As some of you now, i'm the proud owner of a 10-11 week old mini dachshund.. now, onto my problem.
My best friend, unfortunately had a baby at 17.. and they just found out she has a form of leukemia and are planning her treatments, etc. Her mother is trying everything to get her mind off of it, when her mom asked her what would help her... she said... "Momma, I want Tiffs puppy" refering to my Tiny. I'm stuck, as... I really feel if it would ease her suffering, that it would be worth it because I coud still see Tiny everyday. She offered to buy her her own, and she said no.. she wants Tiny. *sigh* They offered to pay me for her, I just don't know what to think.. I want honest opinions from everyone.
i could never do it. i think those that can are truly wonderful people. so giving and unselfish. but i just could not part with one of my guys. huntersmom did that with her dog hunter. i hope she sees this thread and can help you work through it ... hugs ... it must be a real difficult postition to be in.
The little girl is such an angel. One of the most well behaved children i've ever seen.. and at 7 years old, facing this is truly awful. Tiny just loves her. Aly comes over and Tiny never leaves her side, so I know they would BOTH be happy together. It's just me.. i'm worried about. I'm worried about seeming like a bad dog owner, giving my dog up.. even if it's for good reason. I am attached to Tiny already, yes.. but i've also only had her for 4 weeks. My attachment would grow worse the more days I have her. I have to make a decision within' the next few days.
You are very kind and loving to even consider giving away your dog to help another human being.
Some years ago one of my friends had some trouble. She was very upset and I was worried about her.
To help ease her pain I let her look after one of my Afghan Hounds, a very well behaved bitch, a dream dog, really.
The dog helped my friend a great deal. So much so that I could not bring myself to break them appart. They have been a wonderful pair for years. And now I am the step parent. This was a happy and sad ending.
In your case, I feel your heart is in the right place, but a puppy is a great deal of work, and may become too much for a seven year old child . As a rule dogs do not make good gifts, even when someone asks for one.
Perhaps you can make this little girl an aunt to the dog, or a sister. Let her look after the pup from time to time, but know that you may need to bring the puppy home. In other words, test the water before you jump in.
I don't know how the puppy will feel about this? But this is just as much a human issue as it is a dog issue.
I know this is not much - but I do wish you well on this.
***Edited By: puppywishes on 6/3/2006 12:20:00 AM*** Reason: words
Her mother offered her a brand new puppy of her own, any breed. Aly and I got online,here on this forum and looked through all of the breeds. She really liked the look of the Yorkie, and her mom said.. "We'll start looking tomorrow." and about that time Tiny crawled up in her lap. I offered to refer them to the breeder I got Tiny from..and I could just see Aly's heart sink. Her mother offered her a trip to Disney Land before she started treatment... one of those big blow up pools... almost anything a little girl that age could want.
The situation in if something happens to Aly (God forbid, and that's something I really do NOT want to think of) I would recieve Tiny back, no questions asked. It's just me that i'm worried about at this point..... because like I said earlier, Tiny and Aly are inseperable when they're together. *sigh*
Add: Also, her mother is married to a wonderful man. They would both be helping Aly with the challenge of having her own pet.
***Edited By: halosfire on 6/3/2006 12:24:54 AM*** Reason: Add.
it is a difficult time for the family.. and i dont think that the dog would do it all. They might not be able to take care of it to the fullest extent right now with the situation they are in. And even when it gets older. I think that the frequent visits would be a good thing to do. I also think that she just wants it right now to help her take her mind off of her problems, but what will happen when they problems go away?
I did not read what everyone wrote but I would do it in a heart beat. The happiness of a sick child out weighs my dogs. I would not give any of my dogs away but in a circumstance like this I would do it. You can take an approach like buy another puppy and see if she falls in love with it to take her mind off yours if you really cant part with her. It would be hard for me and I would cry my eyes out not having my dog. To know that she is bringing more happiness to a young child would be worth my tears. When she starts treatment she can not be around pets as it is. So it would be more like a loaner. I take my hat off to you for making such a hard decision but kids are more important than dogs.
I honestly don't think I could part with any of my dogs; I am sure that if the parents go ahead and adopt a dog from a shelter, not a pup, the little girl will grow attached to it all the same. I do agree with the other posters that a puppy is too much responsibility and I really don't think this is the right time for this; obviously the child will require ongoing treatment and if this entails chemotherapy it means that her immune system will be very fragile and I don't think a licking puppy around a child at this stage is recommended. Perhaps if you explain this to the parents they will see your point of view. As sad as it is this is a most stressful time and a pup just isn't a viable choice IMO. Good luck :)
she said the parents would be helping the child with the puppy. I know for a fact that when she starts treatment she can not be around animals so your pup would not be with her long. I do not know the family or situation they are in to say that the family can not handle a puppy at this time. That is your call to make. My mom is going through cancer treatment and that is how i got my poodle. I do think if it will bring her happiness and she is dead set on that puppy then let the puppy go for slumber parties till she cant keep her or can...
I would also agree with frequent (very frequent) visits... when ever possible & for as long as possible, ie: overnight, couple of days, etc.
I believe that when the treatments start, she is probably not going to feel like doing much of anything, let alone taking care of a puppy... & I also believe that her parents would be busy enough trying to make their daughter as comfortable as possible instead of taking care of a puppy.
I would also be torn & I thank god that I am not in a position to even have to consider a decision like the one that you are contemplating. JMO Good luck with your decision, I know you will make the right one for all of you.
I have been talking to her mother for the past hour, on the phone. She is very upset, as you all can imagine. I guess all evening they tried to convince her that there are "lots of other puppies that need love".. and she said "Momma, I just want Tiny.. so I can sleep with her everynight. Stuffed animals don't cuddle back." This little girl is very intelligent. I guess it's partly my fault, letting her get attached, but I never thought anything like this would happen. I'm thinking I will give them ownership, under the stipulations that if ANYTHING goes wrong, Tiny comes right back to me.. and -I- will be allowed the visitation and slumber parties. Apparently it means alot to Aly to have Tiny as "her own". They are going to talk to the doctors about the effects of a puppy on treatment and the likes. I know when I lost my grandma, Duchess was the only thing that kept me sane. So, I know the importance and healing power of a puppy. I know the little girl isn't doing this to me, to give me a hard time. It's just hard.
This may come across as harsh, but why give into the child's every whim? She will be well again one day, and she shouldn't be taught that whatever she wants, she gets, just because she is sick.
There was a little girl in my class years back that had cancer in her leg. It wasn't known if she would make it, or if she could keep her leg, or what. Her mom, a widowed mother of two, never let that child believe that she gets it any easier than any other child just because she was sick. She had to behave like any other child, she had chores, did homework, and was disciplined when she was bad, just like any other child. Because she wasn't given the "oh poor baby" treatment, she didn't limit herself in other areas. I've never seen a person, young or old, with a better attitude about being sick. Luckily, the little girl is fine, and none of her classmates ever even knew that she had cancer.
I wouldn't give the little girl my dog. Tell her she can visit anytime, or get another dog. Yes, it's sad that she has leukemia, but that doesn't mean she dictates the lives of others. Sorry, its harsh, but I don't know of another way to put it.