scarey, because he is in and out of jail and always in trouble with the law. When I talked to my MIL she said that the brother had problems with certain types of foods...like the dye in foods he couldn't have things..it was kinda weird what she was saying and didn't make sense to me, but someone had mentioned something about the way people react to certain types of foods...has anyone else heard anything like that?