i am losing my mind and my patience! can someone please help me walk my dog. sometimes he feels like it, sometimes he doesn't. he will just stop and lay on the sidewalk or sit. even if i pull him, he will not budge. this is when i feel like i made a mistake getting a dog, becasue he doesnt listen to me and it drives me crazy. please help me!!!!
How old is your dog? It may be a case when he/she has learned he can be top dog and make the chioces for himself weather or not he will go for a walk. Normally this is not the only area in which he is being the "alpha" dog.
You may want to go to training classes with your dog so you can both build your confidence in one another and you can learn how to be tha alpha dog in a positive way.
expecting pups- thank you for responding, i really feel like i am going crazy. really. i have signed up for classes at petsmart. this sunday will be the 2nd sunday. last sunday i kept him on a leash because of his stitches from being neutered. i try to feel assertive and confident, but when you cry all of the time; its hard to do that. do you have any other suggestions.....
He's still very young and it will take love, time and tons of patience. Once you get past the puppy stage (just hang in there and don't give up) you'll have a wonderful companion. Think about it in terms of a humaninfant, they can try the patience of a saint, but you can't give upo on them or yourself.
Very few pups will walk on a lead right off the bat. None that I have ever had at least! Once again, love, time, patience, firmness (and quite often BRIBES) will help you overcome this. Training through obedience is a wonderful step. Just remember, you have to follow through at home and you'll get there.
tosamom, you're welcome. Just remember...you want him to go the way YOU want, he thinks it's far better in HIS direction. I know it's terribly frustrating. If you see yourself through his eyes, the silly positions we get into (humans that would be) and the begging, pleading and cajoling, perhaps you'll learn to smile at yourself rather than be reduced to tear by his lack of co-operation.
I KNOW I looked downright stupid with Beau (took him the LONGEST time to walk on a leash without problems). I would stop, look down at him and try talking him into the "fun adventure". I walked bent over, with a treat in my hand, I walked backwards, saying, "come on, you know you REALLY want to walk with mom"...have you ever seen a short, overweight, 52 year old woman BEGGING a totally stubborn pup to MOVE his furry behind?
I had to laugh at myslef more than once (hey, everyone ELSE was laughing, INCLUDING Beau!).
Then there was the slipping out of the harness trick, just to show mom who was boss incident! Geesh. Houdini in a fur coat, this pup managed to escape a locked crate at 14 weeks! Talk about trying my patience. Then again, he had a "thing" for pooping on the kitchen rug (in the middle of the night) so mom would find a lovely surprise at 4 in the morning when she went to make a pot of coffee!
He was the toughest nut to crack but crack he eventually did. Just took a lot more patience and consistancy in my position as "the boss" with him than any other dog I've ever had. He is now the most loving, wonderful, obedient 2 yr. old one could ask for (downright goofy as well). All his "Damnitbeau" ways are a thing of the past and he is a joy to have around.
Best advice? Learn to laugh. I know it's hard, but give it a try. It will make the whole experience much easier on both of you.
all puppies go thru this with walking on a leash..to be perfectly honest you really need to be firmer and more consistent and adopt the attitude that you are in charge and not the puppy. you are going to have an extremely large and powerful dog on your hands in a very short amount of time. how you train him and what you let him get away with now is going to be how he is when he is over a hundred pounds. when he is a hundred pounds is not when you can decide that the cute things he did as a pup are now no longer cute but annoying and potentially dangerous to you , him or someone else.puppies at times can be very frustrating and want to make you cry but crying is not training him to become the companion you want. keep treats in your pockets at all times and when he does something you want reward him. so he learns what is expected og him,
scout and pyrmom, thank you for your words of experience. i have emailed the breeder with tons of questions, and the last email i was asking for advice telling him that i considered sending him back. his reply was to never contact him again, he doesn't take dogs back and i should have thought more before getting him. how rude is that for a breeder(more like business man)? i know i ask a lot of questions, but its because i am trying to do things the right way. anyway, i am glad i found this site. thank you. i will definitely keep treats with me at all times!
what an absolutely dispicable breeder !!!!!! no decent breeder would ever turn away the pups that they sold. sorry......i try to help out with rescue as much as i can doing home visits, and help with transports, and am even fostering a dog right now, and i just think that if dumb breeders like this would stop producing my, and a lot of people in rescues jobs would be so much better :(
please ask away as much as you need to.....i would hate to see what should be a wonderful commitment turn sour on you .
