Ok,my neighbor was bringing me some....uh,let's say "technical devices" for reasons that you all know about.
As she went to leave,she got into her car,cranked it,and then went to shut her door when a man dressed all in black,including a hood jumped up from between her car and my van and ran off across the road. We all know who this "man" is!!!
Anyway,she ran back to my door,banging on it(I locked it AS SOON as she went out it),we let her back in,she told me about what had just happened and I called the cops. Cops took forever to get there(well over 30 minutes...prob closer to 45).....I called my mom immediately after hanging up with the cops and she and my uncle came right over. Cops get there,can't find him,they leave eventually. Afterwards,we were packing up to leave as the officers demanded(NOT suggested!)and my mom was outside alone with the girls,putting them into her car(carseats). I was coming out the door when my mom was on her way up to it,she pulls me by the arm and says"He's right across the road,be quiet and stay here with the girls".......she walks across the road,and he of course is hiding in the shadows. The cops come back down the road,we are frantic and waving them down,they stop of course,my neighbor then sees him again across the road,cops get out running,chasing him into the woods....can't get him :(
His friend is helping him try to kill me. I know this,because a certain person told me that he said NOT to let me know,but that he has a key(I believe I've already mentioned that part to you),but also he said he was going to use the key to come into my house and kill me very soon.
I'm on the ball with the other county to make sure they pick him up on the warrant.
He was just going to wait,apparently,until the cops left and kill me in front of my kids.........the cops know now that they are dealing with a criminal.....they stated such. They stated that his intent is to kill as well. Also,remember the other night(night before last)when we heard the door and that truck coming past my house?? Well,the cop lastnight said that they in fact passed them that night,but didn't know it was def. them because they had a report of a "smaller" truck from my mom,and a report of a "full sized" truck from my son.....my son could see it a lot better than my mom could out in her driveway compared to my sons view of it on the street passing our house.
Hugs to all!
I don't know what will happen,but at least I'm alive and my kids didn't have to see me died lastnight. Another morning of life.....for all of us!
Linda contact a shelter or something. Stay with relatives. If you stay in your house at least get an alarm system. You can have a control on your key chain and you can hit the panic button and the cops will come. Get a system with an outdoor syren so your neighbors can hear it too. I would definitely call a shelter. If he does come in your house, don't be afraid to protect yourself (it's not illegal).
SD,I'm not at my house. Thank you for giving me advice for the systems. I'll need to contact companies and find out what that costs. I'm not going back home until they arrest him. I don't want my children to have to live a life of pain from what would have happened lastnight if we hadn't left. He was just waiting,biding his time until he could sneak back over and do what he intended to do...kill me.
Thank you SD,for being here for me. I'm completely freaked. I'm going to sign off now though. I have things that need to be done.....can't say any more....don't want him possibly getting info on me and my movements.
Linda, Do not go back home till they catch him. An alarm system will call the cops, but by the time they get to your house it could be to late. Please stay wilth relatives. Do you have any that he doesn't know where they live? I would be afraid to walk out the door if he's that dangerous. Please be careful and keep the kids close.
Your situation is sounding so much like mine did..He is getting more and more desparate. My abuser was killed in December. And he too was gettig worse and worse.Like I told you before I knew it was me or him. Please grow eyes in the back of your head.YOU never know when he will be out there just watching and waiting and it seemed like the cops didnt matter to my abuser.
Oh my gosh........Linda.... this is sooooooo scary!! I am so sorry that you are going thru this, I pray for your safety, and that of your family. I pray the cops catch this man asap....so you can rest a little easier. Poor Linda, I am sooooooo sorry. :( (sending hugs)
Linda, I have not posted on your posts before form not knowing what to say and maybe saying somehting that would hurt your feelings. But with this topic I really wanted to post. I'm very sorry for what has happened to you.My mom worked in a shelter for women and I volunteered (too young ot get payed) We had about 45 women in there and they were all so happy to be away from the abuser.It was a very safe place for them and yet they did get enough freedom that they wnated.It breaks my heart too see women go through this and i hope I never get in that situation. PlZ kepe us updated and I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
I really like gunny's idea....much less social dogs...yeah!
I also think that Red is right on this one. Staying with relatives probably isn't safe either. Afterall, he was your husband and knows these people too. I would get you and your kids to a shelter accustomed to dealing with this immediately.
Make sure every move he's made toward you and your kids is reported. Make sure it's documented that you feel threatened and unsafe. Then go buy a gun. I know that most people probably don't agree...but if he's gonna try and kill you and he gets close enough...it'll be you or him. I'd personally rather it be him...but I'm partial as you are my friend!
I married a man that beat me and on several occasions put his hands around my throat and choked me until I passed out. One day he was coming home with a gun. Officers arrested him outside. He told them he was coming to kill me. Turns out he had killed his ex-fiance AND her 18-month old son 13 months before (3 months before I met him). He's now in jail forever...but it was scary.
Take care. Be safe. Keep in touch so we know how you are.
*hugs* to you and your kids. I hope they catch the b*&%$# soon! I agree, that staying with relatives will generally feel more comfortable and safe for you and the kids, but is not the best idea. Not only does he know where your relatives live, but puts them in danger as well. Maybe they can find you a shelter type place for you. Many hide away and protect the woman and children with all they have trying to protect you. Good luck, my thoughts are with you.!!!!!!!!!!!
***Edited By: lpn169 on 12/14/2005 1:43:16 PM*** Reason: sp
I actually considered a "non-social" dog. I don't have a fenced in yard to keep her/him contained when not inside though :( I don't believe in keeping a dog outside....but I also have to think about the kids and their safety too.....how in the world would that work?!? ....but,it has crossed my mind seriously!!!
They picked him up on the warrant for violating the OOP. Our new court date is the 19th now.
I don't know if he'll get bonded out or what. I'll keep you posted.
non-socials generally bond with their family and wont allow outsiders to intervene.... we had a st bernard mix that would let the kids lay on her and tug on her, but no one best try to enter the house without my ok.