I posted in the "in Memory" Thursday, and wondered how long it takes. Looks like the last post is dated back in March of this year.
Monday (11-30-04) morning at 6:05 A.M , our dog Clancy passed away. She was only 9, would have been 10 in March. She was a mix, lab and something else, but all heart. I'm 34 , but I feel like I'm 12 all over again. I lost my Collie, Brigham, way back then, and I figured as a 34 year old man, I could take this alot better than I am. My wife and son are doing better than I am. The vet thinks it could have been kidney failure, but we will never know for sure. I know she wanted out more often in the last week, but she didn't act any different. Not until Saturday night. We call the 24 houre E.R vet, and they said to get her to a vet first thing Monday Morning. They, And us, thought it was a reaction to the medication she was on for dry skin. It may well have been part of the problem.
I miss her so very much. When my son came home from school Tuesday, it was the FIRST time he came home from school, and she was not here. That was hard for him. That night, my wife and son had to go somewhere, and I was alone in the house for the first time in 9 years. I cried like a baby.
So if you notice that they need to go out more often, PLEASE have them looked at. I don't know if anything could have been done, but thats just it, I don't know.
I don't know the answer to your question, but I am so sorry for you losing your special Clancy. Most of us on here have lost a pet and went through the same tough time. I am 33 and lost my dog last year and I don't think it gets any easier, no matter how old you are. But you know that it does get easier with time.
Thank you guys. Its nice to be able to tell someone and not feel like your weak. My familey has been great, but with the exception of two people at work, everyone else there felt like it shouldn't be a big deal.
We are going back to the capital area humane society where we got her, and adopt another dog . I just dont know when. May wait till Summer when my son is home, or even sooner. I know it will have to be after March when we get back from vacation.
Funny, they say we rescued her, but I kind of think its the other way around.
Ken, I'm really sorry you lost your dog. There will always be people out there who don't understand the depth of love that passes between a man (or woman) and his (her) dog. I love Winnie more than anything in the world. If I am to be honest, top of the list even over my DB. Friends laugh at how much money I spend on her (just bought her a Kate Spade collar for X'mas), her silly webpage I update regularly, not going out weekday evenings unless I can bring her because I don't see her all day while I'm out at work, etc, etc, etc. If I lost her I would be utterly gutted and crushed, so I can only imagine how lonely you guys are without here.
I think it's great that you want to get another dog as I believe that that will help with the healing. Glad to see you here and welcome to TP. Sorry it is under such sad circumstances though.
So very sorry for your loss. Thought I'd post this story ...it has helped me in the past when I've lost a beloved pet..
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Dogs bring such a joy in our lives that when they pass away we feel lost. When our other shepherd died it took a long time for us to recover. You walk in the house expecting her to be there or when you pull in the driveway you take the same pre-caution you always did for weeks.
It took us over a year to get ourselves another dog, but i am glad we did.
You feeling this way is just normal and means that your human.
You will be able to remember your dog with happy memories one day. And you will know when the time is right to find another.
Thank you for all the kind words. Clancy will allways be with us in our hearts, and yes, in our dreams.
Last Sunday we went back up to Capital Area Humane Society. We looked at all the dogs there that needed a home. Only one "spoke" to us . We did not choose her, we let her and Clancy choose us. As I was walking this dog for the first time around the grounds, I was thinking only of Clancy, and how 8 years and 51 weeks earler, almost to the day, I was meeting Clancy at the same place. I was asking Clancy to help me decide. We filled out the papers, and were told we could pick her up on Wednesday. It was on the drive home that my wife and I realized, the dog we had just adopted, and I know this sounds crazy, was in the EXACT same pen that Clancy was in!! We comfirmed this when we got home, and looked at Clancys papers. Clancy chose for us!!
We are now the happy owners of a 2 year old Grayhound named Maggie!! She is beautiful, redish brown, and black, and very well behaved. And very BIG!!!
She is not better than Clancy, she is different. And I think I will love her as much, just in a different way.
Again, thank you for everything, and I'll keep you all informed of Maggie.
I'll work on the pics. Its been so long since I've posted pics, I can't remember how. I tried to post one of Clancy in the IN MEMORY section, but it didn't work.
One thing about Maggie though, she suffers from Separation Anxiety BAD!! First day (Last Wednesday) home alone, nothing. Thursday, peed, Friday my son stayed home from school, so no problems, Monday, peed pooped and chewed my good shoes!! Tuesday peed. So as much as I hated to do it, we now have a crate. I know it is a good thing from everything I have read, but Clancy only messed in the house ONCE the first day we had her, and that was it. And she was only 9 months old. Maggie is 2 years! Dang, I know she is not Clancy, but Clancy really spoiled us. To let her out, all we did was open the door, she would go into the back, do her thing, and come back in as long as the door was not latched.
Oh well, in time she will be an awesome dog. She must really love us, to feel so bad when we are not here. I just wish her expresions of love didn't smell so bad, lol.
I am so very sorry for you loss...I recently lost my puppy, so I know exactly what you are going through. There is a poem that I have been looking for to share with you. I haven't found it yet, but here is another that I found that I wanted to share:
So this is where we part, My Friend, and you'll run on, around the bend, gone from sight, but not from mind, new pleasures there you'll surely find. I will go on, I'll find the strength, life measures quality, not its length. One long embrace before you leave, share one last look, before I grieve. There are others, that much is true, but they be they, and they aren't you. And I, fair, impartial, or so I thought, will remember well all you've taught. Your place I'll hold, you will be missed, the fur I stroked, the nose I kissed. And as you journey to your final rest, take with you this...I loved you best.
I am sorry for your loss. I lost one of my collies last year because of a medication they give dogs called primor. It was taken off the market for humans because it causes stroke, heart attack, etc. It's used for many different ailments. Have you gone to the Rainbow Bridge web site? It doens't take away the pain completely but I think it helps.
I'm sorry for your loss. You are so right, a new dog can't take the place of the old dog, but you can love them as much in a different way. When our Shih tzu mix, Brandi, died suddenly in 1997, my dad had the hardest time with her death. A year later we got our miniature schnauzer Lacey, and a year after her we got another schnauzer named Champ. We always remember Brandi, but our other dogs bring so much joy to our lives. Give Maggie a chance to adjust, she is probably upset by all the changes. Good luck to you!
Ken, I am so sorry about your loss and so happy for your new gain!! =) How is Maggie doing? I too, had a dog that suffered from separation anxiety. It is not easy to deal with. I had to eventually give my dog away to someone who knew how to deal with it. I didn't know any better at the time. There are alot of websites with advice and ways to deal with it. Look some up. I now have 2 other dogs, a maltese/pom mixed 11 month old puppy and a 2yr. old Jack Russell that we recently adopted. Keep us posted on how things are going.