Dear Tosamom, I know how frustrated you are and how hard this is, just know that you are doing a great job, you and the pup are still learning about each other and you guys are going to be a great team. As for the breeder, how rude. The way he/she responded to you is just wrong. Don't be so hard on yourself, please. Try not to cry, pups can sense that you are frustrated. You tears will soon turn into tears of joy and of laughter when you look back and remember how funny he was when he wouldn't walk on his leash. Pretty soon, I'll bet he'll be bringing it to you, begging for walks. My puppy doesn't do that well on leads either but I sort of cheat and just pick her up. She's only 4 pounds, 12 ounces and she has me trained pretty well. :) Good luck to you, give yourself a treat for doing such a great job! :)
Tosamom, hang in there it will get better. Everyone has given you excellent advice, and the only thing I can really add is to remember that the stress/tension you are feeling travels right down the leash to him. You are definitely starting off on a good foot by putting him into puppy classes and in a month or so you'll be laughing that you ever felt the need to even make this post.
As for the breeder, well I can't really say what I'd like to about him here since there are children who participate, but suffice it to say that this man is breeding dogs for one purpose.....the almighty dollar. He cares nothing for you, the dog, or your plight. He got what he wanted from you and now he's through with you both. All I can say is "may he rot in hell" and the sooner the better.
-Put your puppy on his leash, go for a walk -While your walking talk to the puppy, "Good puppy!" -Keep talking to the puppy as long as your walking, when the puppy stops, stop talking to him and look away. -Keep the leash loose, stand and wait till he decides to get up and start to walk, when he does, immediatlyLook back at him and start talking to him again . -do this over and over, be patient and don't give in. He'll soon get the idea, that walking makes you speak.
sue, crestiemom, scout1, chileanbarbie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thank you so much. thank you for your words, for your experience and for putting them both together. i truly feel more supported by you and this site, than the breeder. i appreciate the specific instructions with walking him. i will definitely DO that! it makes so much sense. i keep hearing different things about scolding quickly and moving on, praising quickly and moving on. only giving toys if he earns it, for example, does some quick training, then he can get a toy.... it's tough in this day, with children having everything down to a lap top once their born. i guess i did the same thing with Coach (tosa) and didnt realize it would take some time for all of the things to come into place. again, thank you for your words.
scout1, i think it's great what you do "rescue"ing dogs. i don't think people get enough praise for a job well done, and as a new puppy(soon to be horse) owner, i know the sacrifice. the sacrifice seems greater knowing you will not have the dog for the long term. for all those doggies out there...."thanks!"
You know, your situation made me think of another owner who's dog did the SAME thing to her.
We were at obedience class, and that dog would not BUDGE on the leash. All she wanted to do was lead him out to the car. He would not go.
So the trainer quickly microwaved a hot dog, and held it in her hand. Then she got the dog interested in the hot dog, and held it by her side. The dog was not allowed to eat the hotdog.....just to nibble on it....bits and pieces, while she easily lead him right on outside to the car. HE just up and followed her right out of there, no problems!
It all happened so fast, and the woman was elated that her dog responded to the hotdog so easily. Maybe if nothing else helps, entice him with one!
any ideas on what i should do when i am walking my doggy and he continues to pick up leaves, mulch, and anything he focuses on..... should i yank the lead (which he usually has in his mouth) or should i just be happy he's walking in the right direction??? i would appreciate any responses that could help me.. thank you