What do you think about placing a pup with elderly people? Ther is an elderly couple who wants to get one of my Golden retriever puppies, and I am not sure a young pup is right for a couple their age, but I also feel guilty discriminating against them base solely on their age. They seem to be a very nice couple, but I doubt they have the energy for a pup of this breed. And the sad fact is that I really believe the dog will out live them both, and then what? What will happen to the dog?
What do you think? Should I trust my ageist instincts, or am I being unreasonable?
Mabe you could sit down with them and tell them your concerns, mabe leave out the out liveing part. Ask them about the fact that these dogs are very active, and don't usually mature till like 3 or 4 years. I do know lots of seniors with Goldens. How old are we talkin.
***Edited By: sue on 5/30/2005 7:12:37 PM*** Reason: dinner time
Your fears for the dog are coming from your gut, you guilt from your heart. i believe your responability lies to the pup not the couple. the elderly couple will live without the dog. but will the pup live with out the couple? your job as a breeder is to place the pups to best home possible. i think you already know the right the answer. you just need some back-up. my back-up to you is pass on the couple. you do not have to tell them in detail why you made your choice just tell them your position on placing the pup and the pup is not right for them. tell them you are sorry but wish them luck.
be discrimitive that is what is needed more from breeders. being discrimtive is not always bad.
***Edited By: gunny on 5/30/2005 6:54:59 PM*** Reason: d
We have an elderly care facility that we go out and do the vet work from, and there are a *lot* of pets there and they live great lives. It is always your choice, but I'm also speaking from personal experince and animals that I deal with every time I work at the clinic.
I know my grandma is 85 now, and has friends even olde,r and they go out and do things all the time. Heck, one of her friends makes regualr trips out of the US to help out with free doctors clinics (she's a physician) overseas.
They are of course, your dogs, but I dont htink it's fair to discrimiate against someone who'd be otherwise a responsible pet owner because theyr'e older. If I were you, I'd insist that you be the one to choose the puppy (so you can make sure they don't get the most feisty one of the litter) and that they agree to take the dog to both puppy classes and obedience classes. That way they can get an early start on the training right away. Also, how active are they? Do they travel or take walks or anything? We live in a time when people over 65 are more active than ever, I see more older people exercising sometimes than younger!
What do you mean by elderly? How old would guess ythey are? I've seen many elderly people who can take better care of themselves and a pet than some younger couples I know. At least you know that the pet would be with someone 24/7.
My grandma had a GSD and she lived till 80! She took care of that dog by herself, and he was 125lbs! She was only 5'0 and overweight, and that dog ate the best food lived the best life! He was a great dog and she had a nice backyard for him to play in. She moved slow and he never jumped on her. She also had birds and cats and helped animal rescues place dogs with her till they found a family. She had dogs with legs that did not work that had to have a wheel chair. She was a trooper and took care of them all! I know the choice is yours, but older people like to have dogs and like to love something. I know if I was older and someone would not let me adopt one of their puppies just because I was a little slower than my 20's and may not live as long I would feel horrible. My grandma's dog when my grandma passed away went to her daughter. I would ask them if they feel comfortable putting you as the person to give the dog to if anything happens to them, or they may want to pass it on to one of their children who will love them just the same. You need to do what you think is right. Me personally I would let them get the pup and then call them for the first few months to be sure everything is ok, and before letting them buy the pup ask them about the future of the dog if something was to happen to them. If it really bothers you then you have every right to ask. If you don't feel comfortable, then I guess don't sell them one. I still feel older people are just as capable as younger people to take care of animals.
I am guessing they are in their late sixties. They had a golden retriever for 14 years which they recently had to pts. When they talked about him, the woman started to tear up. Broke my heart. I have no doubt that they will provide him a good loving home, but my concern is for how long. I did suggest they’ll get an older dog, but they are only interested in a pup they can “mold in to their own image” as they put it.
The pups are still too young to leave, so I told them it will be another week before I’ll start to take deposits. I have until then to make up my mind. From the conflicting point of views you all have, I guess there is no simple answer. I’ll have to talk to them some more and somehow raise my concerns about their and the dog's future with out hurting their feelings.
are they in your area? can you provide all kinds of support and help, if needed? when i got my lab the breeder was concerned about lab exuberance and my then 6-7 year old daughter because she was very shy then and the breeder thought pearl may be too much for her. i really appreciated her concern, it told me this breeder was very interested in her puppies. the couple shouldn't be offended by your concerns. late 60's really isn't that old if they are active. they may likely live another 20 years, at least. i'd say give them a chance and be really available to them, tell them your concerns and that you are always available. maybe arrange to make visits as a condition of the sale to see how things are going. and definitely guide them in the choice of a puppy if not choosing for them.
Okay, as a former child welfare/adoption worker would say that I would consider a family of ANY age as long as they had a plan to care for the child (or dog) in the case of somthing should happen to them. Technically any potential parent/owner can die in an accident or disease. Everybody should have a plan. Just be straight forward and say something like, "I think that you would be a great family and I would really like you to be able to have one of my puppies, but I am a bit concerrned if something should happen to you before the puppie dies who would care for it? Where would it go?" If they say 'well I'm sure my daugther/sister/nephew will take it". Then give the person they named a call and double check.
I say sit down and talk with them. But I would place a pup with them. Being in there 60's they have many years ahead of them, and anyone you place your pup with could die before the pup. I also have to say that the goldens I have and have met have not been that hyper or troublesome. I think they would make perfect companions for older people. as they are retired and have much more time to spend with the dog. Heck 5 of my golden pups are in training to be service dogs, and these people are in wheelchairs and are paralized. If they can handle goldens and labs, they people wanting your pup prob. can too.
ok... now for my 2 cents. i would definatly say that if your gut and heart is telling you that they would be a great home then DONT let age be a deciding factor. both my grandparents are in their mid 70's and are in great shape, they babysit my 3 kids all the time and believe me they are a handfull at 6, 4, and 5 mos.
My father is 82 and is still in good enough health to take care of a puppy. He has a farm that he goes to everday and takes care of all of his animals. Cows, sheeps.... It depends on the health of the individual person. So lets say that my father got a pup when he was 60...22 years later, he is still here and able to take care of him. Please do not descriminate because of age.