I always say no, and explain she's a puppymill rescue technically. Explain if she allows it they can pet her, but most likely she will not, so people don't get their hopes up, or force it which causes a submissive pee..
I don't mind at all if they want to pet Kula and Marley, and I honestly have never had anyone pet them without asking. Neither of my dogs are big lickers/kissers, so that's not much of an issue for me. I do ask people to pet Marley under the chin rather than on top of the head. She's getting a lot better as she gets older, but she still will dribble a little if she's nervous or overly excited.
Most of the time I don't mind (if they ask), especially if it's my maltese or basset because they're both extremely people friendly and outgoing. However, my german shepherds are very protective. I had a few kids in the past just run up and pet them while I was waiting outside the video store for a friend. I cannot tell you how ticked off I was about that. I'm always afraid that one day soon some kid will go home without a finger. Shepherds especially do not like to be startled. So I prefer to be asked first.
We had a man in a uniform come deliver something at our house once. Champ happened to be out and as soon as the guy started walking up to our place, Champ ran straight for him and practically tore his shirt right off. He did not get hurt though. But that's what I mean. My german shepherds don't like a man in uniform lol.
: ) good to see so many responses.... the reason I ask this is that I find it really difficult to say NO. I remember when i was younger I saw this lady holding this really really cute dog, and i asked if i could pet it and she just said no and turned around, and i was really offended and hurt, so now i always try to say yes with my dog. But I was at the mall yesturday waiting for my friend to try on cloths, this sales lady loved my dog and asked if she could hold him and I said yes, but she was practically throwing him up and down in the air, and it might sound funny but her hand REALLY smelled and my dog is a big licker. And I was dying to take him back but I didn't want to disappoint her cuz she obviously loved this dog....and she had no bad intentions .anyways, next time I should protect my dog better and just say no... but it is so hard.
i dont like it but im not some one that can say no- when i would take bentley into to petsmart even the cashiers would come out and want to hold him- and hes trying to get back to me and im afraid hes going to fall and they are clinging on to him- i really dont like ppl wanting to hold my dogs- i guess you get wtih the smaller ones ppl wanting to hold them- i havnet had many ppl come up and want to pet them but they ask if they can hold them- but i have had little kids come up and start petting him. Daisy hasnt had all shots yet to go out to pets mart but when ive taken daisy to the vet a week ago ppl were coming up to me and wanting to talk about her and i just took her to petsmart groomers 2 days ago to have them put a bow in her hair to keep her bangs out of her eyes and ppl were all lined up by the glass watching and kids were tapping on the glass- daisy was very scared this was her first trip to the groomers and i was there but she still shook the hole time - i thought it was rude ppl were tapping on the glass and it was just making her more scared. and then of coarse its all the petsmart groomers that come ovr and want to pet and hold her- i dont know what it is with those petsmart ppl but they are bothersome when it comes to wanting to hold your dogs all the time- but when daisy was done i scooped her up and i paid her back there and we got out of there - didnt stop for any kids or adults wanting to talk ... i dont know if its becasuse they are small and white and fluffy? why do ppl want to hold your dogs?
Most of the time I don't mind. Them giving my dog treats without asking...THAT I mind. The flip side of those that do mind....I can't tell you how many times I've had other people's dogs jump on me because their leash was too long and the owners weren't payaing attention. ESPECIALLY at the vet's office! The last time I went in with my oldest son's bird (wing trim) it was a different vet than my dogs go to so the vet's staff was concerned that I might be afraid of dogs. Just something to ponder.
i guess it depends on the person,most kids around here ask so i say yes.what i dont like is when people come over to the house and give him people food even after i said dont.i always hear its only a small piece it wont kill him.
I'll tell you what I like the least when I am out and about with the dogs are people with OTHER DOGS. That assume thier a-hole dog isn't going to bother my dog or that their dog lunging at my dog is 'ok' or 'ooooop's I really have no control of my dog (shrugging shoulders).
I just took my mom's 6 month old puppy in to the vet (Boxer that I gave her). She just came out of a minor surgery and was standing/walking but not 100%. I am paying at the counter.
There was an American Bulldogs setting 2 seats from the door, acting fine. Then the Biggest GSD I have ever seen comes in the door like a ball of fire pulling the owner around and barking at the AmBulldog and then starts coming our way. I snatched my dog up, glared at the lady with the OUT OF CONTROL dog. I left my purse and credit cards, and went straight to my car (dog still in my arms) and then went back to finish paying.
I would rather have a room full of people asking to touch my dogs than that one lady and her aweful dog around my dogs.
If people ask, I don't mind if they pet my dogs. I just make sure to tell the kids who go for the top of the head that they prefer it if you pet them under their chin's, just to start out. Something that did bug me was when we were staying at Lake Shasta and Roxy (wire fox terrier) was about 8 months old and these kids came up to see her and the mom freaked and yelled to "get away from that dog, it's a schnauzer!" Well I still have Roxy as well as two 1-year old mini schnauzers and they are just the friendliest and sweet dogs. So if someone asks, I almost always say yes to petting my dogs. There have been 2 exceptions when a person has given me the creeps and Cooper has growled and barked at them - don't know if he felt they were creepy too or if he was just feeding off the vibes I was giving him. Tucker & Roxoy on the other hand have never met a stranger they didn't like.
Ali...I agree. Just yesterday we were outside the agility class and I was talking with someone with Riley next to me. The one lady that is new to our class has an out of control whippet.. he comes charging into Riley and jumps on his back... Riley snipped at him and barked as to say get away from me, I didn't correct it because the dog shouldn't have done that, the owner goes "your dog is a jerk". Uhh.. keep your dog under control and out of my dogs face and off his back... Riley was in heel and wasn't allowed to play at that point.. he was under control unlike some peoples dogs.
