Hi everyone! I have not written in forever and I am sorry. I was just spending to much time on here (which you can relate to lol) so I had to take a break. Something happened yesterday and I need support!
As some of you know my husbandís family believes that big dogs should be kept outside on a leash with a dog house 24/7. They have a St. Bernard. I have a GSD who is 85lbs. They came to visit for the weekend and spent the night. I was wondering why they were only going in part of my house, and not the full area (since half I used to not let the dogs in, but now they are everywhere in the house lol) they said oh we just like it better in this room. Well come to pass we were all talking on the phone because of a really rude e-mail my husband got from his family complaining about our dog! They say that we have no right to have our GSD in the house that he is to big and should be an outside dog. That they don't appreciate staying here and having to bring a blow up mattress for their other son to sleep on since he can't sleep in the family room where the pull out couch is because there is to much dog hair and he is allergic. They say that room is disgusting filled with dog hair and it is wrong. I was like whatever! My dogs do live in the house. It is a family room for my family! My dogs are my family! My GSD even sits in our recliner and reclines and looks out the window watching the birds and stuff. Well I was offended, and I just wanted to know if telling them that they don't know how to take care of an animal was right? They have one dog outside 24/7 and the dog that lives inside is teased all day long by their bratty son, and the only time he gets his nails clipped is when I visit! When I first came to their house their dogís nails were so bad they were curved under digging into his pads! I asked why they don't cut them they say it is natural that way. UGH whatever! They also donít give him shots or heart preventative stuff. So what should I do? I am not going to have my dog live outside just because they don't like dog hair. The home feels more like a home when you have some of your kidís hair on you lol! HELP! More or less just venting and hoping I am not crazy for standing up for my dog!
You have the perfect reason why the in-laws can never visit!
Take advantage!!!!! I'd be saving up the dog hair and spreading it on the walls with peanut butter to keep them out of my house. LOL.
Sorry, I know it is frustrating to you, that is very rude of them. Is this an ongoing battle between you guys? Arguing about how you care for dogs? Because if this is ongoing, then perhaps lay off a bit on how they are horrible dog owners. I mean, obviously they are, but you have to agree to disagree or sever relationships. You know?
***Edited By: kdubbs27 on 3/31/2006 12:39:24 PM*** Reason: edit
Ok I hope sams club sells bulk peanut butter lol! I never got to tell them that I feel their dogs are mistreated other than the one that is outside I just said that is not right, but that was all. They just out of nowhere went off, and we have had the dogs for 3 years and now they just say something. Yea I would rather have them not come here because I love my dogs and the hair they leave me to clean up. I would not trade it for anything in the world!
the bottom line is this : ITS YOUR HOUSE ! if they do not like what goes on in your house, they have the option not to visit. my dogs are also indoors. they are a part of my family. when human family comes to visit, they know in advance not to complain about my dogs or they get told. this is my dogs house as well as mine. its funny how they can tell you what to do with your dogs, yet they keep their own outside 24/7.
***Edited By: dusty082155 on 3/31/2006 12:45:15 PM*** Reason: add
They can bite you and not come over. I told my brother he was not welcome in my home with his child as long as he had issue about my dogs.
I confine my dogs when people are over, but I dislike people who feel that my houst must be disgisting. They can screw off and not visit.
They may be your husbands family but they have ZERO right to dictate how your house goes. They certainly can not tell you to kick your dog outside becuase that is what they feel is right.
My father was told that he could come visit but he needed to shut up and deal. I'm not intersted in hearing his opinions on how many dogs I have or how my house is set up or the choices I have made to make my life easier (zero carpet, no rugs, etc).
Um, they need to SHUT UP! If they don't like it they don't have to come and visit. I am SO insulted that they would even say that to you. Just b/c you are a good pet owner and they are HORRIBLE is no reason to be rude to you. I'd understand if your dog was misbehaving and jumping all over them and they asked you in a mature manner if you wouldn't mind to put up a baby gate or something while they were over. But.... ITS YOUR HOUSE! tell them to KISS YOUR Dog Hair fulled couch! haha! Just b/c your dog is more well behaved than their son is no reason to be rude!!! haha! I think everyone will agree that they can just shove it! I'd be SO pissed if I were you! Quite frankly I think I'm mad enough for you too.... I guess this just means that you don't have to see the nasty in-laws more than you'd like! I'm with you all the way, I hope your hubbie is supporting you too.... I'd ask if you could have thier dog that they never care for. A dog just living outside is no way to live.... I can see that you have tried to educate them but I guess if people don't want to listen there is nothing you can do but keep trying! Don't worry we got your back on this one!
It takes a lot of nerve for them to tell you how to live so they are happy when they visit. Tell them there are plenty of hotels to stay in when they visit if they are that offended. I would offer to clean the house thoroughly and try to get up most of the hair before they arrive and give them one room without the dog (i.e., their bedroom). If that is not acceptable, they don't need to stay with you.
I would also send them some info on what they are doing wrong by leaving their dogs out 24/7. I hope they let their dogs off the leash to play and give their dogs walks. Also, how bad it is to not do heartworm preventative and give shots. After all, they started it by telling you what to do with your dog.
Of course, a lot of what you will do depends on how your husband feels. I would personally not be happy to have them staying with me after being so rude.
