I brought a new boy cat home to 2 preexisting sister cats. These girl cats are not affectionate. They are more like play cats to my husband. They don't even like being held or petted. I brought home a trial boy cat from a foster home that had numerous cats. His disposition seemed very affectionate and not mind being held. When I brought him home, the 2 girl cats are terribly aggressive and hitting at him. He just hides only to come out to eat or use the litter box. I know he's scared and they are also angry and irritated at the new comer, but after several days, there has been no improvement. I'm wondering if he is bold enough to deal with the 2 girl cats. I'm wondering if I should take him back to his foster home and see about bringing home a larger boy cat that has been in an animal shelter for over 6 months. He was clinging to me at the shelter and climbing my body and making kitty biscuits and chirping. I'm wondering if the shelter cat might be better able to handle these 2 snitty girl cats. Does anyone have an opinion or advice to share. I'd appreciate it. thanks so much.....please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Some cats just have that snitty temperment. I would give the trial a bit longer, in fact it usually takes about 3 weeks to a month for a new addition to become recognized, and even then, they probably still won't like him, but will just ignore him.
As long as he is coming out to eat and use the litterbox he's not too shy to eventually find his own way with your girls. Mine are all kittens a few months apart from the same breeder and all female and it still took them a few days to accept the newest member of the family. My six month old Bailey hissed and spit and even growled at me (which broke my heart because she's my lap baby.) I was sure she was going to kill poor Chelsea but now they all get along fine. Once your new boy smells more like your house and they get used to seeing him they will probably accept him. I think that bringing home the older male instead would probably be worse. If they are being territorial, then they will hate another adult even more than the baby. Give them some more time to adjust as long as they are not hurting him.
Cats can be very hard on each other, if you can put your new boy in a room of his own for a few days with a box and food. lock up the girls for a while and let him out to explore without the threat of him. I just exchanged rooms that way everybody got a the smells and none of the hissing. I did have 2 that at 3 months were still hissing and he was chasing her at every turn. So I did what I do with my dobermans I bought baby T-shirts and let them wear one for 24 hours, then I switched them so they were surrounds with the others scent. Another trick is to Pick up all the food and only feed them in the same room. Slowly bring their dishes closer together. Good luck and don't give up cats take time to adjust.