My wife and I were at a resturant and my wife feed kelly there. she had a blanket over her shoulder so noone could see. she was extremely discrete. when a woman came over from another table. I and said, Hey lady you mind putting your t#tty away and doing that somewhere else. Needless to say the guinny felt his systolic blood pressure top out at 190. I geciously stood up and asked the womwan to step out on to the patio. once we got outside...she lit off. not barring any cuss words. She was screaming about how she had children at her table whom she did not want to be exposed to breasts in the middle of a resturant. I waited for her to fininsh. Then I replied with, I am very sorry you are upset. But a mother feeding her child is nothing to worry about. Your shildren cannot see anything nor do they realize what she is doing. and maybe if you took at moment to explain to them how a baby eats. your fears of them being exposed to something dirty would be relieved. I tod her that my wife was being classy and no we would not stop, and we would not move. we re-enter the building the woman boiling. 10 minuted later we are asked to leave the resturant. I asked on what grounds. they said my wife breast feeding was "upsetting" the other costumers. I told them we will leave but you will hear from my lawyer. and i am not paying for anything. they agreed. me and my wife left. I am appalled that a woman feeding her child was treated like she got up on the table and danced w/ no clothes on. I am writing the HQ of the resturant demanding an apology and I am going to seek legal action.
now this is open for discussion....I am wrong. IS that rude to feed a baby in public.
***Edited By: gunny on 8/2/2006 5:08:26 PM*** Reason: f
I breatstfed my daughter, and honestly I did not feel comfortable doing it in public. Having said that, I don't see anything wrong with feeding young infants in public. When a baby gets older, and does not eat as often, then I would rather not see it. An older baby is much more likely to remove the blanket, exposing the mother. I don't find it disgusting, but it is mildly uncomfortable. To each their own. If your wife is comfortable doing it, then DO IT. If someone else has a problem with it, then they can chose not to look!!
Anyone who thinks its rude to breastfeed a baby in public has some real issues. I breastfed mine wherever We were.And no, you could not see my breast. Its the most natural thing in the world, why it would bother someone is beyond me.
I breastfed both of my children. I commend your wife for being brave enough to do it in public. I see no problem with it provided the mom is discrete like you said she was. Breastfeeding is the best thing for your baby don't let anyone discourage you or your wife from that.
I thought it was awesome that you took the woman outside. I would hope that my husband would take control of the situation just like you did!
Congrats on the new addition. My daughter's (like your son's) heart rate went down resulting in an emergancy c-section. I will NEVER forget the look on my husband's face when they decided to do it. It broke my heart because I could tell he was terrified. Luckily like your son my daughter was perfectly fine just a cord wrapped around her neck. Enjoy your new baby. You will soon realize training dogs and raising kids is not that much different!
Wow!... I bet that's one supper your not going to forget in hurry! Personally I've breastfed all my children. It has to be one of the most natural events that take place during motherhood. :)
Unfortunately no everyone has the same views. The difference could be a result from ethnic, culture, religion or the way they were raised. Try not to let the ordeal razzle you too much! When you think about it... only the opinions of your true loved ones really matter. The rest... well... they're just drops in the life bucket! :)
As for restaurants I think they should sanction off a corner just for breast feeding families. That way everyone can eat in peace!
Good for you. I've successfully breastfed in public with no one the wiser. I think I would have at least made a small announcement to the restaurant in general along the lines of "ok, lets see a show of hands. How many are offended and how many aren't" just so they'd be aware of what the management was doing. I know if I were dining there too I probably would have put my meal aside, left right behind you and told the management exactly why. It wouldn't hurt a court case to be able to say the majority of people in the restaurant agreed with you. Definitely pursue legal action - unless they have a rule that you cannot bring your own entrees (lol) for your children they don't have a leg to stand on for ruining your meal and causing you public embarrassment. Maybe you could even get them for some kind of discrimination since they don't have an acceptable alternate menu for the breastfed babies (nor will they ever) or an alternative seating arrangement for families in your situation.
