I really want to bond with Lucy, and I don't think she has ever had a person to bond with before, so I have noticed that she doesn't really trust me, or anyone for that matter, and she starts basic obeidence on Monday, and if she doesn't trust me or isn't bonded with me, I am afraid she may not do well in class. I need any advice I can get. She is about 3 years old, and I will not give up on her. I am the one that feeds her, puts her in and lets her out of her crate, gives her treats, makes her treats, takes her on walks, takes her out. What else can I possibly do? I am also the one that stops her from doing naughty things, so I am hoping that isn't makeing her scared of me. Please help.
Will she play with you? Like throwing a ball or the rope toy?I think I see that you are doing obedience training with her already.. I think this is a great way, because of the amount of praising and treats involved. It sounds like you are doing all the right things, and now you get to wait on Lucy to slowly come around to trusting .
This is a patience game. My poodle was the same way. She was about 4 when I got her. She wanted so badly to trust, but was not used to being touched. Many a time she lunged to bite, just because I was rubbing her back or head. I just told her no and kept doing it. If I did not she would never have changed her additude. I had never seen a dog before that could not relax and enjoy a little massage of her scalp. It took a couple of years to get her so's she won't snap. Desensitizing is what she needed. But, for you just keep doing what you're doing, she will come to the realization that you are her world. She probably does realize but is fighting it. Patience. It could take a few years to have her where you want her to be. Especially if she's been abused. My girl was, she was a total wreck when I got her, could not walk down the street without her cringing in fear because a car drove pass. It was very sad. But she is way better.
She likes to play, but I am still discovering what toys she likes and balls are not them. So far, she likes ropes, and thats about it when it comes to dog toys. She also likes shoes and my dirty cloths (especially socks and underware, but only mine and no one elses). I am kinda hoping that when I have to take away the stuff she isn't supposedc to have, that that isn't turning her away from me. Right now she gets tons of treats for just answering to her name, and she is learning it, lol, but, as I said, I am the only one that gives them to her, so I am hopeing this helps her warm up to me. I also hope that the fact that I paint her nails and am putting cute tutu's on her doesn't make her hate me, lol. She sits there and tolarates it, and prances around in the tutu, like she knows shes so darn cute. I guess patience is all I have then. Right now she is ok about being petted on the head, and front end of her body, but she will not let anyone touch her back end, at all, does this sound strange to anyone?
You know I got Lady from the greyhound rescue. She had never really been around people. She has really attached herself to me above anyone else in the house. Follows me around with her nose up my butt, literally sometimes, lol. But, I can tell she hasn't come around all the way yet. She is still skitish. I know she's happy here, but I would like to see her have fun and play, she just hasn't seemed to learn how yet. I think it just takes time. I notice a difference more and more everyday. She will come to me if she wants to but not if I call her. I know she knows her name, but I think it just takes time to build trust. I hate having to tell her no too, because I don't want to take a step backwards, but you just have to or you'll have an unruly dog. I know that you know that. I would just keep giving her lots of attention and I'm sure she'll come around. Good luck.
Just a silly thought that crosses my mind from time to time.... do you ever wonder how dogs think? I mean when I'm thinking there are words in my head. When I think "I like you" then I'm thinking those words. Since dogs have no language but we know they are thinking creatures just how does that work? I also often wonder about how dogs get attached to one person, my Snuggle loves me more than anyone else, I'm his mom, why does he love, because I'm good to him, because he trusts me, because I hug him and kiss him or is it because I give him nummies (all of the above)? I think he's the cutest thing there is, my DH says he probably thinks I'm the cutest thing he's ever seen too.
No, its not strange. Like I said sasha did not want anyone touching her lower back. It took some time to change her mind there. Maybe you could hold something she really likes, something that she could kind of nibble on in one hand and you could try petting with the other hand. My dog has arthrits. At that point I did not know it was coming on and I often wonder if she was sort of achey in her hind quarters. She was about 4. Maybe that could have been why she did not want to be touched. Or its just that she is an alpha girl. Still to this day I find myself petting her back end not fully aware of what I'm doing. I've done this so much. She trusts me the most. I too put clothes on her and have painted her nails. Not so much lately, as she's got enough going on with arthritis. Patience and pushing your way slowly into her private space.
well I am with puttin... I have never had a problem bonding with my pets. I think because I am a touchy feely huggy kissy person LOL My kids say" stop mauling the dogs mom let them down to play " Well the kids are to big to love and kiss on and my husband ain't always around LOL I do talk to all my dogs all the time in a quiet consistance voice... I even ask them questions which my oldest son asked "do you really expect an answer ??" no but I think they like the soothing calm noise. I also give them massages rubbing their feet, playing with their ears & tail they respond their little eyes go closed and they love it LOL My pug babies fight over who gets to lay on the couch with me sometimes they all have to ...... that is a total of 5 dogs . Yes I am strange but I love my pets and that is why I am here !! Jubilee