LOR-- Did you say something to the owner? I am not confrontational, I normally just throw really mean looks, but if I were you and some one said something about MY dog when it was THEIR dog's fault, I may have said something like....
Why don't you work with your dog before bringing it back. Riley was just standing there, and your dog provoked him, if your dog does that again, I can't guarantee your dog's safty.
I'm normally not confrontational either but I did say no he's not keep your dog out of his face... not sure she heard or cared though. She's a real dim wit... Mafia knows she witnessed her handling this dog in agility.
When it's play time Riley is fine with other dogs jumping on him, but we were standing there minding our own business and he knew it wasn't play time.
i don't have much choice in who pets my dog or whether i like it or not because scout seeks out attention from everyone, everywhere we go. so much for her being "aloof and needing a formal introduction".
sometimes i have the exact opposite problem with scout and other people. many people see how huge she is and want to stay away and keep their kids away also, which totally breaks scouts heart. its mostly people, i think, that have small dogs that are that way. the people who dont mind when scout solicits them, or the ones who aren't afraid of her size and come over and say hi, are typically people who have large dogs of their own.
the only time i am ever cautious is around other dogs. scout has no proper doggie manners. she just assumes every dog she sees will love her and want to play. so i take my cues from the other person and if they seem like they don't mind i will allow scout to say hi and be a goof ball. if they do mind, they are usually high tailing it away from me anyway so it isn't a problem.
tapetty - i am one of those people who loves to hold other peoples little dogs. mostly at work i will accost people with little dogs or puppies and ask them if i can hold them. i don't know what it is that makes me want to. i guess it is akin to someone who loves babies and wants to hold every baby they see. i have no interest in human babies and would never ask someone to hold theirs, so i guess i get my fix with puppies and small dogs instead. however, i more then likely would not walk up to you , or anyone , in a store and ask just to hold your dog. if i got into a conversation with someone in a store, which is unlikely in itself, i might ask, but i wouldnt chase someone around with a small dog just so i could hold it.
I don't let people pick Lacy up unless it's my family or good friends that she knows well because she doesn't like being picked up by strangers. She gets really stiff and uncomfortable when strangers pick her up. She's a little dog so I'm sure some stranger holding her 5 feet off the ground scares her.
I don't normally mind, but it does depend on the situation/environment. Merphy gets stressed when other dogs are near, so if we're at PetSmart and its crowded, then I don't want people petting him. I usually have him in a cart if its really busy. But, when there's not a lot of people around, I let people pet him, he LOVES attention, and will usually roll over for a tummy rub right in the middle of the store. I prefer for people to ask first, but if I am talking to them, and they start petting him then that's fine. I would not allow them to pick him up though...I wouldn't ask to hold some strangers baby, so why would I let anyone hold mine?
I do hate when kids come up and just pet him without asking and their parents are no where in sight. I don't know where their hands have been! And, Merphy does not respond well to loud people, and some kids are loud. He doesn't have too much experience with kids.
But, what I really really hate, is when Merphy will do something like jump up on the people's legs, and I'll tell him "Off!" and they say "Oh, its okay!" Um, no, as a matter of fact its not. I don't want him learning that jumping on people is okay. I've worked hard training him not to.
it does not bug me at all rocky adores people as long as they let him bark at them then sniff him then play in that order.
I almost died a few weeks ago though. My oldest has always been great at asking to pet animals well we went to the pet shop and someone had this tiny little poodle and olina runs up to pet it, I grabed her befor she could and reminded her to ask first. the lady gave me a funny look like "whats wrong with you its just a dog" I guess she had never seen a dog that small and got excited.
I dont think ive seen a dog that small other then tiny little pups this thing was tiny small sit in the palm of your hand all day kinda small. I was a bit shocked they let it walk around concerding how many people were in there
For example, the shepherd we recently adopted was abused and isn't very well socialized, and he's absolutely terrified of people he doesn't know, including kids, so I'm working to socialize him a bit and help him overcome his fear, but it's really difficult and I try very hard to make every outside experience around people a positive one instead of one that's going to cause him to lay down and urinate or poo all over himself.
He's not aggressive, if he were I wouldn't be walking him around people, but instead, he'll do the submissive thing or run for his life, so I have no fear that he's going to hurt someone, but someone who briskly walks up to us and lays their hands on my dog without knowing his personality will put him into fearful submission mode, when all they really have to do is greet me and ask me if they can pet my dog, which is when I have Clyde sit and do a proper introduction for BOTH parties, which has really helped him and has been a big step for him, considering that when he arrived he refused to leave our yard on a leash..
It just irks me that people assume that you or your dog is okay with them just walking up to pet. They really don't know a dog's history, what it's current "job" is, or if they're going to get their arm torn off.
So I really just appreciate the heck out of someone who has the courtesy to ask.
On a side note, what irritates me more than anything is the dummy who brings his dog to the bus stop, knowing full well that his dog is aggressive with other dogs. I tried to take my dog to the bus stop one morning to drop my son off and his dog bared it's teeth and lunged at my wussy shepherd (who peed himself and ran), and then told me that if my dog couldn't handle it, to not bring it. I tried to explain to him that I was trying to socialize my dog, not bring it to a rumble, but apparently he's stupid enough to think that it's acceptable to bring a dog like that to an area where he knows kids are, as well as parents who bring their dogs.
My shepherd is afraid of people but loves other dogs, cries when they go by without saying "hi" and gets excited to play, so dogs like that are just a blow to the one thing my dog doesn't usually freak out about. ><
***Edited By: Lorrix on 12/19/2006 2:42:10 PM*** Reason: added