Hello all. Most of you know me,some don't. I just want to ask that all of you keep good thoughts and/or prayers for myself,my children and the animals for a while.
I may not come back on here for a day or so,at least,but wanted to talk to someone,and no one I guess....
I'm in an abusive marriage. Tonight was the last straw. He hit me several times in the face,choked me,threw things at the back of my head,pushed me with brute force among other things...physically,verbally,mentally and emotionally. I have heart conditions,epilepsy,and he knows these things,but obviously doesn't care. I can't see much to type,and my chest is hurting,out of breath. I'm going to sign order of protection against him in the morning. Keep us in your thoughts. This will be hard since we don't own our home,money is gonna be more than tight. Keep my five kids in your thoughts most of all,please!! I'm so sad....
First of all, I must commend you for not striking a mighty blow right back into his face.. as I know I would have. Nobody deserves to be abused in any state.. physically, emotionally.. none.
Second of all, money is not everything.. take your kids and get out. You'd be alot happier living on the streets, instead of living in fear for your life.
You are a very brave woman, and my thoughts are with you. This boy is a pathetic excuse for a man, and deserves this thrown back at him 10 fold. I hope someday somebody does to him.. what he has done to you and your children.
If this were me, I would call the cops.. and shortly after, call a family member. Pack your children/animals up.. and have your family member, or friend.. pick you up.
Lina, OMG, hugs to you honey!!! I have experience in this myself. Let me say you are brave for standing up to him and doing whats right by getting your kids away from him! Most important, stay strong and don't back down, you dont deserve this!!! Update us when you and your kids will be in my thoughts and prayers!
Good for you Linda - get out of there and STAY out! Your children do not need to see this kind of behaviour! As for yourself, no person (male or female) deserves to be abused. You didn't ask for it and you're not weak or a bad person. RUN! My thoughts will be with you and your children. It may be tough out there, but hey, I'd settle for tough times any day but will never submit to abuse. Get a hospital report on your injuries, lay a criminal charge against him and hopefully he will be permanently removed from your lives. You go Girl!
Oh Linda I am so sorry . I wish I could help you . I know that the womens shelter in Ft Worth Texas will come get women and children no matter what time it is and they will take them to a safe place .They have apartments for each family and they send the women to job training , college or whatever and make sure that they get child support and what ever else they need and help them until they can take care of themselves.
I know you family is large and I dont know their ages but You can do it. The first step out the door is the most scary .After that you will be free. Do you have a plan other than the protective order.
Did you go the the hospital . It sounds like you need to .Call the police that way they will take him away at least for the night. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children.
I can't sleep. I had to come back and see if anyone was up to listen to me. Thank you for being here for me,all of you!
The first thing I did was call 911,and although he tried to force the phone from me,I kept it connected to the operator. The Sargeant(sp)made out an warrant on him and took him to jail. He will be kept for 10 hours since he was drinking as well. This doesn't have me in a good feeling because my best friends husband was taken in too,for a 10 hour "holding" since he too was drinking on another ocassion(not tonight),but he came back home a few(literally)hours later. The only difference between her and me,is that her hubby still had a house key.....my mom went down to the station and got his keys from the intake officer,so,I have my house keys,thankfully!
My mom was actually called after the police were on their way,by my husband,with him trying to lie to her saying that I started crap with him....she knows better! Anyway,in the morning,I have to go to the haven of hope and sign the order of protection against him,then our court date will be the 28th(?),next Monday the officer said. I will have all the necessary documentations with me on that court date and will ask that the kids,house and all possessions remain in my custody/care. I will also file for divorce.
I own my own company,although my income is very minimal,simply because I haven't had enough time or money to "grow" it larger right now. I will though. Things will take time,and I will do whatever I have to do in order to protect my children and myself.
I've checked all of the windows...they are now all locked! The doors are locked,including the dead bolts. I don't have anything for protection(don't believe in having guns and such in my house since I have children....don't want any accidents to happen,no matter how carefull one can be,things still happen and I'm not going to chance something like that ever happening to my family).
Sorry for mis-spellings and such. I've now had a migrain,still crying,had a nitro(for my heart),and am worried sick to death.....no sleep for me I guess. My chest is still hurting,but at least I don't feel as though I need to go to the emergency room just yet.
I'll stay strong...and update as the day goes on.
My kids are 14,9,6,5(Yesterday was her Birthday),and 3.
