Okay, I'm not reading replies until after I respond. :) Okay...I misunderstood and am now editing. No, I wouldn't give up the puppy. This little girl needs to learn that she can't HAVE someone else's puppy just because she's sick! What happens when she beats the leukemia? Now suddenly you've got a healthy child that has been taught she can have anything she wants. UGH, sorry, I've got three kids of my own and I know if one of my own kids pulled that I would tell them that yes they can have "A" puppy but it's not right asking someone to give up theirs that they love and that the puppy loves them. Time for Mom to teach her daughter I think.
***Edited By: kristen on 6/3/2006 8:31:41 PM*** Reason: .
I think a puppy will be allot of responsibility for a sick child and her mother. Why dont you tell her that your willing to share the pupy and let her play with it and help you with it when shes feeling up to it. At 7 she should know its not proper to covet other peoples possesions, if not then its a good time to teach her. I will do anything for my boys but I will also teach them what is the right way and how to over come diversity with dignity. Cancer is avery scary serious condition that even your puppy wont cure. My prayers go out to this little girl and if you want to give up your puppy thats up to you but I think we're on earth to learn things and maybe this is your chance to teach the little girl about sharing, coveting and trusting in higher powers,not worldly possesions to ease her suffering.
When I read that you were going to give your puppy to this little girl that's just started her battle with cancer. It instantly brought tears to my eyes. So I'd like to dedicate this song to beacause I think it is only fitting. Luckily for you, I'm only going to type the words instead of singing it myself ; )
And then a HERO comes along With the strength the care on....
I know the pain of losing ownership of Tiny will hurt you for a long time. But the many hours of comfort that Tiny will bring to this child is priceless. Hopefully, cancer is just a difficult bump in the road for her on the journey of a happy life. But if anything goes wrong, Tiny will make the last of her days, happy ones. You truly are a hero and you do have the strength to care on.
One of my co workers 3 year old has just been diagnosed with lukemia. They are always up, always moving, always back tot he doctor for treatment, staying with her when she was in hte hospital for the first month, she has a stack of drugs that have to be given daily, etc etc etc.
A puppy would not do.
Her daughter may be in love with your dog, but she would quickly come to love any dog she got. However, she also may not be physicaly ready to deal with having a dog in hte house with her immune system so compromised.
Kids minds and hearts change on things like that. Of course she may adore tiny but often the grass is greener ont he other side. Many people adore someone elses dog when they don't live with that dog every day.
I couldn't give one of mine up like that. I have an afghan on the bed right now and while he loves and adores everyone that comes into the house, he loves no one more then he does me.
I just can't see placing a dog you've already started to build the bond with. A lot of your emotional decision is coming from the fact that you feel guilt for her illness and want to try to 'fix' it or help as much as possible and that type of emotional overload will really affect you.
i'm sorry for the little girl i hate to see any one sick esp/ a child.but under the circumstances what will happen to puppy when shes at the hospital,and have to go in and out for treatments, days she will not be feeling like playing with puppy, days she will have to stay in the hospital,days she under meds..etc . sorry i have to ask you do you really want your dog yourself, not being rule here just wondering ok. or do you really understand what leaukemia is? believe me honey its a lot of work involve and to have a frisky puppy running around ..i dont think so. think this out first before you decide on what to do.will puppy be happy when shes not there. its going to be some sad days for both of them. may god bless the little girl.
I'm with Icyhound on this one. As a nurse, and having experienced cancer in my family as well........I dont think this is the best idea.
Due to low immune system issues when dealing with Luekemia and its treatments, it is likely she will not be able to be near it during certain times anyway. Also she is looking forward to long hospital stays, being so ill that she will not have the strength for the puppy, lots of travelling back and forth. This would be a big strain on the parents as well. I commend you and the parents for wanting to comfort in in any way you can, but inreality it is not a good idea. Maybe let her know that once she beats this, and she will, that a puppy will be gotten for her then.
I know this thread is on the second page by now, but Scout showed it to me and I just had to respond :)
Halo, I am in that EXACT same situation. I don't know if you remember my situation with Hunter? The only difference in my case is that I more or less offered Hunter to the little girl in my case because she loved Hunter so much, and wanted a dog SO badly. Her parents were reluctant to buy a puppy for her because, like others have mentioned on this thread, they thought a puppy would be WAY too much for her considering her physical state at the time. They were thinking about looking into the shelters, but were also worried about adopting, and finding out that the dog would not work out if it was not properly trained or was too 'wild' around a little girl that was in such a weak state. And if that was the case, the dog would have to be returned. And returned shelter dogs don't have a good outcome where I live. And they didn't want to chance that. These people are really good friends of ours, and I have known their daughter since birth. We saw them all the time, so the only reasonable thing I could think of was to offer to let Hunter stay there for a few days and see how he did. If he did well, I was just going to loan Hunter to them as a sort of unofficial therapy dog.
