My babys would not take a bottle, only the breast, , so sometimes using a breast pump is not an option. I do not see how anyone can be uncomfortable around a nursing mother, comparing it to having sex is rather silly imo, people can wait until they get home for that, when a baby is hungry its time to eat.
no one said they viewed the boob as a sexual organ!! It's just plainly disrespectful for everyone tring to injoy their dinner around you! I don't care if you did go through childbirth * newsflash almost every women will or already has* As long as i have a blanket over top of me should i be allowed to do what ever i want as long as you can't see me! I'm sick of new mothers being so inconsiderate cause they have a baby!!! Besides why would a woman want to sit in the middle of a resturaunt and breast feed n e ways ! Many things in life is "natural" but we don't all want to see or hear about it !
Even though the lady was out of line with the way she was talking to you, just like you she paid for her meal so why should she have to sit there and eat while your wife is breastfeeding at the table beside of her, it makes most ppl very uncomfortable. I know that it is a natural thing but sex is to, does that mean that my husband and i should be able to do it in public
breastfeeding is not the same as a sexual act.
It doesnt seem to make MOST people uncomfortable either....there are plenty of people right here who support this!
Usually, when I eat dinner, the last thing I am looking at is the people around me. I am enjoying conversation with my husband, kids and friends. I dont have time to OOGLE someone and look at a blanket and go OMG she is breastfeeding. I cant see it, but she is.
I am always happy when a child is QUIET when I go out to eat. Noisy kids make ME mad after I pay for a meal.
Hey Gunny... do you mind telling us what resturant this was, if it was a chain, because I don't know about anyone else, but I will boycott. I fed my girls everywhere...my hubby even reminded me of the time I breastfed Lachlyn in the middle of Wal Mart, with blanket of course. I always liked the people who walked up to you and said, Aww a new baby.. and before you could say that you were feeding the baby... off the blanket went. I am certain someone in NC has seen mine other than my husband, and kids of course.
personally i think its worse to let your child scream instead of giving him/her what she wants and just feed them, however method you choose. the ones that would bawl you out for breastfeeding your baby, are usually the ones you see groping all over each other at their table.
Gunny - you have every right to be ticked off. I breastfed my son for almost 7 months. I am a very well "endowed" woman - my breast was bigger than my sons head for quite awhile. Often times it was darn near impossible for me to be discreet - trying to balance a boob, a baby and a blanket was not always possible - and my son always liked eye contact when feeding. I never really cared where I breastfed - I did my best to keep it covered, but if someone had a problem with it -it was there problem.
I had someone in a restaurant once ask me to go to the restroom to feed my son. I told them that as soon as they decided to pick up there plate and take it to the restroom - I MIGHT think about taking my infant son to the bathroom for his lunch.
I did not pump until my son was 6 months old. Why? Because one of the reasons that I CHOSE to breastfeed was for the bonding experience... and I didn't want him to develop nipple confusion. Anyone who suggests that you pump and feed a child less than a month old doesn't know what they're talking about.
Tell Mrs. Gunny that Sonjavon says to keep up the good work and to fight for her rights to feed her child in the most natural and most healthful way possible. And kudos for you for sticking up for your wife. Consult with an attorney and let us know what restaurant we should be petitioning.
Isn't it amazing that people find a God given thing obnoxious and yet instead of explaining to their children about breast feeding they can sit and see more on tv thats really bad, but, I guess thats okay. I commend your wife on breastfeeding which has almost become obsolete. To me it shows a very caring, loving mother.
I DO find it amazing that people can be offended by a mother breastfeeding her child and yet have no objection whatsoever to the many, many women and girls out there wearing less clothing to go to the mall than I wear when I go swimming. I've seen women wearing shirts that show more breast than most breastfeeding mothers.
"and yet have no objection whatsoever to the many, many women and girls out there wearing less clothing to go to the mall than I wear when I go swimming. I've seen women wearing shirts that show more breast than most breastfeeding mothers."
right on sonjavon! somehow it isn't right to ban a mother to a bathroom to feed a baby.
So.....when and where is the "breast-in"? I suppose it will be B.Y.O.B? I have to say, La Leche League was a godsend to me. I nursed all 3 of mine the full recommended 18 months. Breast pumps are not a suitable alternative-nipple confusion is a terrible thing. Your baby forgets how to eat and has to relearn it while howling with hunger because you keep switching from real to artificial nipples. Simply waiting is not an option. All it takes is for a baby, anyone's baby, to cry and a breastfeeding mom starts leaking like a seive. I'm sure that would be a wonderful sight at the restaurant table. I wonder how that other mom would have explained the wet t-shirt look to her kids! I have actually tried the juggling act in the bathroom with a wiggling infant held in one arm, leaning against a sink counter (I WOULD NOT USE THE TOILET for sitting & feeding my baby thank you very much) over an unsanitary, hard tile bathroom floor - once. Never again. My babies health and well-being is much more important than someone else's opinion. It is opinion and conditioning, not medical fact when people get offended by discreet breastfeeding. It isn't sexual and it isn't unsanitary. What is obscene is some of the things they put in formula. Why not get offended at someone feeding that to a baby? Mine had all been weaned by the time the Gerber apple juice scandal came out a while back. There hadn't been anything but chemicals in it for years. It was completely man-made.
Second, I can't stand screaming children in restaurants. I would much rather see a mother feed her child (hell, covered or not) than to have to listen to a screaming hungry baby while trying to enjoy my dinner. I personally try not to observe the every action of my fellow diners, so probably would not have even noticed.
Third, how old were this lady's kids? Did they even know your wife was nursing your baby without the lady over-reacting?
I'm sorry, but thats just wrong what that lady and the restaurant did. Newborn babies have needs and they don't yet understand the meaning of "wait until we get home to eat". You and your wife have rights and a RESPONSIBILITY to your child to provide for his needs. I am not a mother, but know enough to not suggest that you use the pump at that age. Breast feeding is not easy for the baby, its much more work than a bottle. Introducing the bottle too early will only make them favor the bottle, hence discarding the best part of breast feeding--the bond that forms between your wife and son.
Like someone else said, get the media involved, go public and get an attorney. They should have asked the nasty woman to leave.
There's something about seeing a woman breastfeed in public that makes me slightly uncomfortable -- I'm really not sure what it is. However...I would NEVER make a scene in public over it. Seems way more respectful to remove yourself from the vacinity, if you can't handle seeing it.
That lady was a restaurant TROLL!
(P.S. Just boycott the restaurant...don't waste your time and money on a lawsuit. JMO.)
Not to burst anybody's bubble, but the fact remains that... there is a time and place for everything. Why not be reasonable and carry a bottle with you at all times? When someone does mention THEIR children being at risk, and asking politely to do it somewhere else.. you could have the spare bottle handy. Legal action? You can try, but I highly doubt you will get anywhere. In a resturaunt? Come on, some courtesty should be expected.. from both parts.
Halosfire; It really isn't that easy to just "bring a bottle". First off, because the baby is a newborn and gunny's wife can't pump that early, my step-mom didn't. To start with it's painful to pump bottled milk regularly let alone when you are new to breast feeding.
And not all babies take to the bottle right away, it's not as easy as just putting it in their mouth. Most babies will either reject the bottle or then not take the breast. If you didn't know, you can't tell a newborn feeding time is later. A hungry baby needs to eat, and the woman would get full and leak too.
Your post was obnoxious to me, it's not that simple. I watched my step mother go through all of it. God help you when you have a kid you need to breastfeed.