Good luck! Hope you feel better after your venting.
oh boy...what a delema..what does your hubby say? basically it is his place to tell them to back off..and if you dont like it dont come..dog hair or not..they dont pay your bills..they can in no way dictate to you what you do or dont do..I say it is hubbys call because if you do it..then you will be the bad guy in their eyes..and dispite it all..it is family and your paths will inevidably cross...so..thats my opinion ( i have inlaws too...lol)..they would just crap at my house..i have several in the house and I have shepherds too..and yes..there is hair..cant get around it...they are not poodles...so..there will be shedding..so what..i bet the little boy they have makes more messes then your one shepherd...i know that your slighted and offended...but take it for what its worth.some people are plain ignorant...hence their opion on big dogs belong outside...just wait..it gets better..I dont know if you have any children...but if not yet..just look what you have to look farward to...they will find tons to say about how you rear your children too...so..best Hubby puts these issues to bed before real problems happen...best of luck to you...
I hope I can remember all the questions. No I don't have children, but when that day comes oh gosh my house will be a tornado lol! I put my dog in a crate when they are here and he cries to come out and they even say let him out I feel bad for him. They stay in one room and I have two baby gates up so my GSD can't get to them. I just put them up with out attaching them so you can easily move them without falling over them. They wonder how he is so well behaved to not knock it down since it is not attached. He just listens good. I clean the house a full day before they come and I really really clean! If I don't have the day off I take half one day and half the next before they show up. I offer to put down sheets on the couches and all. One part of my house the dogs don't really go in, but that is where my computer is. They end up waiting patiently by the gate so now I just let them in (I have a chihuahua too) the chi is on my lap now sleeping and the GSD is on the floor laying next to my feet. Yea I never brought up their dogs all we mentioned was something that got ruined by their daughter and they went off about the dogs and other stuff. That is why I mentioned to them how horrible it is to leave the dog outside all the time. My husband is 100% total kick tooshie butt on my side! He is so mad at them for not caring about his opinion. They even said I don't want to talk to you I want to talk to my son, and he was like this is our house and she has every right to talk about it! These are our dogs and we do not leave them out in the cold! Yea go hubby! I am really hurt though, and so is he because they had no respect for what he was saying which upset him since it is our home and we respect their rules in their home.
Wow. I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one with this problem. My husband's father has such a problem with all of our animals (3 cats and now 3 Newfs) that he has been told that if he doesn't like it, don't come over. Everytimes he comes over, he makes a huge deal about how the animals are destroying our house (they're not), how we built this house for us to live in, not the animals, our furniture is disgusting (he will actually go around and pick fur off the couch, collect it in a ball abd show it to us), our guest bathroom is gross because the cats like to lay in the tub, the dogs are gross because they slobber and sit at our feet when we eat at the table, the list goes on and on. One day, he even got in my cleaning closet and started cleaning my family room because he said it was filthy because of the animals, and the fur was causing his allergies to act up. That was the last straw! He also does this at my sister-in-law's house (his daughter). I gave him some Benedryl and my husband told him that if he didn't like the way we lived, then he didn't have to come visit because what we do in our house is our buisness. It has helped some, but we still get some crap for it. Bleah! Some people just don't understand. Hang in there, and don't back down!
***Edited By: Newfie_girl on 3/31/2006 2:27:35 PM*** Reason: sp
lol! Yea I think I will take the fur and dump it in their house. That made me laugh thanks I needed that! maybe I should take the fur that comes off the dogs and make a coat out of it. I could market it and call it the instant in law repelent! lol!
Yea not glad, but sorta am to hear that I am not the only one, but sucks that people actually think because they are your husbands parents they can come in and change the way you live.
Hi, Holidayzbliss... Welcome back I wouldn't say anything to them dont even comment on the matter. they already type your husband a nasty e-mail which seems to me theyr'e trying to get you two argueing. leave it along b/c rember one thing honey, those are his people regardless what they say to him. If they come over again fine.. If they dont then thats fine too. Dont you worry your pretty little head off about some goff balls whose trying to start something in your home Mom always told me ..she said honey silence is golden.& When a person see they cant get to you they do what? MOVE ON.... Boy! do I miss my mom.
My family can't stand that my dogs are inside dogs (collie mix and a chow/lab). My mother and father are always saying "I couldn't stand to have big dogs in the house." And I just tell them, "glad it is not your house!" I also tell them the reason I have the dogs inside is to ensure they won't come stay for too long! The funny thing is they let me bring them to their house for the weekend and the dogs stay inside. I would tell your in-laws, "I'm sorry, but that the way it is in our house."
next time give them the number to a hotel before they come to visit. I used to have a cute framed poem that siad something about my dog live here you don;t,I wouldn't lock you in a room so don't ask me to do it to my dog.
Who cares what they think, like you say, the dog is part of your family too. If they have to stay at a hotel when they visit, so be it. If the kid is allergic to dogs, even the dog being outside would still bother him. Dog's are meant to be loved and babied just like a real baby or family member. (any pet for that matter) If you're gonna have one you're gonna have one whole-heartedly!!
I agree with them all....if they dont like it, dont visit, plain and simple!
As I have printed before, this is the sign hung clearly on my front door:
"This house is maintained for the comfort and security of my dogs...... If you can not accept that, then you can not accept me, so GO AWAY"
(I even have a friend that calls me on the phone, and will complain about the noise in the background if the dogs bark...she says its annoying and she cant stand it....so I told her dont call me then....She hasn't..lmao)
My mom was one that never liked dogs in the house. While my dad was in the hospital I spent the night over at their house because it was so far back and forth from ours. I had took Mandy with me. While she didn't really like it Mandy stayed in the house. That nite Mandy crawled up in the bed with us. I was sleeping with my mom, and the next morning I woke up and heard her laughing. I turned over to see Mandy laying on her back, all four feet up in the air and snozing up a storm, laying between us. My mom never said anything else about her being in the house. She grew to love all 3 of them as much as we do.