I think the only difference in my case and yours is that Hunter wasn't a young rambunctious puppy. He was young, but not as young as your Dachshund. He also has the strangest temperment I have ever seen for a lab/cattle dog mix (both breeds known for hyper personalities). By far, the mellowest dog I have ever seen. And LAZY! Lol. I thought Hunter would be a good fit because of that reason. He is very intelligent, and quick to learn. He also would rather lay around the house all day. So I guess in your situation, if you're considering it...I would evaluate your dog and REALLY think if he would be a good fit. How is his temperment? Would you have any doubts about his temperment during this type of situation? If you have any doubts, I would try to figure something else out for her. Maybe a Dachshund rescue that has an older Dachshund. But I would definately do something to help her out. If not your dog, then another.
But I can totally understand why you would consider this, and personally think it is the most self-less thing you could ever do. When I was considering it, I came on this board constantly asking about whether I did the right thing or not. I was constantly worried that everyone would think I gave Hunter away. But to this day, I KNOW that I made the right decision because I truly, truly believe that Hunter is the reason she got through the Chemo and is in remission. He kept her spirits up when the drugs took it all out of her. He has been her constant companion. When she had to have her head shaved, they shaved Hunter's as well so that they could 'grow their hair back together'. It made her feel like there was someone going through it with her, even if that someone was a dog :) Hunter has been there for her to confide in when she doesn't feel comfortable talking about her feelings with anyone else. He stays by her side and makes her feel 'safe' (her exact words). I have heard her on several occassions refer to Hunter as the angel that was given to her by God to help her through the hard times. Because of this, I really believe that Hunter was more meant for this girl, then for me. For me, it wasn't a matter of 'giving up' Hunter. It was a matter of realizing that someone needed him more then I did. His temperment was the first sign. It was unusual for his breed mix to be the way he is. So he was meant for this job, I really think that.
The only thing I would suggest, is if you plan on just 'loaning' the dog, keep in mind that you might not get him back. I went into this thinking that, and when that little girl got so attached to Hunter, I didn't have the heart at that point to take him back. So keep that in mind and make sure you are okay with that. If you are, I promise it will be totally worth it. Hunter is also there on the promise that he will be returned to me if anything should go wrong. So I never worry about anything happening to him. The only thing, is that I used to get to see him a lot, and now I don't as much. So I tend to miss him a lot. But they have told me on several occassions that they would like to get their little girl her very own dog someday, and that Hunter will come back to me. Even the little girl has said this. She said, "You did such a nice thing by letting me have Hunter. I want to return him to you someday". She's a sweet girl. But at the same time, I know it would break her heart to do so, so I still don't think I will ever do it unless they physically bring him over and she gives him back herself. I mean, this girl makes friendship necklaces for Hunter! She is beyond attached. I couldn't do that to her unless she sincerely insisted.
I really don't think anyone that hasn't been in this situation will ever really know what it does to your heart to do this for a child. It's not about them 'getting their way'. It's about so many other things, and so many other emotions that you don't even know you have until you do it. I will never worry about this girl thinking that she got her way or that she manipulated me somehow. Anyone that met her would agree. Life is short, and for something like cancer to happen to a child, that has barely begun to live....it's the least we can do to make their life the best it could be. Because if the cancer takes their lives (and it could, nothing in life is a guarantee or should be taken lightly), then they have only experienced less then half of what most of us have. We're all very lucky, and take that for granted. A child of 7 dying of cancer is not fair. They haven't even experienced life yet. So why not make that little time as great as it could be? Even if they recover, then they have a life lesson that they can take with them into the rest of their lives. They will know the true meaning of kindness, and what the people in their lives did for them. Dogs are VERY therapeutic to sick children and the elderly, and it has been proven.
*can ya'll bump this for Halo if she doesn't get it? Because I have trouble logging on here sometimes and don't know if I will be able to bump it? Thanks! :)
As another note, (not that I haven't written a novel already, lol) I would REALLY make sure the parents are okay with taking care of this dog while she is in the hospital. Because it's true that there is a lot of back and forth, and times when she won't get to see the dog. It can be a strain, and if the parents aren't up for it, I wouldn't consider it. But if they are willing to do it, I think it's worth it. The look on the little girls face when she comes home and gets to be with her puppy is priceless :)
Hello ~Halosfire~ You really take human kindess a step further. Having a 10 week old puppy myself... I don't know what I would do.
I'm at home everyday and having a puppy is such a full time responsibility. The only time I have to myself is when he's napping. That's when I multi task as quickly as I can! (LOL)
I'd like to suggest perhaps the little girl become her adopted owner. Meaning weekend sleepovers and weekly visits. This way the parents of the girl can see what owning a puppy would be like. As well as caring for their daughter at the same time? Especially before they go and buy a Yorkie. :)