I have a problem. I'm not one to get rid of animal once I get one unless it is to a family member, but....
I have a 9 month old male kitten. I know he needs to get fixed, but we had some money problems.
Anyway when we first got him he scratch my oldest cats eye and gave him an ulcur. So $200.00 later the eye is OK.
He keeps attacking people with his nails espacally my two year old son.
Now all of that isn't really the problem since when we get him fixed he would be de-clawed like the rest of the cats.
The problem is:
One my husband is allergic to cats so he wants me to get rid of two of them.
The other problem and this is the one I am having the most problem with is.
He attacts my tabby all the time. He won't let her go down stairs if he sees her heading that way. In fact when ever he sees her he attacts her.
Well the problem is the food and the litter boxes are downstairs. So since she can't get to the litter box she is going to the bathroom upstairs. Usually on the floor, but sometimes the beds and lately the kids blankets have been being peed on.
I am also concered about her not being able to eat.
My husband is getting tired of the bathroom usuage upstairs.
I'm not sure getting Lemur neutered will help with this. The cat Lemur replaced use to do the same thing. After Spider disappered Snow was doing great at using the litter box and stuff.
I really didn't think the new cat would pick on her also. In fact he seems worse then Spider was.
I really don't want to get rid of him he is a nice kitten, but I can't keep putting snow though this either. She hides under our bed all the time and sometimes Lemur will even go under there to beat her up.
She doesn't even come out and sleep with me at night anymore.
I have no idea what she might have done to him to make him hate her so much. She is a very layed back loving cat. He fights with Zander sometimes, but with him it is more play then anything. He leaves Licorice alone, but he out and out beats Snow up.
Any suggestions or should I just call the rescue I got him from and see if she can take him back. I would give her the money to get him neutered. In fact I would probably get him neutered and then return him.
I'm just not sure if that is the right thing to do or not. I know I will really miss him and I hate the thought of getting rid of him, but I also have Snow to think about.
I don't know much about cats...not even the one living with me.
Would it be possible to move a litterbox upstairs along with food and water? I'm sure it wouldn't solve all of the problems though. I'm just thinking about ways to make sure she's eating and able to go to the bathroom in appropriate places.
Anyway, hopefully someone else with a bit more experience will come along. I'll come back if I think of anything else.
My male cat is the same way with our female cat. He is very aggressive with her. I have to scold him, pick him up and say "No" when he does these things. He gets the hint sometimes, but not always. I have to be consistant with the "No" everytime I catch him. It is a lot like training a dog. My male cat is more like a dog than a cat and he responds to my voice when I'm not happy with him.
A lot of people say not to interfere and let him be the Alpha, I disagree. When he is hurting her and being down right mean, he needs to be put in his place.
I have also noticed that since having my male neutered and de-clawed, he is less aggressive with her.
It isn't really fair to your husband and the other cats for this cat to be disrupting all your lives in such a way. If it is allowed to go on it could actually be considered abusive to your other cats, especially when one can't use the litter box without getting attacked. Sorry it isn't working out but sometimes even the biggest heart for animals can't overcome everything and can't change the personality of an animal determined to be difficult. I'd try to rehome the cat somewhere that has no other animals.
An un-neutered male cat is going to be territorial with other cats about his home; some cats more than others, depending on the particular cat's personality. Neutering would settle him down some. It's too bad you don't have room for a second litter box for the female in another location. When I've had a cat behaving too aggressively with another, I make a loud noice, like a clap, and hiss really loud. Smacking a newspaper or other paper is something they hate, too, which gives them the idea that they're doing wrong. My fellas have always gotten the idea. With the kids and all the pets, it sounds like you're over your head. If the behavior of the male doesn't change with any changes you make, it's not fair to the female to live like that and I would try to find another home for him where there are no other cats. It's terribly sad.
Hello Lang: I have more experience with cats(right now, I have 8 total!) I have been around cats since I was brought home from the hospital. You DEFINITELY NEED(not yelling,dear, just emphasizing) to neuter that kitten. Some males are really laid back and so sweet, it is the Personality and role models they have had. First get him neutered, If you cannot separate him in a room put him in a large dog or large cat carrier all by himself for about 2-3 weeks(also it gives the other babies time off from him!)that gives him time to heal and the testosterone to reach stable levels. I would then reintroduce him back with only one cat at a time and supervise him with them(carry a water bottle and a pole toy(redirection/distraction) with me and only keep him out a tiny bit of time with each cat I would see how that goes and do it a bit longer each day(If he still picks on the female he has picked on in the past I would project my voice strongly and raised just a bit(not yelling) and say "No" each and every time he tries it.Praise him effusively when he stops and watch him to see if he tries it and show him the bottle, when he makes the decision Not to do it praise and give him treats(as you do early on as well. give him Lots of praise everytime he makes the right decision on his own especially in front of the others. pick him up and hold and cuddle him(make a big fuss of him) My cats adore getting praised for what they do right, just like my GSD/Chow mix girl does. It sounds difficult but it will ease up pretty quick once he gets the idea.I would also check with any behaviorist at your local Humane Society or ASPCA(if they have one or check with your vet he/she may know from courses taken or personal experience. He may also be feeling insecure and doesn't know how to interact with other cats(maybe he didn't grow up within a litter)My friend's cat does it manipulatively to get mom to do what he wants and my older male wanted a playmate so he would playattack my female kitten at first trying to get her to play with him,she got the idea of what to do and attacked him first!(shes a tomboy) and would attack him regularly,he stopped. I hope that helps you plrcdhlvr
***Edited By: plrcdhlvr on 1/20/2007 12:47:19 AM*** Reason: typing errors and more ideas
I agree, you need to get him neutered, there are clinics out there that will cost very little. This will change his behavior quite a bit.
As for the claws, just trim them. It's not hard to do but make sure you don't hit the quick 9the meat) in the nail. You can see it if not use a flashlight and hold it up behind the nail and you will see it. Just trim of the tips.
He will really be a different cat after the neutering! Good luck!
I was just curious as to why you have cats if your husband is allergic to them? He must be miserable with so many in the house. Since he has asked you to rehome a couple, I think I would. Starting with the aggressive one. :)
You should get your cats front and back claws declawed. The vet will do this for you and it might cost some money but it might save you money if your cat no longer has claws cause that means no more injuries to anyone. Or maybe you have a very playful kitten.
Do you have a litter box for each cat? Most cat folks recommend that. Cats can get pretty territorial about the box and food. I have three cats and seperate them to feed them. That way I always know how much they are getting. They are allowed 15 minutes to eat and then the food comes up. I have no arguments over food that way. The potty upstairs thing will probably not resolve itself unless you put another box up there.
I agree that neutering him should be done right away but don't expect it to change his personality to much. Unfortunately he may always pick on poor Snow.