I have a 14 yr old shih tzu with cushings which is affecting his adrenaline glands and have decided because of his age not to continue with further treatment. My feeling is that he has had a great life. I know he is sick and I think it's time, but I can't do it. To help you help me I listed the pros and cons as I see them. cons: he has cushings disease he has a heart murmur bladder infection - treated but back again drinks excessive!! amounts of water urinates rivers on the tile floor sleeps approx 20 hrs a day can't hear or see very well lives for treats (acts like he is starving) gained 6-8 lbs in 5 months and other old age stuff like arthritis, etc. pros: he still sometimes meets me at the door he still sometimes asks to go outside
Honestly, I can't think of anything else that pertains to him, only me. Like guilt, heartache, loss. My husband says "Oh, he's got another good year left in him." But I don't think so. Maybe he is scared I will be too upset if he tells me the truth. I've had bb shane since he was 4 days old, bottle fed 3 times a night, basically was the only mother he knew . So maybe what I am looking for is not just advice, but help dealing with him and my fears of not being able to get over it. This is tough!!! Thank you for helping me.
***Edited By: bb shane on 1/15/2007 6:27:18 PM*** Reason: pics of bb shane
You have to ask yourself if your dog is ready or not. He will give you signs that he's ready to go. For example if he always loved to play fetch and now he doesn't. Or if he doesn't eat. Stops wagging his tail. Things like that. Is he in any pain? Does he suffer?
I want to share this with you so you don't feel so bad.
When The Time Comes If it should be that I grow frail and weak And pain should keep me from my sleep, Then will you do what must be done, For this--the last battle--can't be won. You will be sad I understand, But don't let grief then stay your hand, For on this day, more than the rest, Your love and friendship must stand the test.
We have had so many happy years, You wouldn't want me to suffer so. When the time comes, please, let me go.
Take me to where my needs they'll tend, Only, stay with me till the end And hold me firm and speak to me Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time you will agree It is a kindness you do to me. Although my tail its last has waved, From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don't grieve that it must be you Who has to decide this thing to do; We've been so close--we two--these years, Don't let your heart hold any tears.
Thank you, you made me cry. You are right. I guess my biggest fear is when is the right time? today, tomorrow, next month? The vet says he could live comfortably for about a year with pretty expensive treatment, but the disease is not cureable. So if the doc gives him a year with treatment, what do I give him without?
As others have said, you will know when the time is right, but the fact that you are debating it and come here for advice tell me that you already know what you need to do imho. You just canít bring yourself to do it and need others to help you justify your tough decision and ease your conscious.
No one can tell you what to do, but I will say this. You must also consider what is right for you and your family when you make this decision. Your dog is not the only one who is suffering. You are suffering as well both emotionally and financially. It is natural to feel guilty, but you are not responsible for his condition. Your vet may not have your best interest in mine. After all, he does have a financial interest in keeping your dog alive for as long as it can. Got to take his advice with a grain of salt. Just because he can keep him alive, doesnít mean you should.
I dread the time when I will have to make this very same decision soon. :(
The decision to put my 18 year old to sleep last year was the most difficult of my life. The struggle you are going through is excruciating. The fact that you are even contemplating putting him to sleep means that it's near time. This si what I think... only you will know when it's time. You love him the most and you have his best interests at heart. I prayed every hour for God to take him, but he didn't. In the end I just knew and he knew. I know you will feel guilty, but you will end his suffering and that is better than a long, slow painful death. It was awful, but I held him close while he drifted peacefully away. My vet came to my house to lessen his stress. Trust yourself that you'll make the right decision, not a day too early or an hour too late. I'm truly sorry for your impending loss.
Thank everyone for the advice. My husband and I talked today about a date. He says he read somewhere that a lady gave her shih tzu 50mg of motrin every day and her dog lost weight and lived one more year. Well, I'm not sure I feel ok giving him motrin. I have read stuff about not giving pets human medicine, because it is poison to them. I wanted to post a few pics for you all to see who BB Shane is, but I don't now how to do that on this website. I will check into it and try in a few.
I understand everything you are going through! I just put my 11 year old Goden Retriever down in November. She had been fighting breast cancer for almost a year. She was the best dog in the world!!! I didn't want to put her down but i knew that she was suffering. She also had arthritis in her front legs! I knew that putting her down was the best for her. Even though knowing that i still strugled after the fact that maybe i should have waited and let God take her! I felt like what gave me the right to take her life! I miss her so much! But i know i did what she would have wanted and what was best for her! The night before i took her in, she got a nice steak dinner and we all spent lots of time snuggling with her!
I belive that you will know when it is the best time for her! Ask yourself if she does the things and enjoys the things that she did before. And when you start to see those things going away, then you know she does not have quality of life!
i am so sorry you are going through this. a few of the cons you listed will get better with treatment for the disease, but not all of them. so you need to weigh his quality of life once a few of those symptoms are no longer present. in the meantime, please do not give him motrin. motrin is not safe for dogs.
We put our Doby down last July. He was 11 yrs old. He was drinking alot and peeing alot in the home. We couldve run some test on him to see what was causing all of this. But the fact was he had lost his eyesight and now was totally blind, bumping into things and not active at all. To this day I wish I wouldve had the blood test done, I feel guilty still. Although everyone says I did the right thing for the dog. Just make sure your doing it for the dog, and you know you've done all you could.
thank you for your post kay 259. When I last took him to the vet, I spent $700.00 on tests and medicine. They offered an option for him to get some radiology tests to find out exactly how many tumors he has if they can even find them which could cost approx. another $1000.00. But the vet said there were no guarantees of finding anything, that was just a chance I had to take, plus the disease has caused these other problems like the on going bladder problems and infections and then he would probably get other infections as well. I think it has really helped me to read to everyones opinions and I feel better that I am coming to terms with everything. All of these people love their pets very much, as well as I do and at least I'm not getting so teary eyed as the days go on. It seems everytime I read something or talk about him I can't help but get tears in my eyes.
I guess there's just some things money can't cure. Hope you got to see the pics.
We just recently had to put our beloved husky/lab mix down after he was diagnosed with bladder cancer. When it got to the point where we absolutely had to make the decision, our vet told us that our dog was probably even more ill than he let on. That helped us make the right choice. It was actually all very peaceful and dignified end. I'd urge you not to let your dog suffer unduly.