First off, I have nothing against children. But after working at a dog rescue I find I do not look so foundly on them. Actually, I more so hate the parents who show no responsibility. (NOT ALL parents and kids mind you) After christmas we got in like seven puppies from parents who said that the puppies pooped in thier house and barked all night (Gee, I didn't know puppies did that...) . Another person said they puppy 'attacked' their child. There dog was a three mounth old lab puppy, sweetest thing I ever saw. Anyway, getting on with why I am posting this. I, again, have no problem with parents getting kids puppies or what not if they can take care of them. A single mom, with a two year old and a one year old, came up to me and asked about a puppy. She said she wanted something that her kids could play with. While we spoke her one kid was running around screaming at all the dogs. She said she worked all day and put her children in day care and school when she was away at work. I asked her if she would have time to play with the puppy and what not. She said on the weekends the kids would and during the day it would stay in their garage. I said a puppy needs constant attention for at least the first week or so (I was being generous) and he would need training. The mom got very offended and told me that she didn't have time to 'play' with it during the day because she had work. I told her to fill out an application because I didn't think our conversation was going anywhere. So, she did. The puppy she wanted was very small and still needed training. After she filled it out she asked when she would get the puppy. I said it wasn't a definate thing, that more people applied that wanted the puppy and one would be chosen. Well, the women was outraged and spoke a long while to my manager. I wasn't quite sure what to say or do and this has happened before. Would you have given her the puppy? Or what would you have done?
My family owns a pet store, and i spend a lot of time there managing it. I always reccommend shelters or rescues, then breeders but (no offense) i never reccommend pet stores to get a puppy. I have friends that work in rescue organizations and i know for a fact that the lady would not have gotten the puppy. I for one wouldnt have given it to her. First impressions are extremely important and if someone cant show respect towards the selectiveness of the rescue organization, then they should not recieve the dog. The only set back is that the person will probably go and buy a puppy instead. Some people will say that she should get the puppy, and some people will say that she shouldnt. I personally say that she shouldnt.
I can see your point. I am a parent and a new puppy owner. I am responsible and working hard for this pup, but I researched for a year, planned out the timing and searched for the right personality of puppy with the exposure to kids, noise, chaos that I needed. I find I am an oddity in the parent set. You all may think as many do that I am crazy getting a dog with 5 kids 9 and under. Well, maybe I am. It is worth it though to see my daughter who has add and depression smile so much and embrace a dog the way she has. It is a sacrifice that I am willing to make. I am doing all the work and it is hard. I find that most of the people who told me NOT to get this dog have dogs they can't contain or handle that have to be caged 90% of the time. Most families are probably not able to do the puppy scene with young kids. I think that is why home visits and screening are great.
SO TRUE! I know from experience. I can tell you also that raising a puppy with no kids and then raising one with kids is a HUGE difference. It is tons of work and I think a bigger decision almost because you have to be ready for more intense training to insure success. I think back to being a single woman with a cocker spaniel puppy and boy is this different. I had the most well trained puppy and dog that was welcome anywhere. I was on my own and now I have lots of other influences and interferences in my work. It makes training and living a whole new experience that I need to be taught. My pup is EASY compared to what I could have had and I know it. I think it is hard enough to adjust and make things work, but a typical puppy with typical realistic puppy behavior is EVEN MORE work and a decision not to be taken lightly. You are so right.
Piper is 6 months old ,but her being the small pupper she was at 9 weeks she needed a lot of work ,adjustment, and attention just to feel comfortable in her new home. For the first week I did nothing but spend time with her to make her feel at home.With that ladys attitude she doesn't derserve a puppy of any kind.Or even an adult dog.Even Tigger who's my adult dog she's 7 requires a lot of attention. Then the both of them. They get walks , a fair amount of attention each, both go to the park almost every day , we jog. Dogs are like children in fur. To be a happy , healthy , socialized dog ,they require training and human interaction.
If that woman had gotten the puppy....it probably would of been back in a week. Some people have very unrealistic ideas of owning a pet. You can't lock a dog in a garage 5 days a week and expect to have a nice well behaved pet. The puppy would of found SOMETHING to get into. I for sure would NEVER let someone like that adotp a dog.
