I just got a 5 month old shih-tsu pup. His previous owners never socialized him, spent time with him and never even took him for a walk! I have only had him for 2 days and he immediately became attached to me. I can't even leave the room without him barking and crying! I don't know what to do. I'm the only one he has bonded so closely to. He likes my husband and sons, but he is obsessed with me! I think I made a big mistake in getting this dog. Please help!
No, I don't want to give him up because he loves me, I just can't be with him every minute. When I'm not with him, he whines and barks. I have never had a dog that has done this. I was my last dog's favorite family member, but she could be on her own at times, too. I'm just loking for a balance. This behavior does not seem normal to me.
You are teaching him that if he cries and barks he gets what he wants. If you are anything like my wife this will be hard for you but you have to do it now, you have to establish the ground rules not him.
Let him know that he will have mommy time and make it quality time for him at that, but also put him in another room with a gate so he can't follow you and ignore him. Put wax in your ears if you have to but just let him cry it out. When he sees that it doesn't get him what he wants he will stop. The second and third time you do this he will still cry but the duration will be shorter each time. If you have been giving in to him every time he cries it may take more time for him to realize and stop but he will.
You must set the rules not him
Remember just ignore him and yes I know it is easier said than done but you have to
Thanks, Renorey. I agree, and have been trying to ignore him, and you're right, it is easier said than done. I have noticed that the barking is improving. I don't want to let him loose in the whole house until I know he is completely house broken, so now he stays in the kitchen/dining room/den. I wonder if neutering him will help. He has a pedigree, but I have no interest in breeding him. Do you think this behavior will improve after he is neutered?
I seriously recommend letting the other family members feed, walk and go to training classes. Also start giveing him lots to chew, kongs filled with goodies and actual chews. If you don't this separation anxiety may escalate, and cause problems later.
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Ok, here is an update...I think I was panicing a little too soon...I'm in love with this puppy! He is still attached to me, but is getting closer to the rest of the family. He is even warming up to my husband. His barking has greatly improved and he is sleeping in his crate all night. Things are looking up!
well if you leave the room and he starts up again for attention and you run right back out there then he is going to learn that "hey" everytime i do this shell come out here. you need to be the owner and let him/her cry for a few minutes.
I know, I don't run back when he cries and barks, but the barking and crying is annoying and disrupts the whole house. I can only stand it for so long. He did not learn this from me. I don't know what kind of life this little guy had before he came to live with me, but I'm pretty sure he was ignored and mistreated. Poor baby.
It will be an uphill battle, but it hasn't been that long. Give it all time. He doesn't know the others will keep him safe like he knows you will. Over time, it will work out. Keep ignoring the bad behavior and rewarding the good.
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