currently I am one semester from graduating with my BS inn mortuary science. I have been an undergrad for almost six years! as I have switched my major from english to pre med and now mort sci. I have been working at a funeral home and my husband is so happy that I finally have a "real" job and that I am almost done with school but I have been trying to tell him that I want to go back. I don't know if I can be a funeral director forever and my true ambition was to always work in health care. theres a program at my college that is a masters of nursing for those with a non nursing degree. I really want to try and apply (who knows if I would get in anyway) as I think I would regret it. but i think it would be a huge conflict in my marriage. I tried talking to some people about it, no one is really giving me any useful advice so I'm hoping this forum will give me some non bias advice. thanks!
Which is more important to you avoiding conflict with your husband or changing your career path yet again? Why not hold down a "real " job for a few years and then if you still want to continue your education you can persue that choice. The educational opportunity will still exist and it sounds like you are young enough to have plenty of time to make changes. You don't have to make a lifetime comitment to any one job.
jr102, I would think that many of your credits would be useful in obtaining a Master's in nursing, and I would think you would have most of the core pre-requisites. Of course I would finish your mortuary degree, and then work at that job, at the same time, if there are a few courses that you need for nursing, take one or two per semester. There is absolutely no point in working in a career that you don't like, but a compromise could be made. I know exactly what you're going through, as 2 of my children have done exactly the same thing. I also understand your husband's trepidation at the prospect of you remaining in school for another 4 years. I just have a feeling that many of your credits will count for an M.Sc. Whatever you decide, I hope you're happy with the final result. Good luck!
Letís strip away your emotions, feelings, wants and needs from this decision for a moment and think about it from the business end. Which job would earn you the most with the least amount of work, effort and responsibility? Which field would give you the most bang for the bucks in the long run? Think 5-10 years in to the future and add a couple of kids in to the mix as well. Which job would be better for your whole family? These considerations would be a major part in the equation for me. More then just what I want to do now.
If I seem to have a superiority complex, it is because you make it so easy.
I am one of those people that really like school. I took 6 years to do my bachelor's, which included 5 major changes. I finally got out with a BA in Liberal Studies, with the intent of teaching...only to decide that I didn't want to be sick of kids before I had my own. So, I got a job, one that I was good at, and if I had kept working at it, I could have made a lot of money. But, it wasn't what I truly enjoyed. My work paid for part of tuition, so I got my certificate in CSI just for fun. Then I went back and got my MBA. Now that I'm done with that, I'm trying to figure out what to do, education wise, next.
I would take a year or two off of school, spend some time with your hubby, then go back to school for what you want. Life's too short to be bored with your work.
Even if you are on the right track, you will still get run over if you just sit there. (Will Rogers)
I think you should take a deep breath, sit down and discuss your feelings with your husband, if you truly feel unable to do this now it doesn't bode well for your relationship in the long run. Perhaps financially life would be easier with you working maybe you could reach a compromise where you continued to study and worked part time. In the long run money isn't everything and there's no point getting stuck in a profession that you will end up being unhappy in.
thanks guys. I am having better days at my job, but I still don't know if I could do this forever. I really don't want to be on-call all of the time and try to even think about having a family. I know I must work in this feild for a while, at least finish my internship and get my license but an above poster presented a few questions that I have been asking myself as well. Which job would work better with a family and provide better benefits and pay? nursing. I think I will go to a informational meeting for the master of nursing program this fall and get some more info before I make any crazy decisions. I have spent the last 5 years working in nursing homes and assisted livings and I just adore working with the elderly. I do really think I couldn't leave that behind...
So, you could get a masters in nursing (without ever working as a nouse or even doing clinicals). People in management that don't have adequate floor experience are a nightmare to deal with. Employees are asked to perform beyond human capabilities, jeapordizing their license, the integrity of the facility, and certainly not the least in importance, the lives of the patients. It should be illegal to obtain a masters without at least 2 yrs floor experience. One of the reasons for the shortage of nurses is the gap in goals between management and staff. Another is nurse/patient ratios. These are examples of the problems that drive nurses from the profession. One new gra nurse recently hired at a hospital in ICU was given 2 patients and told due to staffing that her preceptor was assigned 2 other patients and if she needed help to call for the preceptor. This newbie was forced into a dangerous situation. People who cause this type of problem should be victims of their own creation. Sorry, I see too much of this and lives are too precious.
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jr1012, if you pick the right university nursing program, you will not end up like some of the B.N's we have here, and I'm sure there too. The programs have taken drastic turns for the better, and I have seen the change first hand. I just had back surgery, and a student assigned to me was actually an L.P.N student from the community college. I couldn't have asked for a better nurse,and the skills she was able to perform raised my eyebrows, because she was hanging blood (I had a transfusion and she was precepted by an R.N) That would not have been seen 15 years ago. The R.N's and B.N's alike were all doing the same treatments that would have been all pawned off on aides, and LPN's 20 years ago. Yes the B.N has a load of paperwork to do, but so does everybody else; so things have definitely changed for the better. I wish you luck in whatever you decide on, and don't blame you one bit for not wanting to work in a mortuary all your life.