Just keep them in your thoughts. They have had a hard time with their dad abusing me. I want them out of this situation,that's why I called the cops,and will make sure til my death(which hubby has threatened several times,even in front of my children,not too long ago)that he never hurts any of us again!
I called them,the officer said that even if he bonds out,he is on hold until 11:36 AM and CAN'T leave until then,at all. I have to get to the Haven of Hope at 8:00(first thing!)and tell them that he's in jail until that particular time and they will put a rush on the order of protection and serve him immediately before he can get out of jail.
I'm just so scared! I know this will pass eventually,but right now I'm trying to keep a level head and do what needs to be done,all at the same time of being scared to death of what will come.
This advise probably comes late for you to take it, but I would pack your things and take the children to a hotel, hospital, shelter for the night. If he is drunk and irate, you could be in real danger. The hospital will call the shelter for you. They're locations are very well hidden, so that abusers cannot find them. Stay there as long as you need to.
My prayers are with you and your children. Bless you for finally having the courage to leave. You must be terrified. Stay strong.
Linda, my heart, thought and prayers go out to you and your children and the untold number of women and children living under the same terror as you. Honey, you did the right things in calling the law on him.
You are doing the right thing in getting an order of protection as well. I have to agree with Layla though, while the arrest and anger are still "fresh" you would be best NOT staying in the marital home.
The thought of a shelter now, on Thanksgiving, the day after your child's birthday is hard, but you would all be far safer there. It is a sad fact, but abusers don't change over night (if at all).
Please be careful, honey. Take care of yourself and understand that if you waiver, thinking it's best for your children, it isn't. I speak as an adult who lived in a home with an abusive step-father. He never hit me, but I well remember the terror and the beatings my mother took and I was a "mature" 4 year old.
Here is a link to a wonderful site, with others who have experienced the same pain you are dealing with. Perhaps it will help some by offering you some badly needed support,
i dont even know what to say but i wanted you to know i will be thinking of you and your kids today and hoping things go well for you. you are doing a very brave thing by getting out of that situation. keep the strenght you have ..... we are here for you .
I will pray for you and your children over the coming days. Working with women and children in your situation is what I have done for many years. After you are feeling like you are in a safe situation, please get yourself and your children into counseling. The kids may seem like they are going along ok, but then fears and anger may creep in and effect their functioning...counseling now will help them deal with the myriad of emotions that they will be feeling. Best of luck to you, stay strong and stay safe.
Linda...I am so sorry to hear of ypur problems...but your on the right track...remember you have friends here and do what you can to keep your self and family safe...My heart felt prayers are sent your way...keep us posted please...
Linda, Our thoughts & prayers are w/you & the children. Please let us know as soon as you can, how YOU are, wish I could reach through this & give you a big HUG & tell you everything will be allright. If you go forward it WILL get better, for you & your children. None of you deserve this, & children have a way of thinking they did something wrong when Mom & Dad have problems. Please assure them that they did NOTHING, & that no one deserves to be treated this way, (thats why you need to leave to show them this). We dont want them to grow up thinking its O.K. for anyone to treat them this way. But first make sure you take care of YOU, so that way you have enough of "You" to go around for the children. Hope you all are Safe & Sound for now, I know its hard, but there is a New Year, & hopefully a New Life coming for you & your children......Hold your Head High & be Proud you can do this for your family. Our prayers & thoughts go with you. Hugs....
You are doing the right thing....sorry that you have to do it....but it is the right thing. Your kids will thank you for it in the future. Keep their health and happiness in the front of your mind to give you strength through this. Money does not matter, you and your children's physical and mental wellbeing is what is important.
My thoughts and prayers are with you! Keep Strong!
Linda, I'm sitting here in my office reading this and can't stop the tears. My heart goes out to you and your children. I wish I could say or do something to relief some of your pain. No one deserves what you're going through. Be strong for you and especially for your kids who need you so much. Keeping your sanity and health are the most important things right now. Avoid any contact with that monster and please don't give him the opprtunity to sweet talk himself back into your life. You've taken a big step forward so don't look back. Keep the faith, God is by your side.
I'm not sure what part of the country you're in but if there is ANYTHING you need for you or your children, please do not hesitate to contact me. My e-mail address is *****. It would bring me great joy to help you in any way possible.
Have a peaceful Thanksgiving. I will light a candle for you and your family.
***Edited By: max&luigismom on 12/7/2005 9:31:45 AM*** Reason: delete