I see a very hurt and angry person. Instead of sitting idly by watching her crumble, why not give her hope? She is grieving, she is angry, she is hurt, she has family issues. All these problems will not go away until she finds the root of her problems. Therapy will help her tremendously.
Crazy-- As a result of your stupidity and ignornance you WILL have some time to think about what you're doing... rotting in hell.. for all of eternity. Have you ever heard the saying "if you can't say something nice don't say nothing at all?" Why don't you just leave this site? As someone has said before some families need no reason to exclude someone. I'm not going into my personal life with you because you just aren't worth the time it'll take to type even a word of it. None of this is your business so why are you inviting yourself to make it out to be? I'd bet you anything that you yourself are excluded from many things and by hurting someone else you "get off" on making someone hurt even more than you do. Why don't you grow up and be mature for a change? Suggesting a therapist is not for you to say. If she feels that's what she needs/wants to do I'm pretty sure she's of age to make that decision. So ~SCREW YOU~ and get a life!
Since when did therapy become a bad thing? Do you really think it will hurt peanut to seek help? She obviously has issues that won't just vanish into thin air. I only told her to seek therapy because I know it can only help her. Time will not heal all her wounds. She needs to talk to someone who can help her figure out the root of her problems. Seeking therapy does not mean you are a crazy or bad.
Hey hey lets not bring OCD into this...I have that lol..
Crazy you have stepped halfway over a line from simply suggesting something to almost demanding that she goes to thraepy. No one here to my knowledge said threapy is bad but you can not badger someone into going. The only person that can make that decision is her. No one else...
Quote"some people need to think before they speak ---especially if they choose to speak rudely"END Quote
Quote"Let me ask you .. would you ever say this to someone to their face"END Quote
Quote"I DID NOT COME HERE TO BE CRITICIZED .. YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ME" END Quote
I was just reading another thread and came across this written by Crazyaboutdogs. I thought it would pertain nicely to use your own words...
Some people DO need to think before they speak...and maybe in this instance, you should back off and realize it's YOU.
Let ME ask YOU...would you ever say to someone's face that they need therapy or medication?
I'm sure Peanut did not come here to be criticized either (sorry to speak for you peanut) and it sounds like you know nothing about her.
So, since you're the one who stated the above...why don't you practice the above and just leave her alone? You've said what you wanted to say...rude though it was...and now you know that no one cares to read it any longer. The OP was concerned and that's what this thread is about.
I dont know if I am back or not yet. I am so sick of everytime I try to say anything anywhere someone has to come into the threads saying stupid things. I just dont know how much more I can take from online again. I am tired, and drained in my heart, my eyes wont stop having tears in them from my heart leaking so badly with sorrow.
In an attempt to get shed of the troll. My siblings hate me because all my life *I* was DADDY'S LITTLE GIRL! All of our home movies are about ME. All of the parties we ever had as we were all growing up were for ME. Christmas time was all about ME. Everyone's life was all about ME!
IT ISN'T MY FAULT! I WAS A LITTLE GIRL I didn't know any better. I couldn't control what was going on and I didn't know. How is a child to know the difference when there was no difference in her mind?
Now that I am grown up my brothers and sisters all got married and divorced. Always having to have a job and work for everything they have ever gotten.
Well when I grew up I found my man and now I have never been divorced in 20 yrs. I moved out of being daddys little girl in with my husband who took care of me.
And no my life is not my fault. I chose the roads I knew would make me happy. All of my siblings have always fought to try and keep up with me, when I am simply living my life. I am the only one out of the 7 of us kids that had the first grand daughter, now all of them are affraid I will have a relationship with my parents and they will end up with nothing when my parents pass away.
Thats why they all went to florida to squander threw my brother's belongings. They all think life is so meterial. They think it all means what you own and what do they get if you die?
Well I am not this way. I did not marry my husband for what he owned or how much money he had. I dont want anything my brother left behind unless he willed it to me. I have no NEED to go loot his stuff. I just wanted to go hug my mother and dads necks to grieve with them, to let them know I'm there for them, not for what my brother left behind. I just want to be with my mom and dad in this time of sorrow we are all going threw. I dont want meterial things.I just want their arms around me to cry with. Thats all I want.
But my siblings go off and leave me out of their lives 99.99% of the time and I don't know why I expected anything more out of them then what I am getting right now.
I hope you are happy.
***Edited By: peanutmypoodle on 10/1/2005 1:55:55 AM*** Reason: *
nicely said shaunna!!! It seems to me that many people have spoken to crazy about going to therapy and she knows quite a bit about the "little talks". Anyway I didn't say that going to therapy is bad or that it's for CrAzY people. All I'm saying is that she can make that decision for herself and it is none of your business. So go back in your little "mole hole" where you came from.
Only people that care about you would ever tell you to seek therapy. People who could care less just stare and walk away. Peanut, I truly did not mean it in a bad way. I can just see a hurt little girl inside you.
Well guys I went to bed early last night and imagine my surprise when I got up and found 32 hits on this topic. Peanut, I am so sorry. Please forget about the 1 negative poster and concentrate on the nice things everyone else said to you. No one has a perfect family.