It's not the children, it's the parents. Kids learn by life's experiences and by watching responsible people. I have 4 children ranging in age from 4-14. We have always had pets---dogs, cats, hermit crabs, etc. My children are always taught from day one to touch the animals properly and how to behave around them---or anywhere for that matter. I'm a firm believer that if a parent is having a hard time keeping her kids under control and teaching them valuable skills, then they will have out-of-control pets as well. Kids and dogs take an enormous undertaking regarding care, feeding, exercise, medical bills, manners and everything else. If an already stressed out parent is looking to get a puppy in the hopes that it will keep the kids busy, with no intention of actually taking the time to learn what really is involved raising a puppy, then they have no business getting a puppy. They are not something you take out once a day to play with and toss aside when they PlayStation is more interesting. My children are animal lovers like me and I know they would never mistreat or neglect one. Kids and Puppies are a huge responsibility and not one to be taken lightly.
You are so right! I have 5 kids, but they are the kind of kids people enjoy having around. I work really really hard to get them there. One of them is still a struggle but I will get him there if it takes every ounce of energy I have! I remember raising my first dog on my own and it went great. I worked hard to have her trained well and looking back it was so like raising kids. I know many people with kids that are a pain in the butt and many dog owners who have dogs that are pains in the butt. It really is worth the effort. I think with dogs and kids it may be easier to cave, but it is worth it to teach them well.
i think no matter what your child should always come first.raising my 1 yr old son and taking the responisbilty for 7 adult dogs and a litter of pups is very hard.i think before you get any animal you first must be able to provide for it and take that responisbilty on.yes i got my son a dog, she is an american pit bull terrier and is 20 days older than my son Alex.i WANTED my son to be raised with a dog ( yes i wanted him to have a pit bull) because that was the way i was raised, plus i don't want him to be afraid of dogs.but i knew if i got a puppy, it would have a fore ever home. i will not give up my dogs unless it is the last resort.i think if someone gets their child a puppy, they first must make sure what they are getting their selves into.having a dog and taking the responisbilty to raise this "pet" is almost the same with a child.if you have read some of my other posts you will know i do alot of work with my dogs and will not have a dog that will not get along with a child.i hope people will relize that a puppy is a living animal and needs to be treated with respect. just because the puppy does somrthing wrong they give it up, will they do the same with their child??!! makes you think!!
thanks Astreter-----I work so hard at raising both the kids and the dogs and sometimes people ask me how I do it-----I look at it this way---these kids are going to be our next generation. I can't stand to go into the stores or restaurants and have these teenagers with an attitude wait on me. I don't know who taught them manners and respect. The same goes for pets---when people come to visit, I don't want them being overwhelmed and terrified of my pets being out of control. I will take my kids anywhere and my 2 oldest ones have logged over 50,000 airline miles without nothing but compliments from the pilots, passengers and stewardess. I would take them to the most fancy of fanciest restaurants and anywhere else. I am not going to turn out horrible, disrespectful kids to the world. In this day and age, most parents are stressed to the max with working and trying to pay the bills. If the kids and pets are constantly caught up in all of this, they will have behavior problems. Some people should not have pets if they don't have the time they need to devote to raising them properly. You just can't stick them in a box or locked room when you tire of them. I really feel that problems with todays teenagers and kids started with the parents. I know there are some who have behavior problems such as add, adhd, ocd, bipolar. My 2nd oldest son has high-functioning Autism----this has been a struggle for us the past 12 years---you have to be relentless at working on doing the right thing and getting the right services. For the ones who don't have behavior issues---the parents need to step in and realize these are the kids who are going to be running the country. Dogs and kids are a huge responsibility---I think wolf was right to not let the woman have the puppy.
I am right with you Crzyfrmkids. i will raise my son with manners and respect with others. i have friends with "the attudes" you spoke of and i hate being around them in public because of this.some of them have kids and already carry an " attuide" problem because their parents didn't teach them the right way of doing things. my son is only a year old but is allready being taught the right things. i am glad you have great kids and keep up the good work.