***Edited By: arachyd on 8/2/2006 6:07:15 PM*** Reason: I can't resist the edit button
I breastfed two of my daughters, the oldest could not nurse due to a clefy palate. I breastfed them whenever and wherever they wanted to eat. As a matter of fact I just recently found a picture of myself nursing my middle daughter at a Christmas party, in my church fellowship hall. I would defiently contact a lawyer, and also get in touch with the LaLeche League in your area. They can be a HUGE help in this kind of stuff. They are like the Breastfeeding Goddesses...Way to go Gunny, and two thumbs up to your wife! After all, Breast is Best ~Stephanie
I bottle fed my kids. However I have no problem with other people doing it in public. That woman was out of line. I have to commend you for taking her outside. I don't know that dh would have even thought of it. I think that's great. The main thing to me is that it's done discreatly like you said. You go gunny, keep us posted.
That's ashamed she felt the need to be so rude. I have seen women breast feeding thru out my life and I don't believe I ever actually saw any part of a woman's breast as they are all pretty discreet with it. She must have been staring pretty hard in the first place to even figure out what your wife was doing. I hope you do contact a lawyer regarding the restaraunt.
I breast fed each of my kids for about 3 mos, with the last lasting until 6 mos before I got mastitus. I didnt really like it, but did it for the immunity I could pass on to my kids. If I was a pioneer woman, I woulda had to have a wet nurse indian squaw to feed my kids! lol....
I was never comfortable doing it in public, but have no problems with ANY woman who does. There are discreet ways to do it with positioning and blankets and you really cant even tell.
She was outta line for sure. Sounds like she needed to be breastfed as a child herself!! lol....
edited to add..how much crap and sex and violence is on tv that her *kids* are probably exposed to, yet the natural act that God gave us to feed our kids is offensive? Oh, Gunny, get that atty!!
***Edited By: TraumaMamma on 8/2/2006 7:06:16 PM*** Reason: add
with my first baby, i was very shy and always excused myself to breastfeed, even though i always had a blanket covering me. by the time the fourth one came along, i was comfortable enough to do it in public ( with a blanket of course). i dont see anything wrong with it. when the kid is around three or four, and walks up, lifts his moms shirt, pulls out the boob, and proceeds to "dine", i think its a bit much ! lol
That's awful for you to go through because your wife has just recently had the baby, correct? What a stressful evening.
Nothing is wrong breastfeeding in public, if a newborn baby needs to eat, or any baby - that baby must eat. My step mom used to feed in public too with a rag hiding it too and I saw no problem with it. I really think it's natural, and I'm a "kid" myself (14 yrs old). I'd be calling a lawyer on that restaurant, how awful!
Gunny, if your wife was discreet then it was the other woman's problem. SHE is the one with issues and she is busy not only passing them on to her children, but making sure that she shares her warped views with all and sundry.
I breast fed and yes, in public. No one was the wiser unless they were stupid enough to walk up and stick their noses where they shouldn't be.
I am SO sorry that you and the family were subjected to this woman's ignorance and intollerance.
You might as well start a debate with Stay at Home Moms against Working Moms.....it's never going to resolve itself.
There are people for breastfeeding and there are those that are against it, especially in public.
I did not breastfeed my son and I'm ok with it. I do not have an issue with other mothers breastfeeding their children in public. It's perfectly natural and a wonderful gift to give to our children.
I DO have a problem with women who feel the need to breastfeed children who are obviously old enough to not be breastfeeding anymore. I read about a woman who breastfed her 7 year old. Are you kidding me?!?!? That is just not right. But once again, this is MY opinion and it is what works in MY life. :)
Like a previous poster said, if it works for you and your wife, more power to you. But that restaurant was completely out of line to ask you to leave. Why are you being asked to leave when it was obvious the other woman started the incident? Definitely contact the local paper. Much more effective than calling an attorney and FREE. Bad publicity for a restaurant is more damaging than a lawsuit.... ;-)