I am so sad because I have to give up my foster baby because someone wants to adopt my little one. I am so attached to this angel. How do I get over the pain of losing my little one? OMG this is a double-edged sword. Should I keep him? LOL ;-) (I am so tempted)
I can understand wanting to keep them all.... but... you should be glad that someone wants to adopt him/her. not to mention it is sad to say there are thousands more out there needing a good foster home -- or forever home. Be glad you are able to make a difference in that baby's future....''Good Luck" it is a no win situation.
I am sure you have already said what breed is he/she?
***Edited By: loveschnauzers on 9/14/2005 1:16:40 AM*** Reason: sp
He is a mutt. Not sure what he is really but he stole my heart. I could have adopted him but I already have 4 dogs. I think 5 living indoors is too much. Right now I don't live in the city limits but I might some day due to husband's job. Some cities won't allow you to have more than 3 dogs without a kennel's license. I know I have to let him go but it's killing me inside. I have been crying already and he isn't even gone yet. I know I will probably never see him again and that hurts me even more. He has bonded with us tremendously and I don't want him to think I gave him up just like his other family before me. I know he is just a dog but I love the little sucker. He sleeps with me every night and he always wants to be held ... just like a baby,.
I have no idea why I asked what breed he/she is...Like that matters... I am sure who ever is adopting him/her has planned to make it a permanent part of their family! That is great!! (for them - sad for you) But now you can foster a new baby... I am really trying to find a + to this.. I am sad for you but happy for the pup.
You could over stress to the "new "owners that if for any reason they are not happy with it you will take it back -- no questions asked... But that could back fire ... Good luck - my thoughts are with you! :)
i truly feel for you.but please keep in mind that you cant keep all of the babies...with 10 fur babies and 5 human babies and a grand child on the way....i have over welmed myself, for i to am a foster mother to alot of shelter dogs....and i even spend my money to keep dogs from being pts( such as paying adop. fees , that some families cant) . it is really hard to let them go. but if it is in their best interest and yours ...u should. i will say a pary for you and the baby. btw. as a foster parent..do you have the right to check into the new family?
I wish I could check on them but I don't think I can. I foster for the pound and they pretty much let anyone adopt if they pay the fees. I am hoping that t since his person came to the pound that they have good intentions. I am praying that they will treat him well. I am just so sad that he might think I abandoned him just like others in the past. He trusts me and I am so sad that I will have to break that trust. I will let them know that for any reason they want to give him back that I will take him back no questions asked. I don't know what I will do with so many dogs but I can take it one day at a time. We are planning on having a human child again some time and what do I do with so many dogs and a baby? LOL So I guess I have to be realstic but it still hurts.
honestly you have me crying... i truly feel for you and the pup. i am not sure where you are from, but i am in w.v and as a foster mother i do have the right to interview, new familes, and give my opion. will you please for your own piece of mind ,see if this is a possiblity for you as a foster.it does ease a little of the pain , if you know where they are, and who they are with.
Knowing where he will go would be really nice. I picture him sleeping in a little boy or girl's bed Playing fetch outside in a nice fenced yard. I really hope this happens for him. I will definitely ask if I can interview the potential owner but I don't want to seem bossy since they never gave me the option. I guess there is no harm in asking. Thank you so much for your kind words. I guess I have to keep telling myself that once he leaves I have room for another baby in need. This little one was to be put to sleep because he was sick. The moment he arrived he clung to us like glue. I guess he was really glad to be in a real home with a real family loving him. I know I will be OK but it's him I am worried about . I dont' want him to think he did something wrong and now he has to go away. I just keep thinking about that article where this rott had been sitting in this one spot for 6 wks and would not leave. He was dumped by his owner and he stayed in that spot and would not go with anyone. He would eat the food he was given but he would not go anywhere until his master came back.
you are right for you to picture him in the arms of a child, being loved. but please before you let him go see what you can find out. my prays are there for this pup. does your shelter you foster for have a spay/nutur? i know my spelling is not great . but what the hey(lol). " with dogs, it is easy to fall in love,and hard to fall out of"
sry: my keyboard sticks
***Edited By: winnies_mom on 9/14/2005 2:02:27 AM*** Reason: ?
Oh my gosh, you sound EXACTLY like me. I have had Marco, a little chihauha terrier mix for three months. I have been fostering him and have absolutely fallen in love with him. I have fostered other dogs before, but he is different. The woman is coming tonight to adopt him. She is very lovely and I know he'll have a good home, but I am heartbroken. I have been crying too. He looks up with his big brown eyes right into my eyes, he sleeps with me too, and he cuddles up to me and lets me rock him like a baby. We have such a strong bond. I have been taking pictures of him for the last 24 hours. I am so sad and am worried that maybe I should have decided to keep him, but now it is too late. The woman is so excited and she is coming tonight. I don't know what to do. If you want to e mail me, email@example.com, as there is more to this story. Maybe we can help each other.
amy just remember that after one baby leaves you have room to help another needy soul. take comfort in knowing that you are helping save lives. my baby is gone now and i miss him but i will be taking in another baby in a few days.
I don't know how your fostering center does everything, but here I've actually talked to the lady that I am trying to adopt from. I have a min pin and trying to adopt one from her. I am meeting with her and the pup next Sat. at a doggie park and we will meet with the foster parent. I told her that I will send pics and keep her updated on how he's doing. I know that it is very easy to get attatched to a dog esp. one that you are fostering/have had for a little while and even tho. she may not be able to keep him, I have every intentions of keeping him in her life too. Maybe you could suggest getting info. on the people who are adopting your little one and ask if they could keep you updated???
It's the city pound not a rescue. Unfortunately I have no say on who keeps him. I have some comfort in knowing that if she doesn't want him she is to return him to the pound and hopefully the pound staff will call me and let me foster him again. The pound lets people adopt dogs as long as they have the money. I just foster dogs who are to be put done and I feel have the potential to be adopted.
Thank you for the kind words. You don't need to be a saint to foster. Maybe if you have the time you too can help out. If you can't foster maybe you can go walk the dogs for a little bit every week. Every little bit helps. If you don't have the time money goes a long way too.
Lovedoggies, I can so understand your pain. I've been fostering a 10 yr old hairless male Chinese Crested since May and I am so in love with this goofy guy. One of my fellow reps is doing a home visit for me this weekend and assuming it goes as well as I believe it will, Chancey will soon be headed to Vancouver, WA.
I do get attached to all my fosters and I cry my eyes out everytime one leaves, but there's just something special about Chancey. If it weren't for my husband, I would have already adopted him. I just have to keep reminding myself that if I keep him, then I have no room to help the next Crestie in need....and sadly, there's always another one that needs lovin' too.
Please don't dwell on the fact that YOU think the dog will think you have abandoned him, trust me when I say it is MUCH easier on the dogs than it is for us. The one thing I've learned is that, at least for Chinese Cresteds anyway, they truly do love the one their with and forget about us long before we forget them.