In May 2005, I got my very first lab puppy at 11 weeks old. While internet searching, I found a link for www.terrificpets.com and decided to sign up. I figured that I could chat on this forum with other nice dog lovers. All I ever wanted was to get good friendly advice and perhaps to learn more about my dog breed. Afterall, this was my first ever dog, and I was trying to learn more from the internet, books, as well as, terrificpets dog forum. Some of you were nice and helpful to me, and for those I say thank you. On the otherhand, some TP members without mentioning names had nothing better to do with their time than to be mean and insulting towards me. Forum rules indicate that noone here in forum is allowed to insult or show disrespect to any forum member.
Reminder: This is a dog forum to chat about our pets who we love dearly.
It has always been a negative place on here...Well thats how it appears to some. We are all really passionate about our animals and there are many knowledgeable people on here,so I try to take what they say and learn from it.
thats my cat"no rude comments please"I LUV ANIMALS!!!!!!!!!!!!
You're right Maggie, I myself have been guilty of snapping and being too blunt, sometimes I mean it, and other times, my comments are taken differently then they were meant to be. Since I am a breeder myself, sometimes I lose patience with people who know next to nothing about their dogs. I apologize if my response upset you.
I agree with Pen,sometimes I mean it and other times people take it wrong since typing has the lack of expression.I did not mean to upset you either but I was really curious as to why you b/f would just stand there so yes I was really asking and not being rude or funny.I am also guilty of misunderstanding the intent of some posts due to lack of expression in typing but the mastidoor was a little over the top and did spark a negative reaction and also led myself and I would guess a few others to the conclusion it was not accidental or that you took it as a joke.......If you want help from people on TP then the wise thing to do would be respond when people are asking you questions that are trying to help.All the way back to when you first posted about Hershey, experienced Lab people were trying to question you so that they could give you better advice and you disregarded that and didnt seem to want the advice.
I do agree with you. On the other hand, you have to realize that this IS a public forum; It's consisted of different people with different opinions. It's not just Terrificpets, im sure it's the same with every other forum of any topic. Everyone has freedom of speech; and of course you have freedom too: freedom to stay or leave.
Just be a responsible pet owner. If you have questions, ask them. But if you do something just super irresponsible and then ask "what do I do?" , people are going to be really appalled. There is a large difference in "What steps should I take to become a good Beagle Breeder" and "I was standing in the street watching while my beagle was bred by a saint bernard the other day. Could she be pregnant?"
Post pictures of your dog. Tell about the funny thing she did last night. (Remember, breeding with the saint bernard isn't funny.) Tell about the newest toy she got and how she buries it in the couch cushions. Look at pictures that other people post of their dogs and comment on them. Read other people's posts about the neat things their dogs do and comment on those. Share how you taught your dog to roll over or to walk onleash without pulling. Tell about your trip to the park, or how she went camping with you. These are ways to have a good time chatting with other people who love their animals.
"Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those that matter, don't mind...And those that mind....don't matter."
And another person who only wants people to post who agree 100% with her opinions. God forbid anyone should give any constructive criticism or disagree with something that is said. Even if someone has been a breeder for 30 years, please don't say anything negative to a first time dog owner who already feels she knows enough to breed an already overbred breed of dog. After all, this person's feelings are certainly more important than the health and well-being of her dog.
The average dog is a nicer person than the average person.
This is an interesting thread I must say. However, I've read a lot of the comments on this forum and while some may be 'mean' or 'snappy', I can understand that a lot of people on this forum are passionate about their animals and feel strongly about the health and well-being of their dogs as well as their breed as a whole. However, taking this into account, take what you need from the responses and ignore the snappiness. Easier said than done, yes, but what can you do? You can't expect to come to a pets forum and everyone to agree with you so just read the comments, discuss if you like or exit the thread. Keep in mind there are ways to ask questions if you really are searching for information rather than looking for someone to make you feel better for breeding a 'beagle and a St. Bernard' to use a previously used example. If you expect those on this forum to be open to you, you must also be open to differing opinions.
In order to really enjoy a dog, one doesn't merely try to train him to be semi human. The point of it is to open oneself to the possibility of becoming partly a dog. ~Edward Hoagland
There is a very wide bar which seperates rude from blunt. Some people , myself included, have never been ones to sugar coat or beat around the bush. You ask a question , you are going to get an honest answer. It irratates me when people get mad because they didnt get what they felt was a polite enough answer, even though it was the honest opinion of the replier. How do you distinguish "rude" on the internet. Maybe posting in all caps with !!!!!! ? I dont know. Do not automatically assume that some replies are ruder than others. People are different , and some of us here are just more blunt and to-the-point with our replies. You want respect, well respect the fact that you got an answer at all, even if it wasnt the sugar coated one you may have been looking for.
If you are a dog and your owner suggests that you wear a sweater, suggest that he wear a tail.