this lady that was interested in adopting Sammie. I usually screen the prospect adopter over the phone. Well, I ask this lady if she rented or owned and if she had small children in her household. She said she was renting an apt. which had no fence and that her roommate had a 3year old child. At that point I told her that we couldn't adopt Sammie to a household with small children. She then became angry and asked why. I told her that I was concerned that a child that young might handle him roughly and he could bite her. She said "If that dog is agreesive then Idon't want him! I tried to explain to her that Sammie was not agressive, that it was our choice to adopt him out to a household with NO small children to minimize any mishaps. She just didn't want to listen.
How could I approach this problem more tactfully so the inquiring person doesn't get angry?
Again this was brought up a few threads back but i dont think renting or owning a home should make any difference in the world . Why would it matter if some one rents or not? Its a home. I rent and right now renting works for us because we are young well early thirties and deciding on where we want to live permently. But there are so many ppl that want to take in dogs/cats but there are so many hoops to jump threw it seems, I guess i dont understand why some of the things matter, My neice comes over often and shes 3 and i never had any trouble at all with her torchering my pup some kids are good with pups some may not be but its something that they are taught, It seems ppl would want to get a dog that would grow up with their small children, as i had a pup growing up i dont think it was that hard to get a pup back then tho. jmo
"Again this was brought up a few threads back but i dont think renting or owning a home should make any difference in the world ."
The questions is not about renting(I had no problem with her renting) the issue was the 3 year old. I choose not to adopt to household with children younger than 12 just because I'm concerned about liability. I would hate to be involved in some litigation due to some child being biten by a dog after the minor mishandled him/her.
My questions is how can I word it so people don't feel offended/upset about it?
i don't know that there is a way to word it so people do not get offended. i think it would work much better for you if you , instead of making a broad rule, made a per dog rule. some dogs are excellent with kids of all ages, some do better with older kids, and some do better with no kids. instead of turning down a home based on the fact that there is a child it may be better to turn down a specific dog and point them towards a dog who would work much better in a home with kids.
kids in a home are pretty much a given. if you turn down everyone who has a kid you will be denying tons of potentially excellent homes for the dogs/cats/puppies/kittens.
as far as the renting thing goes. if it is ok with the landlord for the renter to have pets then renting shouldn't be an issue. but i would get it in writing that the landlord ok'd an animal. many people go and adopt animals and try to hide them from the landlord and once the landlord finds out the renter either has to get rid of the pet or they get evicted. does no one, especially the pet, any good to lie. but people lie all the time about it.
if you stated NO children in your ad and she still contacted you, then the problem is clearly hers. if she gets an attitude, then thats her problem, not yours. move along to the next and hope that they can at least read the letters N.O ! if they can not understand what no means, you could suggest they purchase a reading tutor instead of a dog.
Well, this is how the info for sammie reads on 1800saveapet which is from where this lady found out about him.
I don't know about letting people with small children adopt out these rescues. I guess I am kind of paranoid about lawsuits, working in the legal field I see people being sued left and right over little things.
Sammie's info... Breed: Miniature Poodle Size: Small 25 lbs (11 kg) or less Color: White
Sex: Male Age: Young
Sammie is: already neutered housetrained purebred good with kids good with dogs good with cats up to date with shots
Sammie's story... Samie is a mini white poodle and weighs 13#'s. He really is a WHITE poodle with no tearing of his eyes as most white poodles have. He is very, very sweet and a household with older children would be ideal. He loooves resting on the couch and preferable on someone's lap. He's a dog that you meet and you just want to take home.
your ad states that he is good with children and then below it says that a household with older children would be ideal. that does not say that he can NOT go to a home with smaller children. you will either have to change your wording in the ad, or make it allowable .
i raised six kids. all my kids were wonderful with animals from the time they were small. i was very firm on teaching them respect for animals. there are some parents that do not instill that in their children, but there are many that do. maybe you could make arrangements to meet with perspective owners in their home. if they have young children, you could see first hand how they interact with the dog. do follow up home checks to be sure that the dog is working out in his new home and being treated well. but ruling them out on the basis of children may not be a good idea. like scout said, most households have children, doesnt mean the dog wouldnt have a wonderful life with them. good luck
I agree, though, that you shouldn't adopt out a dog to a family with children under 5...unless the child's parent is very responsible and can teach the child how to handle a dog. Some children can be unintentionally rough with a small dog.
do you evaluate any of these dogs that you have before you adopt them out ? if you don't i think it would be something that would be a good idea. there are several versions of temperament tests out there for shelters and rescue people to use to evaluate dogs. also having these dogs in foster homes will help greatly in assessing their temperament.
Such strict restrictions on dog adoptions is what prompt a lot of people to resort to pet stores and such.
The large percentage of small dog adoptions are done by older people or Seniors. To state that a small dog is not good for, let's say children uder 5 yrs. would eliminate a lot of potential adopters because of Grandchildren.
A lot of people living in gated communities, condos, and townhomes don't have fenced in yards. They manage quite well with dogs. In fact, these dogs get more attention with more walks and play time than dogs that are turned out to a fenced yard alone.
A lot of people I've talked to say they would have preferred adoption of a pet but was put under such strict scrutiny that they just went and purchased from a store at the mall to avoid all the interrigation.
There are certain breeds that need a little more attention as far as adopting such as pit bulls for all the obvious reasons.
I'm glad your loosening your look on children and your rescues. I couldnt imagine my dogs not having my boys. So many times I scold my boys and Duke will stand between us to protect his boys. How many times Duchess will lick thier boo-boos and sleep in thier tents while camping. I dont think I could entertain my dogs as well as the boys do. They ride bikes with them , hide & seek and thier just plain ole friends.
i will find out for you the names of the tests. my mom works in a shelter and she is the one who does all the evals on the dogs that come in. she also is the dog trainer for the shelter and offers 1 free in home lesson and a free obedience lesson for all people who adopt from the shelter. helps them get the dog accustomed to their new home and also helps the new owners work through any initial problems they might encounter. if you know anyone who has a good background in dog training that might not be a bad idea for you to offer either.
Some people carry their feelings on their shoulders. Nowdays you almost have to draw a picture. Stick to your guns!!! There was nothing wrong with the way you told her. You could have worded it a gillion different ways and she still would have gotten offended. Sammie's future would be my most concerned.If they don't like what you have decided for him then so what.
That woman sounds rather rude, but I wouldn't get hung up on it. It sounds like she was having a bad day or something, I don't think anyone else would get so angry over something like that, any other person would just say "no thank you" unless you were snarling into the phone, "YOU HAVE KIDS AROUND?!?! GOOD BYE!!!!!" but i don't think so, lol. i would make your ad a bit more clear, though.
Since he is a breed that will do well with exercise "on leash", a fenced yard shouldn't be of too much importance.
Small children DO tend to make a mature dog who hasn't been socialized with them a bit nervous. Since he's a year old, I'd had to ask if he's used to smal, fast and sometimes rough little ones? If not, i agree that it might not be the best idea to home him with someone who has toddlers.
My 3 yr. old grandson has been raised around my dogs (and they with infants up), but I STILL have to remind him to stop when he gets in their faces and holds the sides of their jowels to "love them".
They're very patient, but this is NOT a habit he should have, especially if he is around another dog who might misunderstand that he's just being affectionate.
Clearly state on the ad that he is not socialized with small children, so needs a home with older kids.
Forget the rude lady. She was disappointed and took it out on you.