I was wondering how many of you out there have decided to skip having real children and just have the 4 legged kind.
My hubby and I are coming up on our 14 year anniversary. I always thought that we would have children by now but we don't. It seems like the longer we waited the less I wanted them. I think I am happier with my fur babies than I would be with real ones. Do you all think that sounds insane?
Hi, I just thought I would drop you a line and say. Good for you. Take it from a woman who has 2 kids. I truly don't believe that everyone has to have children BUT when I was younger I thought that I had to get married and have children. WRong. I wish I know then what I know now. ONe of my children is autistic and that is a barrel of fun. I do know that a friend of mine decided to not have any of her own with her husband because the older you get the higher risk you have for having a mentally or physically disabled child. And she would know, she is a special education teacher for the past 10 years. So they have now decided to adopt but they will never have any of their own due to their own age. I do have a lot of respect for a person to decide to go against what people tell them that is right by todays standard. I love my children dearly but life sure would have been a lot different for me.
Not quite the same boat, but...I have 2 children from a previous marriage. I met my present husband when the kids were 3 and 5. They call him dad, they consider him their father. We had considered having one together to kind of 'complete' things.
Well, we decided, 2 was plenty, and rough at that. Teenagers are great birth control...lol So we decided that the furbabies will be our children. He said anytime I feel the need to have children, he'd get me a puppy,...hehehe
Now we have a grandchild, so he cures the need. Play with him, send him home. Best of both worlds!
Hi there, I have three two legged children and three four legged children.
My oldest daughter is natural born and my two younger sons are half brothers that we have adopted. I also take in other two legged children for temporary care from various counties.
I can't imagine life with out any of my kids. They are the reason I am here. I mean that both literally and spiritually speaking. After my daughter was born I found that I could not have more children. Shortly after, I was presented with the possibility of adoption. No matter how many grey hairs I get from my sons I will never regret the choices I have made. Both of my sons came from a drug addicted birth mother and have had to suffer the lasting effects, it is an hourly battle to this day.
Our four legged kids consist of two bassets and a ten year old pomeranian (rescue). They are my bundle of fur, drool, back talking and utterly enjoyable kids. I'll tell you what though, potty training was a whole lot easier with them. They don't talk during movies, nor ask questions about what the movie is about. The best part is when I tell them no they do not ask "why?".
So for my crew we are happy the way we are. Life has, so far, worked for us.
I'd like a kid or two someday. But I want a few more springers in the next 10 years lol. I've always wanted to be a mom. After babysitting other peoples kids over the last few years, for quite a while I thought I'd NEVER want them. But I know I will someday.
Besides the fact that Ri and Jaz ADORE children, so I have to have one lol ;)
I personally never thought I could love my children as much as I love my animals. I was wrong. It is a different love. I wouldn't trade my 2 legged rugrats for anything (4 and 2) just like I wouldn't trade my 4 legged ones either. I made a decision to bring the animals into my life just like I did the rugrats. My oldest dog now 11 years had the hardest time adjusting and is still not 100% comfortable. I watch her like a hawk but would NEVER EVER rehome her. She is my baby.
Ask for deciding furbabies are enough for you...that's great! It's great you have figured it out before having kids. There is nothing wrong with not wanting the 2 legged variety.
Dog are great and all, but I don't think they would be able to visit you in the old folks home even if they wanted to. People don't really think about how lonely their end stages of life would be with out children, grandchildren and those they love around them. Chances are if you live to be very elderly- your friends and other family may die first.
I guess though every one needs to make that decision on there own. Not every one was cut out to be a good parent. I just hate to see intelligent people not pass along their genes because every one knows that stupid people don't think twice about breeding.
People are more concerned about dog breeding on every level than they are about human breeding.
My dogs will be the only kids I have hopefully. I've never really liked kids. When I was young people always said I would change my mind, but as I've gotten older it's just set in more that I donít want one. Babies just freak me out, I think they look like little aliens (I know I'm a weirdo) and older kids irritate the heck out of me. If one accidentally popped out I'm sure it would be different because it would be mine, but I would never purposefully have one.
