I am having a very difficult time with my 7 yr old shitzu and my new boyfriend. We are very happy with one another we have been dating for about 4 months. my dog is very timid and always has been. When he plays he chases his toys and fight over them etc. My boyfriend use to have a boxer that he actually fought with. We have had many issues with sleep and my dog. I have put him out of the bedroom, now my boyfriend thinks I look at my dog as a human and we are co dependent on one another? I get upset when he plays rough with my dog, because the dog is so terrified of him that when comes over he runs to the bedroom to hide. My boyfriends argument is I play with dog s different and I am trying to make him tougher. I say look he is shaking uncontrollably, and has actually thrown up from being afraid. His type of play is put him in a pillow case or throw things at him. Now I would like some advise do I treat my dog too good or can you really make a dog tougher after he has been this way for 7 years?
ummmm....I think it might be a good time to take a really good look at your choice of boyfriends. Why would anyone want to make an obviously much loved pet into a "tougher" dog? What purpose would this serve to anyone? Lets make him into a fear biter..that's a laugh a minute. To put your dog in a pillowcase and throw things at it is just plain cruel. If he feels this is fine to treat your dog this way...heaven help you if you ever have children together that aren't fit to his standards of toughness. Maybe you should be looking for someone that holds the same values on animals as you do.
***Edited By: Keesha63 on 1/7/2007 4:52:07 PM*** Reason: edit
"My boyfriend use to have a boxer that he actually fought with."
What does THAT mean?!
In rereading this, putting things in a pillow case and throwing things at him, fighting with dogs... ditch the loser. Sounds like he was never taught how to treat animals or he may be a future wife beater taking things out on smaller things he knows he can "beat up".
That guy would be on the street in a flash, anyone who puts dogs (mine or anyone elses) in a pillowcase and throws things at it is nuts. Cody is very spoiled and loves to cuddle and be petted and all that good stuff but he also loves to play on the rougher side at times with my guys but he has always done this since we got him and by rougher I mean tugging on toys, racing around the house with a little play growling thrown in. My guys would never, never think to put him in a pillowcase and throw things at him, I can not believe that you still allow this moron around your dog, you have had this dog for seven years and you allow this idiot to torture your devoted pet who looks to you to protect him, you need to do some serious thinking lady and I hope you kick this bf to the curb asap. If you have asked him to stop this and he hasn't then he has no respect for you either, think about that! I am sorry if this sounds mean or rude but this really ticks me off and that doesn't happen to me very often.
***Edited By: codys mom on 1/7/2007 5:29:02 PM*** Reason: .
i dont really get the question here, but the obvious answer is to ditch the guy .... no brainer. i cant imagine standing there and observing this treatment of my dog and having to ask someone else if its ok.
ya know unfortunately, I'm not so sure that it is necessarily a troll... not that it couldn't be... but anyone who has ever been in a "less than stable" relationship can tell you that this is not an unusual situation... I've even heard women with children ask, "My new boyfriend says that I am too easy on my son - but I think he's too harsh when he yells at him... what do you think?" well... first, why are you allowing anyone to yell at your son?
Sometimes, we as women allow men to manipulate us - I've seen it too often. And again - like I said, I've been in the situation where someone mistreated my dog - and it is a horrible, horrible feeling to know that you could have made a choice.
To the OP - again, go with your gut feeling and toss the guy and continue loving your dog... I knew that my husband was the one for me because he bought me a bigger bed so that there was room for me, the dog, him and my son when he needed some snuggle time (good thing too since we added another dog...lol)
Sonjavon, what a sweet and thoughtful husband you have how long have you been married to him. My husband is the same way and we have been married 34 years and the priest told us it wouldn't work because I wasn't catholic! Hope you and yours enjoy a long and healthy marriage!
***Edited By: codys mom on 1/7/2007 6:23:44 PM*** Reason: .
Cody's - we got married in September of 2005. We began dating in September of 2003. I knew the day that I met him that he could be the one. But when I saw him with first my dog - and then with my son -I knew that I had found my forever love. My dog is allowed to lay on the sofa, when my now husband first came over to watch movies one evening, my dog jumped on the sofa to sit next to me to watch the movie - when John walked in he saw Quincy on the sofa and promptly sat down on the floor. I said, "I can tell him to get down" - his answer was, "nah - it's his house....I'm fine".
That same night my son was feeling a little needy and was wanting ice cream for dessert... I was getting frustrated... and John said - "doesn't he need to get a bath or something?" I said, "Yeah - but I hate for you to have to leave..." He said, "give him a bath and I'll be right back"...
When we got out of the bathroom it was to find Choc, Vanilla, Strawberry and Peanut Butter Ice Cream - with every topping under the sun... John said, "I figured -if you're going to have Ice Cream - you ougth to do it right, hu buddy?"
He's still that way - he spoils us. But yes, I had to kiss more than my share of toads in order to find my prince.
Looks like we both found keepers! I think my hubby and I are just a little bit older than you two. Dennis and I met when he was in College (many, many years ago) and I pretty much knew after our third date that he was for me and it just got better from there. Here's to many, many years of happiness!
not married but been with my boyfriend for 16 years,i know hes the one for me when he goes shopping and buys extra bags of catfood for all the stray cats and names them all,or he goes to sleep earlier than me and has to take the cat to bed with him,although hes a dog person.