My cat is 6 months. His name is Nester. Since I adopted him from the shelter, he has been super clingy with me. I realize that it's a good thing that I have a bond with my cat, but he follows me everywhere around my apartment. I'm worried that he's going to be miserable when I have to leave for class during the week and he has to be home alone for about 5 hours. When ever I walk out of the room or he can't find me, he starts crying. Is this just because he's young? I don't want him to have major separation anxiety. I want him to be able to freely move around the rooms of my big apartment on his own but he only wants to be near me.
Which brings me to my next question... I bought him a nice cat bed to nap in but he seems to be only want to nap next to me and prefers a hard surface. Since I spend a good amount of time when I'm home at my computer desk, he jumps up on there to sleep. This is a little annoying for me because this is my space I use to study and use my laptop. How can I get him to start using the cat bed to nap in instead of my desk?
***Edited By: NadrianATRS on 7/19/2008 8:52:16 PM*** Reason: typo
I have had cats my whole life and I have never had one sleep where I would expect her to. I had a cute little dome covered bed when Allie was small and she just played inside and then Bailey came along and decided it was a nice soft potty. ($30 bed in the trash can) Cats like to sleep on top of things and look down on the world. You might try a cat tree with a high perch. But I find mine in the tub, in the bathroom sink, on my bed, in the middle of the kitchen tile floor. Just about wherever they feel like napping. Two sleep on my bed at night and the third someplace on a hard floor which she prefers. You are never going to train a cat to sleep where you would prefer. But I think your kitty will get used to you being away during the day. Bailey cries for me whenever she can't find me and I have to go "rescue" her. But she manages to get through 10 hour days when I am at work. These guys do have each other for company though. You could try leaving a radio on or else the tv to keep the kitty company.
Maybe I should rephrase what I said -- I guess it wasn't clear. I don't mind that he wants to nap on my desk but I don't want him to nap on my desk when I'm sitting at it. This desk is the only place in my apartment that I can study on. He only sleeps on it when I'm sitting there too. Otherwise he naps in other places, basically where ever else I move to. There's many other places he can sleep. I don't know why he feels he must nap directly in the center of the desk. He also can't fall asleep unless he can feel my skin. I'm hoping he'll grow out of the clingy thing soon because it's preventing me from getting things done. If I move him, he cries. I don't know what to do. I really don't want to take him back to the shelter.
I wonder if you could put a cat tree directly beside you at the computer, where he would be right next to the desk?
How long have you had him? Anytime I have moved with cats, they were very clingy and freaked out for the first week or so. I remember when my family moved to a new house. We had 2 cats. One of them hid under the couch and cried and didn't come out except to eat and potty for pretty much a whole week. We would try to get her out and comfort her and she would run back under there. The other did the clingy thing that you are describing. He would yowl outside the door if you went in the bathroom and shut him out. But they both calmed down after a while, when they became more comfortable with the new house.
"Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those that matter, don't mind...And those that mind....don't matter."
I've only had him a few days, but thanks, you gave me some assurance that I'm not doing anything wrong. When he lies down somewhere, he won't sleep until his paws my skin or my clothes and he'll sleep that way with his paw still attached to me. It was unclear from the shelter whether or not he had another owner but I don't think he was a stray cat. But I feel better knowing that this happens to other people and hopefully he'll grow out of it. By the way, is it wrong for me to use a water bottle to discipline him? I use it when I'm trying to eat on the couch and he gets very nosey. Since I used the "bottle" on him a few times, he seems to be less interested in my food so I guess it worked but I don't know if it's a good correct method or not. I remember the first day I got him I couldn't get any peace to myself on the couch to relax and watch a movie. He constantly cried for attention or to have some of what I was eating, I guess? Also, what are some good homemade toys? He doesn't like the manufactured toys I bought him. So far I've made paper balls and foil balls and he has a lot of fun with them but gets bored after 20 minutes.
I have found that, 99% of the time, buying cat toys is a waste of money! My cats favorite toys have always been the lids off soda bottles and wine bottle corks! (And, unfortunately, the tops of pens or any small item left laying on the table.)
Most of my cats love catnip, although some ignore it. I have catnip plants growing outside, and sometimes bring some in for the cats to chew on. I also have catnip toys that they play with. Only thing is, they never really played with any catnip toys that I bought at the store. The ones they play with are homemade ones that I bought at a large craft show held in my area each year.
All I can tell you is, keep experimenting. But the cat tree idea is an excellent suggestion. Check out PetEdge.com. They usually have really good prices, although I'm not sure what shipping would cost on something that large. There's also a store in my area, That Fish Place/That Pet Place that has excellent prices.
Yeah, I bought a cat tree that is 8' tall online. I'm just waiting for it to come in the mail. I hope it's very soon. It's a staircase type of cat tree that attaches from the floor to the ceiling. Between the floors, the manufacturer added rope per my request. I'm getting tired of my cat scratching my expensive computer desk chair. I purposely got this model so the cat can get on top of the refrigertor to eat. I was planning to adopt a dog too and the top of the fridge is the only place I can think of in my apartment the dog can't get to the cat food. Anymore suggestions on homemade cat toys would be very helpful. Thanks!
regarding the cat nip, mine never were interested in the kind you buy either. But you can get a cat nip plant dirt cheap at walmart, and it grows like a weed! Plus, you can take a clipping from it, put it in a jar of water in the sun for a week or so, and you will have another plant ready for soil! Makes great gifts for friends with cats. I bet you could smoosh up some real catnip and put it in one of those little cage balls and he's mess with it for awhile. Laser pointers are tons of fun too.
