Hi, Like I said in my previous post, we have 3 cats, one adult male rescued from aspca, very loving! And 2 we adopted at the same time in late December , one boy and one girl. The boy is nuts lol, he plays and is a real terror he is extreemly interactive with the other cats. The other kitten hates humans, it has taken her 6 months to finaly leave under the bed, she LOVES the other cats, the older one being her favorite, she cuddles him up! I have never held her or even been able to pet her, I sneak in afew oets when she is dead asleep , lol. All of my cats are vultures when it comes to food, she will come up to me and eat some of my human food , thats the only time she is brave, she interacts witht eh other cats just fine, eats well , use the litter box, just we ( my fiance and I) can't ever get any lovin from her :( I dpnt even know how we will take her to be fixed as she runs away and getting her in a travel crate will be an all day afair, then she will really hate us. I have had cats all of my life, this is the first time having one that hates humans. I am wondering if she has some for of anxiety problem as we got her as a kitten and she did not to my knowledge come from anywhere abusive. We have tried everything food, soft talking, getting on her level o the floor and acting like a cat, nothing. I really think she has a stress disorder. We always joke it like having 2 and a half kitties as we dont get t touch her. Im happy knowing she has a great life her with the 2 other cats , whom all love each other. ny advice I would like to be able to one day hold her and snuggle with her. Thanks
Were the second two cats feral? Feral cats take much longer to accept humans than kittens that came from somebody's pet do because they have an instinctive fear of people. If they were feral, the shelter should have told you and given you advice for slowly introducing them into the human world. My sister has a feral brother and sister and what you describe is exactly what she has been going through. The girl she can't touch at all unless it's the kitty's idea and the boy is just starting to show affection after about 6 months. She was supposed to do things like only feeding them when she could sit with them and not allowing them to eat unless they came out with her there. She has not been really sucessful with that because she doesn't have a ton of time and she can't starve the poor things. Look up a product called Rescue Remedy on the internet. It was recommended for her cats but she never tried it.
Hi, thanks for the reply. We got these 2, we only wanted one but we felt we couldnt seperate them,the were in a pet store and the lady that provides the kitties , takes them from all over and takes care of them untill they are old enough for adoption. I do know know the history of her being a wild kitten or not. Her cage mate is very dominate, he wants all of the attention,maybe she felt over shadowed by this. Like I said she loves my older male cat, she follows him around and wants his attention, its so cute. I feel good knowing she will be ok in the same room as me, my fiance , she is still more scared of him, she does sleep on our bed with al of the other cats, but go ear her and she jumps down. I just hope in time she will let us touch her. I give her space and do not force anything, I need to get her to the vet and I know she will be forever scarred from this. She does look a little buggy some times, pupils fuly dialated and scared, I wish she would relax, we are very quiet here and peacefull so its not like screamin kids is making her scared. I feel like putting her on kitty meds, is that mean? They are also not declawed, she loves her sratching box, she has a good life and enjoys it here, I guess that should be enough. I love her and would love to at least pet her... sigh
YOU HAVE A SCARED CAT? I REABILITATED A CAT THAT WAS A FREAK BOUT HUMANS TOO. SO WHAT YOU DO IS..... ITS EASY, JUST HOLD HER WITH THE TIME YOU HAVE, AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. IF SHE IS HIDING GET HER OUT AND HOLD HER WHILE YOU SIT AND PET HER. OVER TIME(COUPLE WEEKS) SHE WILL WARM UP TO YOU!
I use to foster abused cats and have rescued a feral or two as well. These cats can be extremely hard to socialize to humans. For some cats, forcing them to be held will work, as the previous post mentioned. But for some cats that will only result in some pretty severe scratchmarks, or it could make them even more skittish around people. I used a much slower method, but it seemed to work. It generally consists of making people seem as un-scary as possible. I would sit quietly on the floor by the food dish while they ate, sometimes talking softly to them, but I didn't try to touch them at first. Avoid making loud noises or quick movements around them. Try to confine them to a room with you for a while every day, but dont try to hold or pet them, let them get use to your presence at their own pace. It will take a while for kitty to learn that people are okay. Just be patient, kind and understanding and let kitty move at her own speed.
