Hi my g/f has a mini-sheltie male who is the sweetest dog in the world. When I first started to come around he always wanted to play and we often would play. As I started to come over more often he wanted to play less and less and no he is not interested in playing at all. This started after I accidentaly stepped on his tail, he was very scarred and I felt terrible. He will listen to commands from me and I can walk him without issue. I feed him and give him treats and he will let me pet him and he will give me kisses but he will not play and when the girl friend is around he follows her around everywhere. It been a few months and I do not know how to win him over. Please help !!!! i was also walkign him yesterday and I am him on a leash and I wazs not facing him when he saw a squerril and he took off, being on a short leash he lauchned himself a few feet in the air and fell and I made sure he was ok but after we got back he would not come near me.
First of all, just to clarify so you can use this information with others to tell them how smart you are...
There is no such thing as a Mini-Sheltie. The title is a pet peeve of mine... Really, she has an undersized Sheltie. It's the same breed as the Sheltie and very small Shelties frequently show up in "regular" sized litters - as do oversized Shelties. It's one of the challenges of being a Sheltie breeder because even when you breed to average size parents you can get just about anything size wise... Breeders who purposely breed undersized Shelties generally don't pay attention to the fact that they are more common to joint problems and a couple of other health issues you don't see a lot in "regular" sized Shelties. The breed isn't supposed to be so tiny - and usually structure is compromised when they are purposedly bred too small.
Your question : Shelties are a sensitive breed and their trust can be broken easily. Be patient with him. Get on his level and let him make the rules for playing. Get his favorite toys. Have your g/f join in, so he sees she accepts you and is okaying the playtime.
Also consider that as a breed they can be a very "regal" dog. Some Shelties never grow out of being silly and very playful, some grow out of it quickly and it takes a lot to get them going.
They also tend to really only "light up" for their people. He has a special side of him that he'll probably always save for his person (you g/f) and he'll be friendly with others (you) but he may never give you his whole heart and trust. In my family each of our Shelties have a specific person they have bonded with. The person they are most bonded with is the one they listen to best, the one they go to first, and the one they are most affectionate and playful with. This is VERY normal with a Sheltie. Occasionally, they will decide they are bonded to multiple people - but they are notorious one person/one family dogs.
Hope that helps some... The more your girlfriend reassures him that you are a cool guy, the more open he'll be with you.