My husband and I have been married for nearly 3 decades. We've never had children. I cannot bear children, and we only slinked around with adoption. In the end, we realized we were dog people, not kid people. And that's where we are now, 17 dogs, no children, and we're always more than happy to take in my neices, nephews, or their children.
danemom you said exactly what i have said all my life...ver batim. the only difference is now i have one who just turned 12 this month. i love him like i never thought i could love a child, but i still dislike children in general and babies i stay very far away from lol.
I have never had children, and never planned on having any. I have ALWAYS had pets, ever since I can remember. And to those who ask, who will take care of me when I'm old? Having children is no guarantee that someone will care for you, and is a pretty darn selfish and self-serving reason for having one. I can give you a few examples of people with children who would have been better off, both financially and emotionally, had they not had kids, but that is definately off topic and I certainly don't want to bore anyone (or scare anyone, as the case may be!) with these stories!
My Great-Uncle never had children or even got married. All he ever wanted was his dogs. He was a farmer for years and years and never wanted it any other way. As for having kids come and see you in a care home, he has my husband and myself (and our kids) that have adopted him. Other family members tried to put him away for life and treated him like he didn't have a brain but we stepped up and took charge and now he is so thankful. One Dr. said he had great kids and he looked at him and said they are not my kids, but I sure wish they were. So the statement of you won't have anyone come and see you isn't true!
As for us, I wouldn't have it any other way then to have kids. We tried so hard to get the ones we have and miscarried one so I will never look at them as a burden. Get upset with them, yes, but never regret it for one minute. I love the bond my kids have with my dogs. Just makes things seem great. They have had animals in their lives since they were born.
I don't think I will ever have kids on purpose either. I think babies are cute and okay to be around until they start crying and screaming, and most kids definitely get on my nerves. I can stand to be around really well-behaved, cute kids for a short amount of time, but most kids now aren't disciplined and are wild! I love my yorkie so much, and she is definitely my baby. I'll most likely just have two or three little dogs at a time. I get all the maternal feelings I need taking care of my little four-legged baby.
i had four children of my own and raised two others that were left in my care when they were in kindergarten and 1st grade. raising six kids and being a single mom with a full time job, was not easy. i came from a family of 5 kids, but it was only my dad and i that had a profound love of animals. now that my kids are all grown, i can still love and spoil on the grandkids, but i am a full time mom again to my dogs. they have become my life. i have always had a strong nurturing nature. i am able to spoil my fur babies and provide a good and happy life for them. i always tell them that they dont know how lucky they are that they came to live with me. they will never lack for anything. and i only hope when the man upstairs makes a house call, that its me that he takes first. i wouldnt want to go on without a single one of them.
People don't really think about how lonely their end stages of life would be with out children ----------------------------------------- Sadly, that doesnt always matter. Having spent many years working with the elderly and dealing with end of life issues, you'd be shocked at the number of folks who are lucky to get a visit from their children once a month if that.
Though, I have made arrangements numerous times for elderly in a long term care setting to have a neighbor or friend bring in theor beloved pets for visits, buy that just makes thier day!
I agree with lpn...just because you have children does not mean that they will be there for you when you are older. Going through this with my brothers and sisters. My mother is elderly, has Altzheimer's and is in a nursing home. I and one of my sisters visit weekly and we take her out to lunch and spend time with her. She doesn't know who we are but it doesn't matter. I do not miss going to visit my mother unless I am sick. I have two brothers who have not visited her in the nursing home for over seven months, one that goes maybe once a month, and then my other sister may go every two or three weeks. One other brother lives out of state but when he comes in to visit he goes to see her every day that he is in. So, having children is not a sure fire thing.
I have two 2 legged children (3 if we're including husbands) and five 4 legged ones. I love my 2 legged ones just as much as my 4 legged ones, and I'm sure if I had it to do all over, I'd still get married and have my kids. But, to be quite honest, I really do sometimes enjoy my 4 legged ones more than the 2 legged ones.
My 4 legged ones are just glad to see me when I get in from work, they don't catch me walking through the door and ask "What's for supper?" My 4 legged ones are glad I finally make it in, they're not "It's about time, we thought you got lost, I need your help with this." My 4 legged ones rarely talk back when I tell them to do this or not do that. My 4 legged ones are there for me, they love me for me and are happy with me the way I am.