Okay I have learned a lesson. I should have never had sold these two puppies to our friends. This is not good. Lastnight we were all talking and they brought up that when they have children, which I don't know when this is going to be, they are not going to be keeping the two dogs they bought from me.
They are Siberian Huskies, and they said they are not going to have them when they have kids because they do not trust them around babies. The dogs are great with other children though. They say that they won't trust them because they think everything is a toy.
They also brought up the contract that I had them sign. If they cannot keep them they are to contact me first and I will either take them back or help them place them. Well I no longer have my kennel, and I already have two dogs in the house and am not able to get two more in the house. My house is not set up for that at all. One yes, but two more in the house no way! Yes I know that on my part it is my responsibilty to make sure that these puppies (okay they are two) go to responsible homes, but I am stuck on how to do this!
Help! This probably won't happen for a while, but I don't want them to get rid of the dogs, they are awesome with them and they are awesome dogs, and I know they would regret it. I have a small infant right now, is there a way I could politely suggest to them for me to come over with my baby to see how the dogs react to him?
I don't understand it either. We have two dogs and three kids, ages 4 months to 5 years, we have gates, our house is segregated into 4 different sections for the kid and dogs. I said something to them lastnight about getting some gates.
Yes they are our friends. I really don't want them to eventually get rid of the dogs because they are going to have kids. I really think that if I took my baby over and saw how their dogs react to him, and go from there.
You have to train the dog that the baby is just that, a baby, human. You know, you can't just automatically think that it is not going to work. Our dogs knew to be gentle around the baby by instinct. I have not even had any close calls. They just knew. Kind of like a pack instinct. But I don't know how to explain this to them without them getting offended.
You are responsible for those dogs. You have to take them back. They aren't the only ones who that contract applies to. Four dogs will be tough, but, since it takes 9 months to make a baby, you could start looking for homes for the dogs prior to the baby. YOU can do that. Your friends, although responsible, are not the RESPONSIBLE breeder who brought them into this world. Not being mean, but that was you. So you have four for a while, that's what you got into.
"Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else."
where are you located? The only reason I ask is my brother and his wife lost their beloved Siberian husky (that they mistakenly bought from a puppy mill) at 6 years old. They would love another...and possibly would take both. The only question I have...if they are looking to place them...is have they ever been with a cat?
It's sad that people don't understand that when you take an animal into your life...its for life...just like a child. Not when your life changes. I am a breeder of Dogue de Bordeauxs..(Hooch from Turner and Hooch) and I offer all my owners the option of taking them back. If they are located somewhere near MA...let me know.
Unless you know they are currently pregnant (or trying) I would not worry too much about it. Also I would not bother trying to change their mind. Maybe they are your friends, but they are not good dog owners. Plan on finding the dogs a new home that will appreciate them more.
My suggestion is to tell your friend that you will make arrangements for the dogs when the time comes, but politely ask that they tell you as soon as they decide to try or accidentally become pregnant. Figure that once that happens you have at about 9 months to find a new home for the dogs or a rescue that will take them and re-home them. Worst case scenario you may have to care for them temporarily, but with sufficient advanced notice, that probably will not happen.
Don't forget too, that there is a very real possibility that they are stating this thinking it's the "right" thing to do for their eventual children. Once they look into the subject more, they may sing a different tune....
I really thank everyone for their advice. I know that they are not planning on having babies for at least another year or two. So I have some time here to try to contemplate what I am going to do. I know they are not the only ones that signed the contract, and it can happen at anytime. The thing that really gets me is how they brought the subject up. I do check on the puppies that I brought into this world twice a year and get e-mails from some of them at least once every month. So I am in good contact with the purchasers of the puppies. I only had 2 litters and had a total of 9 puppies out of those 2 litters.
I wish it could be both ways, that I would not offend them and that the puppies would end up in a great situation also.
I am just so angry that they had to even bring it up like they did and that they don't want to even take the chance around a baby with their dogs. I sure hope they change their minds. These two are some really awesome dogs and I know they would not do anything to hurt a baby. They are great around kids they have been around, the youngest being 2 years old. I don't know what even makes them think that they won't be good around kids.......urgh. I guess I cross that bridge when the time comes.
Um...Sheltieloverpeace, they would not be puppies. Assuming they are a few months old now they would be at least a year old if a baby were to be on the way in the near future. They would be young dogs around a baby. Even so, dogs and kids go great together as long as they are not ever unsupervised by adults.
Also... Instead of being MAD that they are telling you this, you could change your perspective and be really really glad.
You should be GLAD they are honoring their contract and letting you know about the pups. You should be GLAD you are given a chance to find them a great home. You shouldn't be upset they are telling you the truth. They could have just dumped the dogs. That would be worse. They are now allowing you to control the situation, as it should be.
"Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else."
Thanks to everyone. I am not mad that they don't want to keep the dogs, I guess I am mad at the context in which they brought it up. I am glad that they did tell me, and glad that they are honoring their contract with me. I am thankful for that.
We talked it over this morning and we have come up with a solution. I am going to take my baby over there a couple times to see how they do. If they don't do as they "expect" them to do then we are going to find new homes for them together. They will keep the dogs at their house and I will be on the search for a new home for them. I hope that it works out great when I take my baby over there, but if not then we have a solution.
Again, I thank everyone for their advice on this. I wanted to do the right thing, but yet I mainly wanted to keep the friendship and hold up my end of the contract in the mean time, because that is my responsibility as the breeder who brought the pups into this world.
It would disturb me mightily that your friends have obviously not bonded with the dogs within the past 2 years they've had them & are figuring out a way to "dump them" elsewhere when they decide to change their lifestyle. Good heavens, they may not have a child for years, a good guess would be at least not for one year, & it sounds like there's little chance that your friends care about the dogs even now if they're already making plans on abandoning them at a later date. I'm with the poster who suggested you find homes for the 2 dogs now, before they become even more traumatized & emotionally starved for affection.
Dogs have taught me all I need to know about life, love, loyalty, & laughter; & (heartbreakingly), loss & "letting go" of a loved one as well. God bless ‘em…
I agree with Luckylady. Any loving dog owner would not even consider dumping their dogs,and I would'nt mind betting that this 'baby' excuse is just that. They obviously don't love those dogs. I think you should look for a home for them, screen the homes well, and make sure they have the life they deserve. Good luck.
My daughter was planning a wedding when she discovered that she was pregnant. At that time she and her intended were living together and had two cats and two dogs.
To make a very long story short. They got married, gave one cat to the Humane Society and one to me (cat litter issues) before the baby came. After the baby came my daughter gave both dogs to me and I was able to place one. The other is still with me.
What was the problem? Mostly time and partly money. One cat became very ill and they didn't have the money to treat him. The other kept getting into the baby's things.
After the baby came, my daughter really needed help letting the dogs in and out, scooping poop, walking the dogs, brushing the dogs and playing with the dogs. Her husband was working 60+ hours a week and refused to do any of this.
They had been a two person two paycheck household and were now a three person one paycheck household. It was very difficult for them to feed two big dogs, much less get them vet care.
I'm not saying that it is right to give up your animals when a baby comes, but, because of what happened to my daughter, I understand it better.