Approximately 2 years ago, my boyfriend and I purchased a male West Highland Terrier and had the terrier for about 6 months when family issues (illness) prevented us from keeping him. We advertised at our vet for a person who would be interested in taking him and a woman near us answered the ad and, as she had 2 other male westies, she thought bringing in a younger westie to her family would be good.
We have stayed in touch, visit often and also provide financial assistance with purchases of gift certificates to the groomer and pet store to aid her in keeping our dog groomed and fed. She uses these certificates for all three dogs instead of just ours which we would have preferred to allow him to be groomed each month. She doesn't solicit these certificates and is grateful for them actually.
My question is: For the 8 months (and maybe before that), when we visit, we have noticed that the two dogs attack our dog. More specifically, sometimes when I go to visit it is because she has asked me to let them out and feed them as she is away at a concert for the night and when I let them out, my dog is trying to find a place to relieve himself, the other two dogs attack him. When I call to him to come to me, he actually hesitates and looks around to measure how he can make it to me without getting attacked by the other two dogs. I have mentioned this to her on a few occasions and she states "they are playing". They are not playing….
They have exhibited this behavior in the house as well and she works a 12 hours shift one day a week and allows them to "have accidents" in the house. We did not train our dog to relieve himself in the house and this bothers me.
I would like to have my dog back but feel she will not give him back to me. We have semi-approached the subject several months ago and she told me she doesn't have any intention of giving him back.
Is there a way I can make a case that she is not providing proper care for him by allowing this behavior, not actually understanding the behavior of the pack mentality. Also, he isn't groomed…his nails are always long. She loves him, but treats all three like children and dresses them up. He never gets one on one, never walked….just let out in the back yard.
I am so upset, I cannot sleep at night. Can you provide me any suggestions on how I can have my dog returned to me. My family issues have been resolved and would welcome him back…..Finally, is this behavior harmful to my dog?
Hmmmm, that's a tough one. Afterall, she did come to your aide when you needed her. She isn't treating the dog the way you would like her to and you think the dog is not happy there? I don't know what kind of case you would have seeing how it is you allowed her to take the dog with no understanding or anything in writing stating that you wanted the dog back if your situation got better. Do you think the dog is being abused in anyway? Doesn't sound like it to me, just sounds like he is not getting special attention. Although the issue of the other dogs attacking him is not good. Maybe that's your angle. I'm sure he would be happy with you being the only one and getting all of the attention. I don't know what sort of case you would have though. Have you contacted an attorney? Good luck and I'm sorry you can't sleep at night because of it. I understand.
Thank you for caring and responding. I am going to remind her of our conversation when we gave him to her and ask her to see if within her heart she can give him back. Never put anything in writing and if she doesn't give him back, I will just move on. Thank you again....learned from mistakes.
It's very sad and I am very sorry for you. Maybe you can make her see how much love and one on one attention you would give to him and how he would bring such happiness back to your family. =0) Beg, plead, cry.......do everything possible. Tell her what you have witnessed with the other dogs attacking him and tell her you are very concerned about his safety. Gosh, good luck. Prepare a well and thought out speech that will stress all your good reasons....then pray to God she will open her heart to you. =0)
Glendale, Just wanted to add one more thing. I guess if you can't get him back, you can always try and look at it this way....if you had not given him to this woman, you may not even be able to visit him at all and see him on occassion. At least you can still visit and play with him. I know that's not what you want to hear but maybe that will help some.