I currently have two litters of cavalier puppies and have always done my utmost to ensure that each and every one of those pups go to a loving and forever home.
I received expression of interest from a lady yesterday (via email) that she would very much like to acquire a puppy so I emailed her some photos of past puppies as these are too young and then I asked for her phone number; she subsequently emailed me her number on her next email and I called her; it turns out that she has 3 small children aged 1, 3 and 5 years of age. One child was screaming down the phone and I asked her whether she was sure she wanted to add a puppy in her current situation and she said that she has given this ample thought and really wants a pup....well her toddler was continuing to scream down the phone and she asked if I would give her a call later on. I admit that I didn't as I can't see her situation as being apt for a young pup, this woman would barely have time to scratch herself let alone look after a young pup...what do you think?
***Edited By: Ruby on 5/22/2006 11:36:50 PM*** Reason: sp
you may have just caught her at a bad time. anyone who has raised kids knows that they are not always the most cooperative when mom is on the phone.
i loathe when breeders or rescue people make generalized rules and dismiss anyone with kids under certain ages. i feel it is much better to judge each family individually and not make across the board rules.
go with your gut feelings. i am so glad i dont breed. i dont think i could ever be a hundred percent sure i made the right decisions.
I don't know a single 1,3, or 5 year old that wont take "Mommy's phone time" as the BEST OPPORTUNITY TO GET HER ATTENTION! My daughter is famous for being quiet and content UNTIL she see's momma grab the phone!
I also don't know a single 1,3, or 5 year old that doesn't "scream down the phone" once in a while.
As a breeder, I go with my gut feeling on choosing homes for our Newfie pups. Even though some people look great on paper when they fill out the questionnaire, when you talk to them either in person or on the phone, you just get a weird feeling like, "Uh-oh, this isn't going to work...". Maybe the kids were just in one of thier "Pay attention to me!" moods, where no matter what, they are going to be obnoxious...or maybe it was naptime, you never know. Case in point, I had a couple (no kids) that was interested in one of our pups from the last litter. Everything looked great on the questionnaire, but when I talked to the wife her response was, "Oh, this is my husband's little venture, you'll have to talk to him, I don't want a dog,". Well, after then talking with the husband and finding out that the pup would be kept in the garage when he was at work (12-16 hrs. 4 days a week) because the wife didn't want the dog in the house, nor did she want anything to do with it period, I had to tell him that one of our puppies couldn't go to his home. Instead, the pup went to a family of 4 with 2 girls, 10 and 4 years old, Dad works days, Mom works nights (3 times per week), and the yard is huge and fenced, so the pup almost always has someone to play with her, she is a part of the family, (not apart from the family), and is absolutely adored by those girls! Sorry so long, just had to explain.
Do you know someone that can do a home visit? Although I do rescue....no dog goes out of here until that is done...If this person lives far from you ..you can always contact a rescue group near by and they will usually help with that...The way my group does it is to take either a small dog or pup with and see how the family reacts....Being a mom and grandmother..even though small kids dont mean to a small pup can end up with broken bones if all are not properly supervised.
I think you did the right thing, after all you are the guardian of the pups right now, so it's your choice where they go. If you feel uncomfortable with a situation, and sell her a puppy all you will do is worry. I say always go with your gut feeling.
i have two 4 yr. olds and a 2 yr. old and we have a four month old puppy that we just got and he is spoiled just as much as my kids are. i have very well behaved children though. all parents dont teach their children to be good to animals though. i have a 5 yr. old neice that is a holy terror and i wouldnt give her an animal for nothing so each case is different. you probalby need to meet the whole family and call her several more times and make sure that she would be a good home for one of your pups. because just because she thinks she is ready doesnt mean her family will be able to handle all the responsibility of a puppy.
~Ruby~ Oh!... How I don't envy you at this moment! (LOL) From reading the posts listed... there's a lot of truth in what's being said.
I really would consider a house visit or meeting with the potential buyer concerned. After talking with her face to face you'll have a better opinion. Speaking as a Mum having three children of my own. Now ages 9, 10 and 11 yrs old. I remember well as I'm sure most do the routine of endless diaper changing and potty training.
If this woman is organized and can prioritize her time which means the puppy's schedule must be at the top as well! Then perhaps? With the ages of her children she has one in diapers and the other perhaps being potty trained. I must be honest in saying... you have every right to be cautious with your choice of placement.
Ruby, follow your mind. you did right ... my o/p hey when Iuseto go on jobs interview they did a background search so why not on people whos looking for a dog.nothing wrong with feeling the way you do if you feel uncomfortable about what you see or hear then do what you feel is right wouldnt want the lady calling back later on saying pupy bit the 1yr old and hubby sent him flying across the room. now would we?
I agree on the home visit. I have 3 children and we have always had dogs and my children were always taught to respect animals. However, I know some people with children that let their kids jump all over their cats and dogs. This is where the home visits come in. See how much control the parents have over their children, how well they keep their eyes on the children while talking with you. A child out of sight for even one minute can be trouble (especially with a puppy). As another post had said, all children have their moments and it could have been at that particular time when you were on the phone, the child may have been sick or hurt during her conversation with you.
You as a breeder have that right to choose who receives a puppy. I just have to say that you may have infact caught her at a really bad time and being the mother of a 2, 5 and 9 year old I know all too well that the phone is their signal to act like attention starved maniacs..lol We have 2 cavaliers 1 Silky Terrier , 1 Boxer and in 2 weeks a Siberian Husky, so It is a complete mad house around here, but my girls have been taught from the begining how to treat animals and They have been nothing but gentle with them and all of our doggies love the girls to death... Maybe you could have them come to see the puppies when they are old enough and see how they act with them.. if they are acting like a bunch of little demon spawn then I would def. say no.. Good Luck
Lmao I have to agree that maybe you did catch her at the wrong time, but maybe not. I was on the phone with a client the other day when the base went dead. I had to call the client back from the phone that was attached to the wall instead of the handheld. As soon as my kids noticed that I couldn't chase after them, or get close enough to keep them quiet all Heck broke loose! Makenzie stood just far enough away that I couldn't grab her, and screamed bloody murder, and Morgan decied to play fetch in the house with Kaycee. I ultimatly had to hang up, put the kids down for a nap and call her back.
It might be a good idea to do a home visit. It will give you a better idea of the environment you could be placing the puppy in. If I was given a final "judgement" every time someone called my house I wouldn't have any friends, or clients lol.