Ok...I need some advice. I know some of you know my situation. We unfortunately have lost 2 dogs with in 7 months. Lady due to severe seizures at the age of 10, Buddy due to an inoperable tumor at the age of 13 1/2. We have 5 1/2 month old Max who is a bundle of energy, awesome in puppy classes and most importantly LOVES my girls. The problem is...my 9 year old wanted to be a vet when she grew up for the past 3 years...all she talked about. With the passing of Lady and Buddy, she wants nothing to do with the Vet. We told her Max was going to go to the vet so "he doesn't become a daddy"..She is only 9, and my other daughter is only 5...I didn't want to go there yet.. Anyways, she is freaking out, she won't stop worrying about Max. She said it is the Vet's fault for taking Buddy and Lady. I have tried to explain everything to her..she is just so distraught. She was very close to Buddy and it has only been 3 weeks for him. She won't let the cats lay in the windows to get sun...I don't know what I can do to help her. I know I have touched on this subject before, but if anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate it...Thanks...

Aww that is so sad. Try explaining to her the difference between sick and healthy in animals and that the others were sick and old but that max is not.....My daughter sends hellium balloons to doggy heaven for Goku and she attaches a picture or letter and we watch it float away so she knows that Goku knows she misses him and loves him. It is so hard with kids.

Do you know someone who's pet would have died from an illness or injury? Maybe hearing from another person how much a vet has done to save their animal would remind her of the good work vets do every day. Kids don't always want to hear things from parents and will really listen to a teacher or friend of the family.

Your daughter is still greiving from the loss of not just one pet, but two. She is looking for a reason as to why they are gone. Sit down and talk to her about the pets that have passed on. Get her to open up about them. Talk about the good times she had with those pets. Letting her feelings out is a good way of helping her to let go. Right now, she is in pain and needing a reason why or someone to blame for the loss of her pets. Help her to understand that the vet is there to save lives, but sometimes even through all their efforts, they lose them and they grieve over the loss also.

thanks for the tips everyone...we have planted flowers, said prayers, made poems, drew pictures...etc. She is just not willing to let go...I may have made a breakthrough with her today. We were talking about Sparkles and Elmo.(the 2 fat cats..) We went over how they have gone for their treatments to stay healthy etc..She said "oh yeah"..We will have to see how things go..Thanks again for the advice. We will continue to talk about it daily.....

some books dealing with the subject might be a good idea also

http://www.alibris.com/booksearch?S=R&qisbn=9780965404907&qsort=p&siteID=M8GRZpy2zmY-0mDp3XRsviLFEiFWM1BCYQ


http://astore.amazon.com/deathanddying?_encoding=UTF8&node=6

Thanks Scout...i will check that site out...she now won't let Max out of her sight in the house for fear he will eat something he shouldn't...my oh my...

that is really sad i was that age when i lost my dog and i grew up with and i think its harder for a kid. maybe she could talk to the vet? or do some research with her i dont no that is sad and im sorry things will diffinetly get better.