I adopted another border collie mix into the family(odie), I thought it would be good for my dog(jasper) since he is so high energy and loves to play with other dogs. when they met, they were playing great and on the car ride home they were fabulous(2 hr car ride) now, about 4 hrs later, my new dog wont leave my other dog alone and you can tell that jasper is upset. he's hiding in corners and my husband is upset with me for upsetting jasper. I'm so sad and i feel like i might have made the wrong decision. I guess im just looking for someone else who may have had a bad experience when brining a new dog home and has any advice.
I can't offer any personal experience, but I'll have a new dog in the home this Saturday. I'm excited and quite frankly worried about the situation you describe now.
I think in most cases things work themselves out. This is a new experience for all. Jasper was an only dog and it'll take some getting used to. Plus, Odie hasn't been with you very long. Give it some time! I'm sorry, this is the best advice I can give you. Patience and time.
Good luck! Hopefully some others will stumble across this post and share their experiences.
I've had my issues with the third dog. He is a rescue, off the streets... we didn't raise him from a pup like our other two, not sure he'd ever been inside. He was basically someone else's throw away damaged goods. He didn't know what to do with toys, or dogs. He didn't know how to play, period. He ate as though it were his last meal, he was skinny... he needed a bath and to be groomed. He wore this as a "collar" http://i43.photobucket.com/albums/e372/Bpope1982/Our%20first%20foster/JacksOldCollar.jpg I had to cut it off his throat because it was so tight and begun to rust. To this day he still has issues with his throat and hacking. I am willing to bet, one day I will be taking him in to correct a tracheal issue.
Like I said, we've had our bumps but slowly he has learned the acceptable way to behave in our pack. Some days of course it would have been easier to pick an issue to have a problem with, get rid of him and be done with it. He is a good dog and I refuse to add to any emotional damage he comes with. He deserves patience and unconditional love and we love him even with his quirks and issues. Some one's loss is our daily pleasure http://i43.photobucket.com/albums/e372/Bpope1982/Our%20first%20foster/OneEyeOpen.jpg
Some dogs personalities are stronger than others. They are all so unique. Just give them a little time for the newness of it all to wear off. If they "hated" one another, you would surely know it because you would have one seriously injured animal. Keep a close eye on it, supervise them so that the pup doesn't become too overwhelming for your dog and if in a few days it doesn't clear up on it's own, consult a professional to put yourself at ease if you have to.
They have a way of working it out on their own. They need to work out their roles for things to move forward.
Though his mind is not for rent, Don't put him down as arrogant. Tom Sawyer- Rush
I've done this many, many times, as I have fostered as well as adopted dogs. Generally, I try to give the newcomer a place to retreat when things get to be too much.
An airline crate is really best. You can use a wire crate, but I'd put a blanket over it to give it a cave-like feel. Over the years I've learned that tub mats work best inside crates. The dogs like 'em and they are easily washed.
If dogs have a hard time getting used to each other, I'll even switch mats, so that the dog can get used to the smell of the other dog in a safe, non-threatening environment. I don't really know why this works, but a newcomer that has been timid and snapping at a dog, will accept that same dog after taking a nap in his crate or on his mat.
Generally, I put everyone in the yard and supervise the playtime until everyone is ready to drop. Then I watch the feeding and watering. If no snarling ensues from there, then I make everyone take a separate nap in their own crates.
I then let the dogs socialize in the house. I ignore mild growling and snapping for dominance but I will not allow any major aggression. I AM THE ALPHA BITCH and the dogs better learn that from the get go.
We then go on to sleeping arrangements. I generally don't let the new dogs loose at night until I know how they'll behave. I move a crate into my bedroom and we do that for several nights.
After a few days, everyone gets along fine.
Just remember the flash points:
1) Who gets petted 2) Who gets to eat first 3) Who gets the best place to snooze 4) Who gets to play with the toys 5) Who's the boss?
If dogs can agree on these issues, they may not be best buddies, but they can get along.
thanks everyone. I already see improvment. Right now they are sleeping and just barley touching and it's great. this new pup seems to be a quick learner so im really looking forward to the future. After i posted that first panicked message, I talked to the lady who runs the rescue agency and she gave me some great tips, as did you guys, and luckly my husband has a great demenor with dogs, they listen to him! Thanks again!