Today, I was ready to leave and get lunch with Tucker. I live in a closed street neighborhood where there is little traffic and little people moving about. Today, when I was ready to leave, my older neighbors visiting daughter was walking her two older cocker spaniels. Before I could shut the door, Tucker started to trot out to say hello. Since Tucker was walking over to say hello, rather than calling him back, I let him go. Boy did this lady panic. I said, "Don't worry, he's just saying hello, he is great at the dog parks." She was like "I am not worried about myself, I am worried about my dogs." Well, her dogs HATED Tucker. So I grabbed him and went inside.
After thinking about it, I started to wonder whether or not she was saying that she was worried about her dogs because my dog looked mean, or that her dogs were not socialized. I guess her anxiety was my fault because I didn't call him back over and I may have judged her dogs wrong and now I feel bad. I think part of my anxiety comes from me interpreting that somebody may have possibly judged my dog as being unruly when he was just walking over to say hello. I started to feel bad that I was just another owner giving excuses for a bad dog. I felt embarrassed even though there was no fight, just growling (her dogs). Now I felt like I was in the wrong and I feel horrible about it, even though she is probably not even giving it a second thought.
I was at Petcetera a few months bad. There was a cockapoo on a stupid flexileash. The dog was 3 aisles away from its owner and tried to say hello. She snapped it back to her, and when we got htere I told Cider to say hello. The woman screamed and yelled and called me about 4 nasty curse words. Apparently her dog is agressive and how 'dare I not hear it growl'. Why is it in a petstore if it is agressive, and why in heck is it not on a 4 or 6 foot leash so you might have a little control?
Today at the dog park and agressive dog ran over Cider half a dozen times... She was screaming, and the owner kept telling their dog enough. Dog didn't listen, Cider flipped out, so we went to go into the other gated side of the park... Dog ran full speed at my roomate and hit her in the knees.. she flipped onto her back and was in serious pain and the dog growled at her..
Then the owners couldn't catch it, and took another 30 minutes before they decided to leave.
An hour later a german shepard who was wearign a muzzle outside the park enters without it and tries to attack half a dozen dogs....
People suck. I wouldn't feel bad. You know your dog, and are responsible. I was so mad at myself for tellign Cider to say hello to the agressive dog I stressed myself out. Really it isn't your fault that they had unsocialized or bad mannered dogs.. from the owners reaction it sounds like she knew her dogs would hate yours.
My guilt is that her dogs were on a leash and mine wasn't. I can't say "Well... if your dogs are aggressive, don't take them in public" Because that's not right. I was in the wrong and didn't use good judgement even though the cockers looked really nice as Tucker was approaching them. I guess I need to ask first. Lesson learned.
She was probly worried about the actions of her own dogs. I actually hate it when poeple just let their dogs come over to my dogs. Your letting your dog walk into a uncertain situation with 2 dogs (smaller at that) and an owner. Which is a small pack walking down the street. Plus there are two dogs, which ups the excitement or aggression. Seeing your dog comeing towards her makes her panick, the dogs sense her anxiety and the dogs react to it. As an owner you are responsible for your pets safety, what if your dog was seriously injured or bitten by these dogs and developed a fear of other dogs. Dogs can be much different on lead then when they are off lead.
Don't worry about I am sure that every dog owner has made a bad choice about their dogs and let them do something they shouldn't have. Just make sure that you learn from this :)
I think that in the future it would be a good idea to ask anyone before you let your dog approach them. Dogs on leash are often less friendly then dogs off leash cause they feel vulnerable as they are unable to more about freely. this insecurity is made worse if the other dog is off leash. Dalia gets allong great with dogs off leash but on leash she is not as good, especially if the other dog is free. I have had dogs run at Dali and I when we are out and it is not a nice experience, Dalia has never bit or anything but she gets upset. Since you may not know the other dogs really well, you may be putting the dog guy at risk as well as causing anxiety for the other dogs as well the owners.
***Edited By: emma_567 on 4/27/2005 1:25:22 AM*** Reason: edit
Some people should feel guilty about thier dogs. I still haven't found the jack@$$ that let his husky bite my bully right on the eye. Has a little scar now but that guy just wouldn't control his dog at the dog park. If your dog is being a normal friendly dog I don't see why you should feel guilty. If it's being aggressive and posturing and showing signs that it will not back down then you should feel guilty if you don't get it out of the situation.