I apoligize in advance because this will be a long one.
Anyway, some of you may know that my 6-month-old, neutered male, Parson Russell Terrier named Jackson and my 23-month-old, female, Golden Retriever named Kelsey got in their first fight about a month ago...so after trying to reintroduce them back and it not working (because Jackson kept trying to attack her, Kelsey had forgotten about the fight), I decided to sell him (I was very upset), which I did but it didn't work out with the new owner (it's a REALLY long story and very upsetting for Jackson and me, this guy ended up being mean and I had no idea)...I got Jackson back about a week ago (thank goodness).
Well, Jackson STILL after three weeks or so has NOT forgiven Kelsey, he still trys to attack her. I really don't want to sell Jackson again (his breeder offered to take him back and sell him for me and/or trade him for another puppy from other litters she has), it was upsetting the first time especially after what happened with that guy I sold him to. But, it's not working and I don't think there is anything I can do. Kelsey isn't getting that much attention because I have to watch Jackson and I have to constantly keep them seperate.
I love them both very much! It's not fair for Kelsey or even Jackson. I was talking with my parents about it and they think that since Jackson is easier to care for(example: he's a lot smaller for the house/yard/me to handle) then I should sell Kelsey (even though they love Kelsey too). We have a great family friend named Karen that we've known for more than 22 years...she has owned Golden Retrievers for probably 17 years so she knows a lot about them and of course, loves them...her family goes camping a lot during the summer and they have a great place near their house to take the dogs on a run....her Golden Retriever, Max, died about a year ago, she had him for 10 years...she really wants another Golden Retriever, she loves Kelsey and always says to me that she'll take Kelsey. I would get to see Kelsey whenever I wanted since they are good friends and I know for sure that she would take very good care of her, I could make sure of it anyway. Kelsey loves Karen and her family so I know she won't be scared of them, but the longest she's been away from me was a week and she was so excited to see me when I got back.
This is a difficult, I love both my dogs and wish I could keep them but after all this time and it's still not working, I doubt it will.
I've had Kelsey for two years, I've had Jackson for four months...Golden Retrievers are my favorite breed, but I love all dogs...Kelsey is bigger which makes her harder, Jackson is very easy because he's 11 pounds and I could just pick him up (unlike Kelsey)...etc.
I'm not saying I'm definitly going to sell Kelsey, I just want to know people's opinions and advice. I really need help, this is all very, very difficult!
Thank you in advance! Any advice or opinions would be greatly appriciated.
it sounds to me like kelsey would have an excellent home with your friend karen. but in finding kelsey a new home you would be limiting yourself to only owning one dog for as long as jackson is alive,. if you ever planned on getting another dog for showing etc. you wont be able to do that with having jackson in the house. if jacksons breeder is willing to take jackson back and find him a great home i think that is much better then trying to do it yourself a second time.
either way it is a hard decision to make and i am not sure i coudl ever make that decision myself. good luck.
I would have to say keep Kelsey. She has been there the longest. And with Jackson breeder offering to take him back I would go ahead and let them take him. The know him, and his history. Jackson is the problem not Kelsy.
i have got to agree with keeping kelsey!!! she is the only mommy you have ever known and to tell the truth i get so angry when i hear of people doing this...they get a new pet then give away the old one when it does not work out, grrrrrr.
kelsey was their first and she is your baby so keep her and let the breeder take the other before any more time passes and gets too attached to you, whist still young so it will be easier for you both to part.
If it were me I would take Jackson back to the breeder,but you alone will have to live with whatever decision you make.It sounds like if you keep Jackson you can never put him with another dog,so I would also keep that in mind.Good luck.
I have had dogs all my life and thank heavens I haven't had your problem. I am sure it is very, very tough on you to have to decide. My thought is keep Kelsey and give Jackson back to the breeder. I have several reasons for feeling this way. 1. You have had Kelsey for 2 years and she is part of your family. 2. Jackson seems to have the problem adjusting and if he doesn't get along with your dog how will he be around other dogs when you take him out? 3. While your friends sound wonderful how would you handle going to their house and seeing Kelsey knowing you couldn't take her home with you and how would Kelsey feel seeing you and then having you leave her time after time not understanding why you don't take her HOME. I truely feel for you in having to make such a decision but I would advise you to decide asap before you become even more attached and the choice becomes harder than it already is. I understand not wanting to sell Jackson yourself so if the breeder agreed to take him back I think that is a good way to go. Sounds like they are responsible breeders and care about their pups, that's a good thing. Good luck!
If the golden was first in the house then you keep the Golden. Only you know which one you want. I would never get rid of my first born to make way for a new member. Just stick to the golden and find a home with out any other dogs or a home with smaller dogs.This could be a size/personnality issue. Find a home that has JRT experience.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you and your pups, but I would keep Kelsey. I;m sure the breeder can find a good home for the terrier, knowing now that he should be in a 1 doggie home. I also have a golden,and she might be the last dog I would ever give up. Good luck to you and the pups.
I would never get rid of the dog without the problem for the sake of the one with the problem. What other unexpected problems might arise? You would hate yourself if you got rid of Kelsey and then had more problems with Jackson.
Kelsey..i feel for you in your time of decison making. I just wish you peace with what ever it is that you decise and I know either way it is going to be hard. Follow your heart and you will not have as much regrets. I have had and at this time am experencing the same kind of issues.. I had to rehome a mini schnauzer that didnt get along here and was attacked and now we have decised the youngest shepherd we have has got to go too...If they dont fit into your house or program it isnt doing them any favors to keep them They deserve the proper home with the right set of circumstances. I will keep seeking out the right place for mine..I wish you luck in your time of need also..Take care
I would personally keep Kelsey. If you love Goldens and Kelsey was your first dog, it would be no contest for me. I have a small dog too, but they can be a handful just with their hyper little personalities. Each breed has its good and bad points. If everything was great with just Kelsey, I would definitely go that route. You may resent Jackson if you did give up Kelsey since he is the instigator in the fights.