My best friend lives in Oceanside... her husband has been in the USMC for nearly 20 years. She called me last night to tell me that she had gone to the shelter to adopt a kitten and they WOULD NOT LET HER until her husband comes home from deployment - telling her that both of them needed to be present for the adoption process. they have been to this shelter before, it's where they adopted Joker (blk lab).
I've never heard of this... I can't believe it. Should she go back to try to adopt the kitten again today?
Geez, she didn't go to a breeder, she went to a shelter to rescue a pet. Sounds like the time I went to petco to adopt an ADULT Domestic cat. (Shelters bring in pets on Saturdays). They made it soooooo difficult with paperwork, references, practically wanted a sign off from God... I just went to a breeder because it was EASIER.
You know some of these shelters get me so upset. They are so flippin picky! In some cases I understand about the fenced yard and stuff but a cat?
Then they send out 1000's of flyers asking for money so they do not have to put them to sleep.! Give me a break.
I tried several times with out any sucess to put in a complaint about my neighbour and her dogs living conditions. No one returned my calls once. At christmas they had the nerve to ask me for money and sent me christmas cards. Well they got one card back with such a message I swear they are still probably shocked lol.
The sad thing about this situation is that my friend and her hubby have no kids, so they love joker & coco like children!! The kitten would have had a wonderful life with them. It just makes me so confused. Coco has her own playroom... those string things with sparklies or feathers all over hanging from the walls and the big climbing thing that's carpets... goes tot he ceiling. Most of the gifts under the christmas are for the pets!
This is really sad. I would think the Shelter wuld be happy that one of the pets got adopted instead of remaining nt he Shelter. As an aside, I had no problem adopting my pup with without my husband present.
***Edited By: harlee29 on 7/28/2005 12:56:30 PM*** Reason: *
i think and it is only what i htink may be the reason why they turned your friend down is because her husband was in the military. when men and women were first being sent overseas many many of them had to give up their pets because they did not have friends or relatives who could watch them while they were gone and the cost of boatding an animal for an uncertain amount of time is prohibitive. they may fear that at some point in the near or not so near future that kitten may be returned for the reasons above ? i dont know just a guess.
I have a friend that has a shih tzu and was trying to adopt another one this year. She is in her mid twenties and was told she couldn't, because of her age and that she might have kids within the next ten years. Now she has to go through a breeder a buy a puppy. All she wanted to do was to save a little life and make it better. She treats her shih tzu now just like a baby. She's a great mom and the dog come first. What's so sad is you have to lie to be able to adopt.
So what you are saying is, at this shelter a one parent home cannot adopt a freakin' pet? They let human children be adopted to one parent homes for gosh sakes. That is just upsurd and it's really going to give shelters a bad name.
I think that's just awful. We tried to adopt a puppy and after filling out all of the paperwork (at numerous shelters for different puppies over a few months) I finally asked why we weren't being chosen for the puppies. I was told that while our application was approved we weren't being chosen because we indicated that we may want children in the future and that we wouldn't be able to care for the dog in the same way after that. While I understand that they are looking for the best possible home for the puppies I just think that excluding people who may have children in the future is terrible. They make it difficult to do the right thing sometimes.
I could maybe understand the shelters being so picky if the number of people wanting to adopt was greater than the number of pets they have to give out but I do not think that is the case anywhere. I really believe they are doing the pets a disservice. How many of these animals are put to sleep because no one is "suited" to adopt them? Given the choice if I were the animal, it doesn't take a genius to figure out which one I would pick.
I told my friend that next time she fills out a application to say she can't have kids. What are they going to do ask for paper work from a doctor. It's pretty sad that you have to work around the system. She's filled out applications from every rescue shelter and they all say the same thing. So for the next ten years if she ever wants a dog it has to be through a breeder.
I wonder if they do the same thing if a guy goes in??
If it was a dog I could see them not adopting to them (no pets allowed propertys, too big or small) but a cat? And with all the cats that shelters are filled with you'd think they'd want to adopt them out.
A disservice to the pets is absolutely correct. She said there was approx 35 - 45 cats at the shelter that day... the kitten she wanted to adopt is approx 6-8 months old... we're not talking about a 8 week old fur ball that everyone wants... she wants this cat because its different, it has a lazy eye that she finds adorable (joker has a crooked tail from being broken before she rescued him), she likes the "underdogs", no pun intended. She has already named the kitten Daisy... "Daisy lazy eye". Totally cute!
We finally got so discouraged that we did go to a breeder to get a puppy. We love him so much and treat him as if he is our little baby. Even if we do have children it's not like we would just brush him aside and not care for him. I grew up with dogs and they were treated like royalty in our house.
We still look at the shelters because we would like to adopt a little friend for him but they really were so judgemental. I know that they are trying to do right thing for the dogs and cats but I hate the fact that I would have to lie to them about starting a family in order to adopt.
***Edited By: Poe on 7/28/2005 1:46:32 PM*** Reason: addition
That is a shame that they'd do something so stupid. I agree, they are just looking for the best possible home for the cat/dog, but they ARE really doing a disservice to the animal. And I agree, they send you cards, asking for money and such, it's just sooo stupid!! I got pretty disgusted with our Humane Society (it's like 1/2 hour away, but I consider it "ours") when we inquired about Lexie. We originally wanted to put her into doberman rescue, since I'm in contact with the main lady at the rescue. They would NOT let her go to rescue and I could not understand why. In rescue, they get training and are on heartworm preventative, flea and tick preventative, stay in a foster home, get necessary medical attention, spay/neutered, etc. They also have you fill out an application, do a home check only if you're approved, call your vet reference, and do follow-up checks. At the HS, they get a flea collar and get to stay in a hot, steamy, wet kennel. Yay. I also had to pay $150 for her, which is outrageous, I think, for a shelter dog, considering what you get from a Rescue for the same cost. It's just sickening, I think. Our HS isn't a problem at all to adopt from. We just walked in there, had our other dogs with us, met Lexie, filled out the paperwork, handed them $150 and basically just left with her.
After reading the first post i am willing to bet that the3 reason the shelter said she had to wait for husband to come back is because...Thye want to make sure husband and wife are in agreement with the adoption.
Was the husband with her at the shelter when they adopted the first animal?
True lang, they did say they wanted to see her hubby, it's just ridiclous how so many pets need a home, yet you get over protective people not willing to place a pet... it really doesn't make sense. She's off to a mill now to get her cat if she doesn't succeed with the shelter today. Sad, yet true.
Rebel - He sent an email to the shelter yesterday telling them his wife wanted to adopt a pet and that he couldn't be there because he was in okinawa, but he was fine with her feline choice (she took pics with the camera phone for him). Yes,he was present 5 years ago when they adopted Joker.
THEY STILL TOLD HER NO!!!
***Edited By: harleys Mama on 7/28/2005 3:04:49 PM*** Reason: add