I would make a call to the humane society and tell them about the dog who stays chained up outside 24/7, has nails digging in his paws, and whatever else they are doing wrong with their dog. Anyone who would get a dog and sentence it to a lifetime on a chain should be chained up outside themself (inlaws or not)! Aghhhhh.....makes my blood boil!
The way I see it they have the problem not you. Just let them deal with. You are adults and not children. Life is to short for you to worry about it. Next time tell them they need to sleep on floor it is really the dogs bed and they don't wish to give it up.
Send a letter, sorry you didn't enjoy your stay. We are always so glad to see you, and wished you could have had a better time. I would hate for you to feel like you can't come visit because you find it so uncomfortable in my home. So I've sent along the names of several local hotels, motels that you might find more to your liking for your next visit. Looking forward to seeing you again.
My parents think all dogs should be outside. (My dad's worse than mom though) As soon as the guy we bought our house from brings the key to us, I have a list of rules that will be posted on our door. #1 is
"My dogs live here you do not. If you do not understand my dogs live here as part of the family or do not like my dogs do not come in."
I agree with LuvsTalMen... let them stay in a hotel. Also, it doesn't matter if you had your dogs for 3 years or 3 days, it is your house, if they don't like it, they don't have to come over.
I have a cousin who is deathly allergic to cats & at the time I had 3... I tried to make things accomadating for him, he never complained although he did suffer through the night, but he took his medications & he survived but he has never been back to visit & stay the night even though I only have 2 cats now. Unfortunate though cause we all really like his company. We just visit him at my mothers house (who has 1 cat).
Also, my oldest son has a friend that is allergic to cats & my son will freak out if the cats go around his friend & I told him plainly that the cats live here, he doesn't so if he wants to visit, he has to learn how to deal with it or only stay for a short period of time... I am not locking my cats into a room for the day or night just to please someone who doesn't even acknowledge me with a "hi" when he walks into my house.
Good luck, I hope that it doesn't put a strain on you & your husband.
I totally feel for you!!! I have an aunt and uncle that come to visit a couple of times a year. They give little to no notice, don't really care if we have time to entertain or it's convenient, and act like we're the Holiday Inn (expect meals cooked, for my parents to give up their room so they have their own bathroom, they don't help make dinner, or clean up, etc...). What really drives my Mom batty is that they REFUSE to take their shoes off in her house (carpets are shampooed once a week here, vacuumed daily, floors washed at least once a day, furniture vacuumed 3 times a week - my Mom is a clean fanatic). Their reasoning is that the dogs walk in the house and don't take their paws off... (though they do get their feet wiped at the door...) Yet they bring their little maltese (who is NOT well cared for, constantly matted, and a is the most ill mannered dog I have every met) and allow him to urinate in my Mom's house and don't even attempt to clean it up. BUT when we visit them, we're not allowed to wear our shoes in their house.
All around it irks my parents because whenever they visit we have to totally shuffle the dogs so they can't sleep where they normally do. My aunt & uncle are coming for Easter (let us know 2 days ago...) and didn't even ask if we had room for them. My parents house is good sized (3 bedroom, 2 bathroom) and mine is decent sized (2 bedroom, 1 bathroom, living room, and our puppy nursery), but all 4 of my siblings will be home - two are coming with boyfriend/girlfriend and one is bringing a friend home from college (may I add - all of which have no problem with the dogs and actually get excited to visit them - in fact my brother and his girlfriend graduate from college in May and have dibs on 2 dogs we're planning on retiring from breeding :). So the Holiday Inn is already booked... Yet we now have to find room for my Aunt, Uncle, & cousin...
I had a busy weekend! Wrote them a letter told them how I felt. It was really strange because they told me this last weekend that if we ever went on vacation they would love to watch our dogs! What were they going to keep them in the house till we pulled away then throw them outside?
I know they have 1 dog in the house, and their son is fine, what is it with my dog? I think they are just trying to think of some excuse. I don't mind because now they don't have to come in our home yea!
I agree with abbylynne I go through the same crap they never tell us till a couple days before that they are coming over. Then I have to wait on them hand and foot, and they are so dirty in my home. We clean the home to the point where you could eat off the floor. By the time they leave I have to reclean it. It is nasty in two days! We agreed that they are no longer welcome in the house and that if they want to visit they need to get a hotel and then my husband can meet them to hang out. We have always been fair to them and treated them kindly. Which is why this hurts us so much.
They also said some other things about me, and it is total news to my husband and I, so for now I don't want to be anywhere near them! I think his mom is thinking of anything to complain esp when she see's me happy. I don't think she is ready to cut the cord if you know what I mean. My husband totally agrees so that makes me feel good that it is not us it is them.
I copied and pasted doxielovers, and lpn's signs. I am making one and hanging one on the back of my house, and one on the front so everyone knows how we feel! Thanks for giving me the idea!
A few months back, thelifeofriley posted this poem...
"I love my dog, this is his home. Its my hope that he will never roam. My faithful friend, he is the best. This is his home, you are the guest. If to you, he is a peeve, Then by all means, please feel free to leave."
added it to the rest! I now have a wood project! If I can't make a sign I will pay someone to do it, but I got this tool that cuts out words real nice, so maybe I can make my own sign and it will mean even more to me!
I think you are completely in the right here. My grandmother doesn't think my dogs should be inside because they are big, but they are my babies and there is no way they are living outside! I would ask her if she thinks her son should live outside, b/c your dog is your child and it is the same principle!
"Notice to People Who Visit My Home" Author Unknown
The dog lives here...you don't. If you don't want dog hair on your clothes, stay off the furniture. Yes, she/he has some disgusting habits. So do I and so do you. What's your point? OF COURSE she/he smells like a dog. It's her/his nature to try to sniff your crotch. Please feel free to sniff hers/his. I like her/him a lot better than I like most people. To you she/he's a dog. To me she/he's an adopted daughter/son, who is short, hairy, walks on all fours, and doesn't speak clearly. I have no problem with any of these things. Dogs are better than kids: they eat less, don't ask for money all the time, are easier to train, usually come when called, never drive your car, don't hang out with drug using friends, don't smoke or drink, don't worry about whether they have the latest fashions, don't wear your clothes, don't need a gazillion dollars for college, and if they get pregnant you can sell the pups."
I live with a nice nasty man..hence I bought a toy poodle for the house so I dont irritate him with dog hair. My mother - in -law I beleive has never touched dog fur in her whole life and she'll be the 1st to tell you if a cat hair lands on you it'll turn into a worm!LOL!
I just let it go in 1 ear & out the other! There too set in thier ways to change.I politely nod my head and go about my business or bluntly tell them to tell someone who cares, depending on my mood!LOL!I love everyone weather or not they love me back is thier problem! I'm sure if your dogs bothered them as much as they think it does they wouldnt use your home as a hotel.
I do have a family member that refuses to realize that his parents dont like dogs in thier house but he brings them and lets them put hair all over thier furniture and my poor elderly Aunt is so happy to see her son that she never complains, she just vaccumes her house after he leaves and sanitaizes everything.
So for her situation, shes on the other end of your dilema. As long as its your home dont worry about anyone elses point of view.Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you!