Went to our local Walmart today and its suppose to be against the law now for anyone to stand on street corners and begg for money etc. Now they have started on parking lots and this woman actually walked up to me in the store. She give me this hard luck story and told me she lacked six dollars and some change having enough to pay for her groceries. I gave her some money and as I was walking off I thought, I bet she is thinking, you sucker you. Oh, well. I usually don't do that, but can't explain why I did. I turned around and it was almost like she vanished into thin air. Never seen her again.
i have never had that happen to me in a grocery store. if it had i would have told her to put something back if she couldnt pay for it. it has happened to me a few times in the city tho mostly bums wanting a cigarette.
Once in the parking lot at our Costco while we were loading $500+ worth of stuff into our truck. This guy had a sad story about having a flat tire and needing to get home, blah, blah, blah, although I didn't believe his story, he was pretty scary so we gave him some cash. Another time my daughter and I were downtown and this guy waited for us to exit the pay parking lot and then hit us up for money - scared my sheltered 15 y.o. to death, she still talks about it over a year later.
I get this all the time. I don't give money to anyone. I donate to charities, and I'll help a friend out, but I will not give a bum money. I usually just point to the "Help Wanted" sign that never fails to be around. Around Christmas time I had a guy approach me in the Target parking lot. I was in Target no more than a minute just to return something. When I came out, he had pushed a bunch of carts into my bumper. I drove up to him and asked what the hell was wrong him. Some other person that he was hitting up for money told me "Oh its okay, he lives here." So, I told him "well, he better move cuz I'm calling the cops". He went on to say that he didn't know what I was talking about. I gave him a few choice words, then drove away and called the cops. I drove by like 15 minutes later and he was being arrested.
Another time, when I was a teen, my dad stopped and got a whole In N Out meal for some guy with a "Will work for food" sign. We drove up and handed it to the guy, and he refused it saying it was against his diet, could he have the cash instead. I learned my potty mouth from my dad...he used it then!
I work hard for my money, and therefore don't just give it away to people who aren't willing to work for it.
One guy when I was in walmart came up to me with a card that said, "I am deaf please take this sign language card as a gift and maybe if our paths cross we can say hi to eachother in sign language. In return please give me a donation for this card." I wish at that moment I knew sign language to see if he was honest or not! I did not give him money though. I said no and he ran to the next isle.
This other time I was 16 (a long while ago lol) I was at a gas station and this lady asked for a ride home I said no and she followed me to my car. It looked like she wanted to fight since I would not give her a ride. The gas station guy said on the speaker if you don't leave I will call the cops she left that freaked me out!
I had a guy ride up behind on a bicycle while pumping gas. He scared the crap out of me too. Anyway, he asked if I had any money. I told him no. He then repeated himself and added..."so you mean to tell me you don't have no money in that car...no change" I told him no again *started to look around at this point*. He rode off, but not before calling me a lying *bleep*.
I'm not fearful when people approach me, but goodness he did it to me. By the way, I really didn't have money on me. I have a bad habit of not carrying cash on me :(
So I was called a lying *bleep* all for nothing...
Wow!! I can't believe this only happens once in awhile to you guys. Here it's as common as waiting for the light to change. People are usually standing at all the exits and entrances to the freeway holding signs. It almost seems like there's a "Homeless Corporation" or something because you see the same people and they rotate corners. Some even spray your windshield like they're cleaning it and expect some change for their effort.
Also, on Fridays thery're out in full force in the parking lot. Why? Because it's payday for most people.
In some ways these people are quite clever. Like the ones that hang out in the parking lot of Petsmart and PetCo. They're betting on people's conscience that if they can spend a ton of money on pet supplies, they can spare some change for the guy with a hard luck story. And if you say you don't have any spare change, they look at you and your dog food and try to make you feel guilty.
A lot of times I keep spare change in a change cup so if I'm confronted I can hand them change and make a quick get away. I don't even listen to their hard luck story.
I don't belive in giving money to a begger, but i must say a few nights ago i was staying in a hotel in Cleveland Oh, when i went for a 2 am jog around the city i had stopped to get a bottle of water and across the street was a man lying in a bus stop box trying to aviod the rain he had his shoes under his head and i slipped 5 bucks into his shoes and began my jog again. When they ask i feel bad but I am also trying ot feed myself!
***Edited By: StarFish on 8/15/2006 9:33:07 PM*** Reason: spelling errors
Yes this happens quite often. It's happened several times at Walmart and the train station. Here's just a couple I recall. I remember when I was way younger (around 15 I think) my friend and I were walking to the train station and noticed an old guy standing holding a hat out for money with a sign. We felt so sorry for him, we each gave him $20!!! I still can't believe we did that. There was another time at Christmas when some guy asked for money and my dad and I were just coming out of Walmart, but we had a bunch of bags so I felt bad saying I didn't have any. So I gave him $10. Another time at the train station this scary scruff ball looking guy asked for money to buy soup, he was kinda young though, in his late 20's, so I gave him .25 cents because I thought he'd follow me if I didn't give him at least something lol.
I've also had that sign language thing happen too in Walmart, where they gave me a card asking for donation. I didn't give anything that time.
It's hard for me to say no when I've got money, I don't mind giving out a few bucks here and there to people. You never know which people are loyal and which are not, but I feel good when I can do something for someone in need.
sandiesbabies, I can't explain it, but I'm glad you gave her the money :) I don't know, I think that if you had the money and it was not taking food out of your childrens' mouths, then it was the right thing to do...if she scammed you, then she scammed you, but I think you can go to sleep knowing that you tried to help, even if it was only six bucks :)