Well, the way I see this is as follows.. if having Tiny will truly ease the pain she feels, even if it's just for a while.. that is worth it to me. I have a 10 year old sister, and seeing Aly go through this.. just kills me. I can't imagine what I would do if it happened to one of my own. So, if the doctor says okay.. i'm going to do it. I also see it as just another opportunity to rescue a puppy from the shelter. A friend of mine, actually.. a friend of my mothers.. is fostering a litter of pups, and their mother. I believe they are full blooded shihtzus, not more than a couple weeks old. I will put in a word with her. Apparently they are registered, the lady who was breeding them... was killed in a car accident and her husband couldn't bare to raise them with his grief. They're only 2 weeks old, tops. So, if it doesn't work out with Tiny.. and I get my baby back. Then wonderful. If not, i'll get one of those.. save a life, ya know? *sigh*
If you can do it then good for you, I don't know if I could there are friends of mine that have kids and if they were going through this I might consider it. I don't think it comes down to loving the animal, you also care for this child. You said you will still get to see tiny and you will be able to make sure he is well cared for that is great. I don't think you can really say never until you are faced with this situation. But maybe take this little girl to meet the shih tzu pups and see if she likes them, maybe that way you can keep your baby, help the little girl, and save the pup as well. Most children are easily swayed to a different pup once it's in their hands.
Well, I have two kids and a new pup. So I'm trying to put myself in your situation and that of your friends. First of all my kids are 8 (girl) and 11 (boy) and if either one of them got a terrible illness and said someone's else new puppy would make them feel better, I would have to say that it was absolutely out of the question. I would simply tell them if they want a puppy we'll get you your own and that you cannot have someone else's, period! I would never put someone in that situation. Now, being the owner of a new pup, if someone did put me in that situation, I would probably tell my friend... I'm really truly sorry about your child being sick, and I pray to God she gets better, but you need to tell her she can't have my dog, she can come visit any time she wants, but she can't have mine, and if you really think getting her a puppy is a good idea then get her her own.
I'm sorry that your friend put you in this situation, good luck with whatever you decide.
I agree animal lover. I was going to say the same thing..And Once those treatments start, Its not going to be easy and it can all be so overwhelming. A new puppy is a lot to deal with at a time like this... I do feel so bad for your friends family, I know that I would want to give my child anything that she wanted if she were sick.
Our neighbors son (grown man) found out a few months ago he has Leukemia and gave his father all his dogs, because they just couldn't give the dogs the attention they needed while going through everything they are.
I think that if you do give them Tiny and it gets to be to much for them, They should let you know. What if you do get a new puppy and they need to give Tiny back are you going to be able to have two puppies ? Good Luck. I've had my little husky for only a few days and can't imagin being in your situation..
Jomas3,are you sure it was form lack of time or did the doc say to get rid of them?
I have always heard to get rid of the pets so I don't think anyone in her fmaily is thinking rationally right now. the docs may not have even gotten to things like that.
I tried to help rehome two pyraneese for a lady at my colleges siter going through chemo and she had to end up putting one down because it couldn't adjust to a new home and her doc said it was like walking through a group of people with the flu to keep it.
My little brother went through chemo a few years ago, and we had two yorkies and a mastiff, they never said he had to get rid of them. However, this was when my brother was 19 to 21, not a child and knew how to keep himself clean, and the dogs were not allowed in his room. I could see it being different for a young child.
Would it be possible to have "co-ownership" Do you work? If so could you take your dog over to their house in the AM and pick it back up in the PM? That way the little girl would be responsible for the pup during the day and you at night, basically the dog would still be yours but the little girl would feel like it was hers too. I figure you would be responsible for the bills :) or maybe a weekend thing or how about like in custody cases where one parent has the child for a week or two at a time and then the other one has the child same amount of time. or maybe the dog could go over there for a few days a week. If the child has to have treatments they may find that she might get real tired and having a pup all the time would be too much on the child so perhaps that sharing the time would be a better solution. Also, maybe when the pup is at the child's house you could stop by to visit the child and keep an eye on the pup:) The pup maybe a little confused at first but I bet it would adjust, just like with training, at first they don't get the routine but then all at once it sinks in. Good luck!
I would never give up one of my dogs. I would just have her parents get her a different one. Maybe a similar one to your girl? It's never a good idea anyway to throw a new puppy into a house that has as much stress as theirs probably does.
My first reaction might sound a little harsh, too. She sounds like a bright seven year old that just figured out that she can make all the adults in her life dance. "If you love me, you'll give me what I want." Yeah, you might be "easing her pain," but you might also be teaching a very bad lesson.
When I told my husband about it, he said it reminded him of the girl who gets turned into a blueberry in Willy Wonka. Not a pretty picture....
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