Im at wits ends at the moment! I have a beautiful 6 month old cat who is very territoral and affectionate to me, my partner bought home a new kitten recently and now the older cat just continues to fight and scare it. She will growl whenever she see's her, no matter the distance between them and chases it and tries to attack. Each time she does this i put her in a bedroom for "time out" but its not working. The new kitten is very placid and wont attack back but is curious to know the older one as she will often walk up to her (when she's not looking!) but only to be chased away. I have tried swapping bedding also for scent swapping to no avail. I dont really want to get rid of either cat but i can't have the older one attacking her every day? Any ideas would be GREATLY appreciated!!!
Let your cats work things out as long as you are there. Your older female shouldn't hurt the kitten. But when you are gone, for now keep them separated. They are still young and they should eventually get along. I have a male kitten right now with my adult female. They got along from the beginning. But when I had Taco (adult) and my moms cat Nacho (female/kitten), Taco hated her. They learned to tolerate eachother, and when Nacho was spayed, things got better. Good luck, and I'm sure everyone will live in harmony soon.
I would have them spayed no matter what.. Cats in heat are just downright IRRITATING!! As for getting along.. Our oldest, Jess, is really accepting of anything new.. I guess he's used to it after as many cats and dogs that have come through now.. The only problem we really have had is when Peanut, our 2nd and the calico, met my friends two cats.. She was going out of town for a while and we kept her cats at our place.. Having TWO "packs" of cats and OBVIOUSLY two ALPHA kitties was a bit tiring.. There was constant growling or hissing SOMEWHERE in the house.. But, there were 5 of them in there at the time!! We had the other two for two months and ours never got along with theirs really.. Mo would visit with them, but not for long.. Their girls wouldn't have it.. I think if it had been longer it may have been a different story.. Cats don't just accept every other cat brought into their house.. I think with time, it will get better though.. I have a book, Cat Vs. Cat, and it talks about how to introduce another addition to the family (cat, dog, or baby) and all the needs that adding a new cat has (like another litter pan for one).. It was really interesting to read, especially since having owned cats FOREVER I felt like I knew everything there was to know :) Good luck with the babies!
I foster for a local shelter, and am always bringing home new cats for a short period of time. You must leave the new addition isolated in a separate room with the door closed. Use a baby gate to prevent one from sneaking in or out when opening or closing the door as you go in and out. Spend time with your new kitten with the door open and the baby gate still up. The older one can watch from behind the baby gate. When she is comfortable she may climb on over to get some attention too. On supervised visits, let the kitten explore and watch the other one. I know it sounds cruel to leave the new one locked up, but it always works for me. I can have new additions accepted within the week. I have had approximately 50 fosters come through my house, and only one bad cat! Getting them spayed is the best thing you can do for both of them. Many benefits, they will be healthier, the urine won't smell as bad, and you won't have screaming kitties waiting for a male to mount them. Also if they should ever get out of the home, you won't be wondering if they come home pregnant. Fostering at the shelter, I see beautiful kitten/cats being put down, there just aren't enough homes. So do everyone a favor, yourself, kitties, and all the animal lovers, please have them spayed. There was a saying that I read somewhere. Can't remember who created the verse, but it was this "Please spay/neuter, you know why. We need to subtract, not multiply.
thank you all for your comments and suggestions, i hope things do get better and now i am confident that they will. As i mentioned the oldest is 5 months and the youngest would be 2 1/2 months old - from how old can i have them spayed? Am i right in thinking 6 months?