I've been a member on this board for some time and can't believe how things have really got out of hand and how childish people have become. It all comes down to this forum and another and it seems that a few who belong to both are the ones stiring the pot. GROW UP already and stop pointing fingers. If you want to bash people then go somewhere else and do it - this is not the place.
I honestly think the administrator needs to do a little more to keep the problem people off of this forum because it seems that they always find a way to come back and cause more problems.
This board is for people to ask questions, brag about their pets, show pictures and help others. Not for the selected few who have grudges against one another and feel the need to run their mouth at each other.
***Edited By: halo611 on 3/28/2005 4:29:14 PM*** Reason: edit word
Halo...wonderful sound advice...I could not agree more...
P & D you wrote to Acyfacey:I think your really trying here to stay neutral but it is really hard to be spoken to and about in such horrible ways and not have something to say about it. If people would just STOP posting stuff over here and making little remarks it would probably end at least for the key players.
And some one else wrote that the trouble makers ( paraphrasing) seem to be the ones who belong to both forums.
I was a member 1 day and had 2 not good quotes about me...Now...in all fairness...they ended better then they started...but if i was one all bent to cause a stir...I could have gotten my nose out of joint and took the bull by the horns and made it all ugly...But, frankly...it didnt affect me in the slightest...you have to take the WHOLE post into consideration before placing a value judgement...And I do think it is the ones who belong to both who cause trouble...conflict rules the day...well i hate conflict....I like a little dirt now and then...but I dont know anyone here or there from Adam...so who am I going to yack it all too...and why would I do it. If some one has an issue with me...All I can say is I am sorry they feel that way...And no one can say I am being mean in any way by my calm statment. See...my point is...Some of the stuff posted on BOTH sites to show "so called proof" wasnt enough to make me get my panties in a knot...If I had a bad day and took everything as negative...AS WE ALL can do...it might have raised an eyebrow...but...to go this far is out of the question...I say agree to disagree...and leave it at that...because when the "newness wears off that new forum" and everyone stops walking on egg shells...it will get the same way as what EVERYONE claims to hate...but why does it keep happening Over and Over again...It is basic human nature...we are humans...and we act as we do because we think and rationalise and have opinions and judgments...and it all comes down to one word...PRECEPTION...are we precieved as welcome..are we precieved as part of the click...some of us need to belong more then others...but it is all basic needs we are excercising...Lets get back to square one...do we all come to this forum to talk pets and animals? And do we go to the Furum to speak our mind on all issues because they each have a niche...I like several things about the furum better already...I like the deleting and editing policy...it makes it all more understandable to know a post was edited then just have it gone with no explination...I would like to ask asny to add spell check right on the tool bar...lol...i need it...and Lord knows others do to. I like the fact that it is all topics...but that has a down side too...so it is 6 of one...half a dozen of another...I have never had a problem ( that I know on any way) from any Moderator..or fellow member and when I fuirst came I was ignored and didnt fit into the click....but the membership changes...and I have had good communication from several members...and have enjoyed it emencly...or else I would never look to see what is the hot topic of the day...But...i think it is the responcability of the ones who go to both sites to be responcable...I have said it before...."a dog who will carry a bone will take a bone" think about it....
Im sort of new to this forum. I really enjoy it. Actually its the only thing I write to. It really saddens me to see what this particulat topic has been about. But then not really sure what it's about. But in order for me to continue on enjoying this terrific. pets website I dont want to know.
So what Im trying to say is, many people get on here to read,write and learn about the passions of their life" their pets". Its really sad that such conversations like I have read have to be so negative and has to get to where its at.
Our pets or pets we may be thinking about entering into our lives is what we should be really thinking about I mean isn't that what brought us here in the first place?
I love reading and viewing your family additions. Its the one thing in my day I know I can visit and feel great when Im finished. I thank all of you for sharing your babies on this site. Thats what I hope will continue instad of all the other stuff I have been reading here.
Anyway, just thought I would share my thoughts with those of you who wish to hear. Keep loving those babies and I hope to hear more about them real soon........
since you seem to be her personal little gopher pits can you please tell she who must not be named that i will not be attending the meeting this evening. that if someone were to show up with my screen name of scout 1 or something similiar that she can go ahead and ban them. resting assuredly it wont be me.
if she would like to negotiate a neutral chat room such as AOL, or MSN, to discuss this PRIVATELY...she can reach me through scouts dogster email.
huron I am sorry about the misunderstanding you faced when you first came over. I think the person who posted did also apoligize. You are really nice and always have been and yes you could have been irate about it and werent. I am so glad you are happy at both forums. But in all honesty did you see anything in our chat last night that came close to the TP chat posted?
I am pretty sick of the highschool games that have been going on lately and I know that the person who made the post you are referring to feels the same way. A genuine misunderstanding is one thing but an on purpose attack and the gathering of a lynch mob is another story. How full grown adults can say some of the utterly vulger and down right hatefull things I have read is beyond comprehension. Some members are well into their 40's and 50's and we have a 13 year old young lady here who acts with more maturity and respect for other people and their feelings.
P & D Wrote:But in all honesty did you see anything in our chat last night that came close to the TP chat posted?
Look...I dont think any thing that was said in either place warented getting my panties in a bunch...as I stated in my post...I am not going to discuss either chat room I was only on for a few minutes and then went to the board...I dont scope all the chats out...and I dont care unless i am online and in the chat...I thought the one posted (that was TP people) I laughed my butt off reading that one...I dont think it was bad...in all actuallity...I saw your comment about the apology to me...I posted on that directly to that person...I had no problem with what was posted about me...by either person...So I never expected an apology...but since I got one I think it shows volumes about that persons character...And I would be less opt to give praise to some people that you might not see the whole picture...things are not always what they seem. that said...I know I might not have responded as you might have wanted...but...I can only go with what i know or see for myself...
Just my observation, but I really think that there have been enough harsh words and hurt feelings to go around for a while now. Some folks seem bent on seeing just how much the mods can keep up with and how fine a line they have to walk to keep as many folks happy as possible.
Granted, I've been off-line a great deal over the past 6 months, but I have seen several new members and a great many vaild threads just the past 4 days. Perhaps we should all concentrate on them and let all the other fade into the dust.
If someone is offended, let that individual speak up for him/herself. Say what you have to say, then move on.
THink like your dog...Chew it up, spit it out and remember to avoid it in the future if it "tastes nasty".
In other words, enough already. For those who wish to continue arguing, don't you have enough stress in your day to day lives without "relaxing" in front of the computer for prolonged bouts of nit picking, name calling and finger pointing? If you need a place to vent your anger and frustration, a pet forum really isn't the place for it.
There are too many folks who need answers, help, comfort, encouragement or simply a meeting of like minded people when it comes to their pets. This is a PET forum, we all need to remember that. There are also a great number of very young people who come on here, is this the example we want to set for them?
I enjoy a good battle of the wits as much as the next person. I can also become angry and say a harsh thing or two, but you do it and move on. Don't let others goad you into bringing yourself down to their level. Enjoy yourselves, enjoy one another and all the riches to be found when speaking about those who make our lives so much fuller. Umm..."don't worry, be happy"????