I like most cats better than I like most people. I'll try to be nicer if you try to be smarter.
exactly, I give her space, she will sit near me as I pet the other cats, she now can lay on the bed when I am there and she will sit near me on the floor,I would never try to force hold her, I couldnt even catch her! But I wouldnt do that because she will retreat even more. I snuck in a couple of pets to her front paws ,lol. Any more than that and she runs, She is more relaxed when the older cat is around, she LOVES him and will snuggle him. She gets really brave when she wants my human food she will jump on the sofa and look for hand outs, so I guess it's an improvement over the hiding 24/7. Her eyes are always dialated and its sad because I think she has an anxiety disorder, if you look at her for too long sometimes she freaks and runs. Maybe the pet store where she was staying the emplyoees where mean, who knows. She is coming around, I feel in time she will maybe even sit on my lap. When we first got her friends and family members said to take her back, but who would do that!!!! At least she has a good home.
well i understand that slower method but listen.... i traded cats with my cousin. she had purchased a cat that is now mine. she had her for 3 months and never touched her. the day of the swap i found her hiding and held her in my lap. and on the ride home she was purring, in my lap . so forcing can help but like you said it can make it worse. now 2 or 3 months later she is totally fine. so i would try it. if the cat tries to scratch you i would layer a ton of blankets on your lap or you can suffer with a little tears so yea!
Definately, at least she has a good home. And the fact that she will come to you for food is a really good sign. Sneaking in a few pets is great too. You will slowly find she will eventually tolerate you touching her more and more as long as you stay gentle and patient. It sounds like she is likely to remain somewhat skittish forever, and she will likely only bond with a few trusted humans. It sounds like you are on the right track and KUDOS for giving her a great and loving home! I've gotten even the most scared and abused cats socialized just by letting them go at their own pace. Each cat's situation and personality is different though. I had one cat that took me more than a year to socialize. The owners he was confiscated from use to burn him with cigarettes, and he had terrible scars from it. But he came around. He would only let me and his new owner touch him though. Deep down he was such a sweetheart, and I was sad to see him go to his new home, but He's a happy cat now.
I like most cats better than I like most people. I'll try to be nicer if you try to be smarter.
I am new here. I had a cat when I was a teenager who had kittens. 5 of them. 4 of them were really friendly and tame. 1 hated humans and you couldn't touch her. No one abused her. We kept her and gave her a good home, but we never could figure out how come she didn't like people. It had to be inherited from the dad because the mom was the sweetest cat you could come across. We tried the forcing thing and it just made her hate us more. We just accepted her just they way she was and loved her anyhow. I have just gotten 2 kittens who came from feral parents. The male is very friendly but the female is scared and nervous. She'll let me play with her but can't touch. The male will use the litter box but the female won't. The female, Nala, belongs to my son.
try some tuna in your hand or really good smelling treats and have the 2 cats eats from your hand and let the scared one watch.then put your hand in front of her and maybe she will eat some or (most likely) you can put it on the floor and let her eat it in peace(without the other cats)if she doesn't eat it ,bring the other cats in so they will show her it is safe to eat the treat(the tuna should work well) keep on doing this and try to spoil her with lots of toys and treats.my cat she hated people and she would only go near me and hated the other people in the house.i talked to her softly and when i first got her i would let her hide or be away from me and fed her with yummy treats and tuna. maybe this will help and remember dont always be around her just make sure you let her know you love her and want to spend time with her.
Good advice everyone! We are making progress, when she is really tired I can pet her paws,lol. Omg on the kitty who was burnedthats so sick. I love my babies! She is just a nervous cat and I accept it, she likes me better than my fiance, because I take the time to baby talk her and I feed her treats, yes she will jump on the sofa next to me for food.HA! She is sleeping on the sofa now with my other cat and I am laying on the sofa too, if I move to pet her, she jumps, but it is a progress, at least she isnt under the bed all da and night like before. I find its better to let her go at her own pace. I wouldnt want to be forced against my will so I understand. Now my other kitty is insane anda whole new topic, he is a glutton and eats anything, but that is for a new thread...........
How old is your little scared kitty? Has she been spayed yet? I have 15 mos old brother and sister kitties who are feral rescues, a Tuxedo boy and Calico girl. My husband and I fed them with bottles and bonded with them early on. The boy has always been a love bug but the little girl was skittish and would only let me pet her for the longest time, even though my husband fed her also as a baby. However, since she was spayed this past March, she has grown WAY more friendly toward hubby and other humans (even though she still loves me BEST!!!)