My 4 month old puppy sleeps in our bed with us. It started when he was small but now he is over a metre long (conversion -- couple of feet) when lying down! Not much room for us left -- especially when he sleeps with his legs stretched straight out and locks his elbows so you can't move him!!! I have been told by a friend that this is really bad because he thinks he is equal to us now and no one is dominant (except maybe him). Do you think this is true? He is an overly affectionate Dalmatian who wants to be with you wherever you go...and that includes sleep time too! He actually gets on the bed sometimes and barks at us when we stay up too late -- "hey guys, what are you doing? Time for bed!!". Cheers
Allowing your dog to sleep on your bed does indicate to the dog that it is equal in rank to you, so you have to be careful of what dogs you do it with. Have you noticed any dominance related behavior problems? Growling over food? Guarding toys or locations? If you are, then he needs to start sleeping in his own bed or a crate, and not be allowed on furniture at all, including the bed.
My moms one friend when she did that the dog wouldnt let her in the bed because he thought it was his and one other friend of my mom's said that when she did that it wouldnt let her hubby in the bed ( i do it sometimes but i get into trouble becuase u know how she pees soetimes adn they dont want to deal with that
I think it's a HORRIBLE idea to let your dogs sleep with you. Out of 5 dogs, 4 usually sleep with us, and 3 ALWAYS sleep with us. I can't even FIND hubby in the bed through all those dogs !!! :) If we get any more dogs....we will need to put 2 king size beds together. The one that does not sleep with us is the dominant one ...and she's actually quite happy to go sleep in her crate.
I haven't noticed anything different in his behaviour. He doesn't growl at us or anything like that over the bed or his toys or his food etc....I think he just likes snuggling us in bed. We are thinking of getting him a couch that can be pushed up next to the bed so it type of feels like he is on the bed with us but not really.
i have always allowed my dogs in bed with me and on my couches. yes it does show the dog that he is equal in rank with you and you can potentially have dominance issues resulting from this. one of my dogs started showing dominant type behaviors not just over the couch but with everything else so he is no longer permitted any royalties.my youngest is one yr. old and so far she has not exhibited any dominance behaviors. she moves when she is told, sometimes she will just move w/o being told because she knows the routine. if she starts showing any signs of dominance related behaviors over this she too will be banned from the creature comforts. also depends on if you are scared of your dog. i know if my dog growled at me i would not be intimidated or at least i would not show it. i know some people who react to their dogs growling as oh my god and then back off. just then you lost the fight.
I used to sleep with my 2 Frenchie's, they may be small but they sure seem to take up alot of room. When I'm up North, they will sleep with me especially if its cold, they are like 2 hot water bottles. And I'm a giant one for them. I don't let them sleep with me any more because they would keep me up with the snoreing, or heavy Breathing. Do I think its a bad idea, well it depends on the dog and you. If you are a dominant person that is not intimidated, or the dog was or is not in charge, then go for it. I was brought up as a kid with a dog that was not alowed up stairs or on the furniture, so I want my dogs on the couch with me.They wouldn't dare show any signs of aggression towards me, I wouldn't stand for it. They have their own baskets to sleep in, so they can snore all they want and I'm not constantly telling them SHHH! SHHH!
Well BoxerBabe, I don't think it's as much a dominance issue. I think it's more a routine issue. You need to ask yourself if you are prepared to do this EVERY night for the rest of this dog's life, because dogs feed on routine, especially when they're pups. you're shaping a behaviour that you may have a very difficult time changing later. For example: 1. You have a baby. Do you want the dog in your bed if you have to bring baby to bed? Is there room? Would doggie feel jealous? If doggie gets jealous, could that be a problem? 2. Puppy is not learning the art of being alone. Sleeping alone, whether in a crate in your room or another room teaches him HOW to feel safe alone and to settle by himself. If you need to at some point have him sleep elsewhere in the house it will be very hard for him, since he's never learned how to do it. 3. What if you are sick? You've just had, say, surgery. do you want the dog in bed with you? What if he kicks you or steps on you? And if this is the time when you evict him from the bed, you're sick AND trying to deal with a dog going thru seperation anxiety! ACK! 4. What if doggie pees (or worse!) in your bed? Gross! And it does happen, believe me! Even adults sometimes have accidents. Basically, I think that dogs need to sleep in their own bed so that their routine is NEVER affected, and their bed is always theirs. We went to my cousin's house over New Years, and took two Golden Retrievers with us, cages and all. Since they are totally used to sleeping in the cages, they had no problem settling, and if anything, their routine was a comfort to them at a time when they were in a strange house. And I'm a total believer in crate training!