I'm glad to hear you have only had him a couple of days because, that being the case, I think his behavior is pretty typical of a normal cat, and will even out soon.
I think a squirt with water is a good way to deal with the food begging. You're doing fine!
"Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those that matter, don't mind...And those that mind....don't matter."
Some cats love catnip, others just ignore it. I have heard that if humans smoke it, it can actually cause mild haulucinations and a euphroic effect. I've never been bold enough, or stupid enough, to try it myself. But based on that I would guess cat nip is kind of like pot for cats. Just like humans, some like the spaced out feeling, some dont.
And I agree, store bought toys are a waste of $$$$. My cats prefer strings, paper wads, laser pointers, bottle caps, or anything else that will skitter across the floor. And of course my feet under the covers are their very favorite.
If kitty sleeping on your desk while you are trying to get some work done is distracting, just gently move her somewhere else. She may jump right back up there a few times, but if you are more stubborn than she is, she will get the point eventually and curl up elsewhere.
I like most cats better than I like most people. I'll try to be nicer if you try to be smarter.
About 80% of cats like catnip. It's actually an inherited trait, strange as that may sound. It tends to lose its potency after about 6 months, which is probably why many store bought catnip toys aren't good-who knows how old they actually are?
And catnip tea is an old cure for stomachaches, headaches, as a sleep aid, etc (for humans-NOT cats!) My grandmother used to make it when I was a kid. And I know people who actually still brew up a pot of catnip tea now and then.
As far as toys-be sure you give your cats toys that she can't swallow. For example, although cats love to play with/chase string-it's only safe as long as you are there to supervise. If a cat swallows string (or dental floss-watch that waste can!) it can become lodged in the intestinal tract and cause blockage.
Sorry I dont have much advice but the title of this post made me laugh because I it describes my Italian Greyhounds to a -T- and I clicked on it thinking it might be another I.G. person out there. Then I seen it was a cat which I.G.'s are known to be very cat like. They cant sleep without having some sort of physical contact with me. I cant even go to the bathroom without them trying to scratch the door down. I guess they think I will go in and never return. Car rides are out of the question unless absolutley necassary, every time I stop at a light or stop sign they go nuts thinking I might get out and possibly leave them. If dont like clingy dogs, do not consider an I.G. when you go to adopt a dog. I love them for it but its not for everyone.
Well you're right, that type of tog would be very wrong for me. But an update: I left my cat alone all afternoon until 9pm. When I came home, I thought I would see the house in some type of wreck, but not really. The clingy thing sorta ended this morning, but not sure. He's acting unusually calm and reserved. He sneezes periodically. I took him to the vet. He has an upper respitory infection. I'm having trouble giving him his medicine with an eyedropper. The vet showed me a way to force his jaw open but I can't do it.
***Edited By: NadrianATRS on 7/23/2008 11:42:29 AM*** Reason: update
Actually, an update: I took that cat I mentioned back to the shelter. I have a new cat that looks just like him but he's older, about 11 months (they think). I have new issues with the new cat. I'll make a new topic for him. Look for it!
For all of you that are dying to tell me all these horrible things like I've been getting in other posts and messages, I DID NOT RETURN THE CAT BECAUSE IT MEOWED TOO MUCH. FOR THE LAST TIME, I RETURNED THE CAT BECAUSE IT WAS VERY SICK AND NEED MAJOR VET CARE. OK?! The shelter gladly took it back and exchanged for another cat. So I did something right by saving the lives of two cats!
Since you want a CAT, that doesn't meow, doesn't make other noises, that doesn't need any attention, that doesn't need to be pet, that you don't have to look at their poo, that won't bug the neighbors, that doesn't ever want to touch you or cuddle, that doesn't scratch at anything but enjoys your cheesy toys, that lays only in his bed and no where else, that will sit in its bed and not move or play or destruct anything when you leave it all afternoon until 9pm, and that won't want to be anywhere near you, this is the perfect cat for you.
You could buy two and they could sleep in the same bed for days! When it tries to wake you up with its obnoxious meowing, you can literally kick him off the bed, out to the family room, or even out the window, and it won't be considered cruelty. If the darn cat still meows, just take out its batteries. It won't bug you. It won't scratch your expensive desk chair, or sit on your expensive desk while you're reading your expensive books. It won't poop, but since you bought that expensive litter box, you could certainly throw it in there every once in a while and pretend. If you don't want it to touch you or your expensive clothes or precious skin, just throw it up on that expensive cat tree. Every few days you can throw it on top of the refrigerator and feed it some cheap Walmart food. Maybe if you stuck a stick in its back, you could make it play with those expensive toys you bought. And when the novelty wears off, just take it back to Toys 'R' Us and exchange it for a new color.
I bought my friends 6 year old one of these for Christmas, and I think she takes her role as a Webkinz owner more seriously than you take your responsibility of a real live pet owner.
And dude, no one here cares about your expensive crap. Its not a measure of what kind of person you are or what kind of pet owner you are. You're obviously insecure or else you wouldn't have to keep pointing out how much money [mommy and daddy give] you have. This isn't a personals website, so just shut up with your "I bought an expensive..." No one cares, okay?
And one last thing. Those people at the pound? They HAVE TO be nice to you. They are paid to coddle you. Really, when you walked away they were saying mean things and wishing bad karma and death on you. So, quit stroking your ego. You didn't save two lives. You turned one in to be euthanized, and will probably do the same because this one is sooooo clingy and wakes you up. So don't flatter yourself, you're no hero.
Even if you are on the right track, you will still get run over if you just sit there. (Will Rogers)