I really want a dog! But I don't know what my parents will say! I have written a big long essay covering most of their original questions. How should I present it to them? Also, could someone ask me some questions so that I can practice getting some good answers?
I need advice bad. I want to ask my parents soon. I am 13 years old. I had a puppy once before, but she was too much for me. She was really big back then. Also, I was only about 10 and I wasn't ready for a puppy back then. I think I am ready now, though!
Well, I'd start by asking yourself (and then answering for you AND your parents)....What makes you think you are ready now? Do you go to school? If so, who will take care of your puppy while you're at school? What will you do when you have a lot of homework after school? What will you do on weekends when you want to be spending lots of time with friends, but your puppy is wanting your time too? What happens to your puppy when/if you go off to college? If you're already thirteen, then it is likely that your dog will still be alive when you're heading to college and that's important to figure out. Those are just some questions I would personally ask. Good luck with it and let us know if/when you get a puppy!!!
30 Years ago (God was I every young), when I got my first dog my mom was against it. She was afraid that she would end up with all of the work. In the end, I signed a contract with my parents laying out exactly what my responsibility was. If I did not live up to the contract, I lost my allowance for the week and the dog would sleep in my brother's room...not mine. Maybe you could do something similar with your parents...just make sure that part of the contract is not getting rid of th dog, they are forever part of the family once you get one.
I would be careful about pushing your parents into getting a dog if the family doesn't want one. My 20 year old sister in-law's cat died recently (he was 16), and she got another cat against her mother's wishes (my sis-in-law still lives at home). And guess who takes care of it? My mother-in-law! She never wanted a kitten and the 20 year old goes out alot and works and goes to school part time. The kitten is starting to get "fresh" with the scratching and bitting because it doesn't get enough attention.
I know you will probably love the puppy, but in a few years you will have more exciting things to do than sit at home and love/care for a dog. It is a natural time in life to be away from home. You may get a job, date, go to college....whatever....but your family will be the one to take care of the dog in the end.....if they don't want it, it may not be the best life for your dog.
So, ask yourself a few questions before your parents start asking.
30 years ago (God how can I be this old)...when I got my first dog, my mother had me sign a contract that listed exactly what my responsibilities were. If I didn't fulfill the contract, I lost my allowance for the week and the dog slept in my brother's bed instead of mine. Maybe you could agree to something similar with your parents, it would show your commitment to be responsible.
_My_Puppy_Coco_ a dog I thnk you should get is a Corgi they are such nice animals get a male though(females seem to be more agressive, but the males are perfect)I had one when I was growing up they are easy to take care of the dont get to big and they have a great nature - read up about them I had a Pembroke Corgi, This dog would give you such memories, they are very intelligent...and great companions they dont need alot of exersize but they can exersize alot if you want to...you should really consider this dog.... whatever dog you choose do research it will impress your parents print out all the info info you find about it then your parent will see how serious you are it will work 100% of the time G/L
Why don't you ask to volunteer at your local shelter. This way you can show your parents how responsible you are. Plus you could help out dogs who don't have anyone else. I did it when i was your age. it was the best thing I have eve done. You will have alot of puppies & dogs who love you. they will look forward to your visit every time just like your own dog would.
1. In canswer to Shaunna Michelle: No, I don't go to school, fortunately. I am homeschooled. So that will make it easier for now. I do not know what will happen when I got to college, but that's, like, 5 years from now or something. And a job, the puppy will be in his/her cage and Mom doesn't work, so she would take care of the puppy for only that time of the day. Or I would get a job at some animal place and take my own puppy there and just put her in one of the pens. I'm planning on getting a job at some pet place, anyway. I LOVE ANIMALS!!! I will tell you if/when I get a puppy!
2. In answer to cooldot: Thank you for the suggestions! I'll write them down and my answers to them! Thanks!
3. In answer to dobielover1: I like the contract Idea! Thanks!
4. In answer to Mom of 2 Dogs: I will love the puppy. It is true that I will do different things. But that is in a few years. I am only 13 now, though. I'll write down your questions, too, and my answers! Thanks!
***Edited By: _My_Puppy_Coco_ on 11/12/2005 12:38:45 PM*** Reason: messed it up
At thirteen 5 years from now if a looong time. I have three children, my oldest is 16 1/2 (boy) a daughter 14 and a son 10.....that said...."I" am the one that most of the responsibilty falls on as far as the pups go. My daughter is very good and will, for the most part help, but she's BUSY. So my advice is for you to sit down and make sure you undestand the commitment. You're reaching an age where your life is going to change hugely, you'll want to "go to a movie" with your friends, go to the mall, SLEEP over a friends. Things a dog cant do with. I think if you really want a dog, you need to approach this to your FAMILY, not "i want" "for me" but more "I think WE" beause it will be a family commitment. When we added Baxter and then Sampson, my kids all wanted big dogs, but my husband and I realized that these are the dogs they'll be leaving us with! so we went with small breeds. So that's my advice, approach them with reasons why adding a new family member would be beneficial. I wouldn't try to say you'll do it all, because that's just not trealistic knowing how a 13 and ups lives are
In answer to alldogslover!: Yes, I guess I didn't phrase it correctly. I realize that I will be going to College in a few years! What I meant was, that is a LONG time from now! I am homeschooled, so I can take care of the puppy! Plus, going to college is not something I have to do right after I get out of highschool! So I would be able to wait until the dog got old. And whether or not I'm ready is for my parents to decide.
In answer to Kristen: Thank you for the advice. I'll remember it when I ask them. Also, I don't have to worry about "going to a movie" with my friends, or "going to the mall" with my friends. I'm not allowed to do that. If I was, I still wouldn't. I am a MAJOR animal lover, especially dogs, and I am willing to give up EVERYTHING for one! Including the computer, which, for me is a lot, because I have been completely obsessed with it for the past couple years. You are right that I cannot do ALL of the work, but I would be doing MOST of it.
I still believe 13 is a questionable time for a puppy. I have a 14 yr old son, which has grown up with animals (we have been raising and showing since back to my grandfathers day) after many years of asking, and showing our dogs with us, we finally decided to get him his show dog he had always wanted. He did very well with her at first (got her last year) now he will play with her, but needs prompted cinstantly to let her out, clean up after her, excercise her, etc. Though he does do well working with her on show training/practice without being told much. But considering his background, he already knew what was involved and the responsibility involved. Most kids dont have a complete grasp of the time/training/dedication it takes, heck I know alot of adults that didnt think it through before getting a dog. If the parents are leaning towards no dog, i would try to respect that decision, as they will be ultimately responsible for what happens with her.