We are finding out the hard way that the bed is now "the den" and food if not crating her while eating, is attempted to be dragged in bed with us. We have to crate her to eat. There is a constant flow of toys in the bed with us and she thinks this is where the dogs are supposed to live- and that includes my husband and myself. Kelly
I've always allowed my dogs to sleep with me. Tigger for the last 6 years,Sadie she use to , Noey, and Piper. None of them ever showed any type of aggression like growling. If I tell them to move,they move.I don't have any food problems. Just Piper peed on my bed.She follows me all over the house.
One Happy Girl, you made some very very good points....especially about having babies in bed and when we are sick/injured! Floyd already walks all over us when we are lying down with no regard for 'tender' body regions (my poor boyfriend!). I think I might get him his own couch tomorrow and keep it in the bedroom....now the problem is -- HOW DO I REVERSE THE BEHAVIOUR!?!?!?!? I don't know how I can stop him jumping up their now???
Rednosered--- My puppy peed on my bed about 2 weeks ago -- looked straight at us when he did it too...then proceeded to walk through it and make little wet footprints all over our bed!!! HE only did it once though....and we hadn't taken him out for ages and ages so it was our fault. And then yesterday he coughed after eating and vomited on the bed!!! GROSS!!! It was quite foul.....Now I am just waiting for a poo and he's covered them all!!! But normally, he is quite clean....and house trained now too.
Keeping him off the bed is easy. When he jumps up there, say 'No' firmly and grab him by the collar and pull him off the bed. If he's already on the bed, say 'get off the bed' and push/pull him off the bed.
Other than dominance, it's a bad habit thing. If you don't want the dog sleeping on or laying on your bed as it gets older, than they shouldn't be allowed to sleep with you. Mine does, but it's because he's such a small breed that it won't bother me.
Bertha starts out sleeping in our bed, but within 10 minutes of me tausing and turning she ends up on the floor by the side of our bed. Sometimes she will jump back up on the foot of the bed and stay there as long as we dont disturb her. If we had any trouble with this habit that we allow, it would end. As long as she's GOOD GIRL she gets the run of the house.
My youngest dogs (2 and 3) sleep with my daughter. She has a queen size bed, so it's a matter of more room for her and the dogs. I would have them sleep with my husband and I, but little dogs seem to take up more room than a lot of big dogs! haha! Both of them know "off" and respond immediately to it, so for us, dogs sleeping on the bed is no big deal.
our 10 year old shihtzu has always slept on the bed, he is not real affectionate, so he sleeps at the bottom of the bed. our 4 year old cocker will get on the bed during the day time, but will never sleep on it. she was crate trained, and now has her own bed, so that is her safe spot (den). we have never seen any dominance of any kind with either when they are on the bed. i just think it is a personal thing, if you want them up there or not.
Boxer Babe --- I can truly tell you from experience that if your dog is over appectionate, I would encourage him to sleep in his own bed. I have a dog that is overly affectionate....I use to think it was so cute...but it's not anymore. She has to be in the same room with me ALL the time. When I leave the house for awhile, she goes crazy when I come back. If I go to the bathroom...she follows. It is VERY hard to break this because I have allowed it to happen for so long. She is the type of dog that will be a problem if we ever get to go on a vacation someday, because she is dependant on me. It's really not good for her. If I had it to do over, seriously, I would not allow her to sleep on the bed to encourage a little more independence.