ok well i have a friend of mine who breeders yorkies.. well she asked me to watch the puppies and the parents for a couple of days while she went on vacation. well last night she came home and called me over to tell me to bring her house key and wanted to show me something. well Haley(my daughter) really wanted to go because i would not let her go with me that week because i didnt want her to find a puppy that she wanted. So i decided to let her come. well when i got there we showed haley the puppies and let her play with them for a while while we talked well Carrie(my friend) says that she has something for me for watch the dogs(im sure your thinking its money) but no she brings out one of the little boy puppies and hands it to me and says "This is how im paying you."(Carrie had known that Haley had been wanting a puppy.) Well i tell her that my husband really does not want to get another dog right now. (this might sound rude) but Carrie goes and acts like an idiot and hands the puppy to Haley and sas "hes all your!" so of course Haley runs over saying Thank you Thank you and hugs me. So im like Shut(im think you know that i really was saying) how am i going to tell her we cant get this puppy. Well all i could think of was , "Carrie thank you but we have to talk to her father before we can bring home a puppy, and Haley i thought you wanted that puppy from the pound.? she says"nonono i want this puppy now thanks mom your the best." well now i have not talked to my husband yet. but i need help!
Your "friend" sounds like bad friend and a bad breeder to me. Puppies are never supposed to be a surprise gift. She put you on the spot. I can't imagine why she wouldn't talk to you first and telling/asking you in front of your daughter is extremely inconsiderate. Now either your husband is upset or your daughter is devastated. (It's probably not my place to say, but it sounds like you keep throwing hubby under the bus when it comes to the puppy thing.) Instead of paying you she gave you a gift that you don't really want and will cost you even more money in the long run. Insted of getting say fifty bucks you now have to spend hundreds on shots, and neutering. Does she do any health testing? I'm guessing since this pup is a gift, there is no health guarantee. It's not such a great gift if you end up paying thousands for patella surgery or a liver shunt.
Not to mention, the "gift" of a well bred puppy has to be worth at least $600-$800. (at least, in my area, and depending on the breed) I find it highly unlikely that anyone would pay a person $600 to watch their dog/puppies for a while.
Sounds to me like this is just a convenient way for her to dump one of her puppies. Is she having trouble selling them? Does she just not care?
And finally, NO ONE has the right to "give" your daughter a puppy (or any animal, for that matter) without discussing it with you first. I wouldn't consider that person a friend by any stretch of the imagination. I feel bad for your daughter, but I would be taking that puppy right back.
Not only is it irresponsible for your "friend" to give your daughter a puppy without your (and your husband's) permission (definately trying to get rid of the pups!). But I feel that it's extremely irresponsible of you (as a mother AND a wife) to not put your foot down and say NO right then and there.
I may be way off base here, but I think you kind of wanted this puppy anyway. You say your husband "always say no, but then gives in, in the end" or something like that, but really, what choice does he have (besides leaving, of course).
AND, you have a Chow that's aggressive with small animals - and with two kittens and now a puppy in the house, I'm really not looking forward to your next topic...
You have enemies? Good! That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life.
You need help talking to your husband? I think you need help talking to your daughter and your 'friend.' Your husband had no problems communicating at all, he said no. Whether you are for or against a new puppy, until the two of you are agreed on getting a new puppy, you need to be backing up you husband instead of using him as the whipping boy with his daughter. Who is she going to be blame at now when she doesn't get the puppy, when you told her flat out the "Daddy" doesn't want a new dog? That isn't very fair of you to do to him. Tell your daughter that you are sorry for the misunderstanding, but she isn't geting a new puppy. Explain that it isn't because she has done anything wrong, and there isn't anything she could do to change your mind or 'earn' the dog. Daddy and you agree that you have enough animals to care for and your final answer is no more dogs. Share in the blame, do not just let your husband take the fallout, when you led her to believe she could hope for a dog for this long. Quite frankly, she has the right to be mad at you, unlike your poor dh who was straightforward all along. Do not engage in anymore arguements or dicussions about the matter beyond that - she does not need to know why, and any further conversation is just her way of trying to manipulate you into changing your mind. Also, if this breeder is a real friend of yours, she needs to personally apologize to your daughter as well and explain why she had no right to give her a puppy without first discussing it with her parents. In fact, she owes you an apology for getting you into this situation in the first place! If she can't see that, then she isn't a good influence to have around your children, when she shows so little respect for your authority in their presence. On the surface it may seem like she was being 'generous,' but I agree with the above poster - it reeks more of a selfish desire to start dumping these puppies on somebody else as soon as possible. What responsible breeder plans a vacation and a litter at the same time in the first place, let alone foists unwanted puppies into the arms of a preteen girl, against her parent's wishes? Untangle yourself as gracefully as possible, and just refuse any payment for the housesitting, monetary or otherwise.
Hmmmmm....I find it odd that you don't allow your daughter to go with you the whole time you were sitting, which, to me, would be a great opportunity to teach some self control. Yet, when your friend gets back and wants to "show" you something, then all of a sudden you take her with you? Sounds like you knew what you were getting yourself into, and are planning on using your daughters excitement and blaming your friend to get what you want. I'm no marriage expert, but I'd think your husband deserves a bit more respect than that. JMO.
Even if you are on the right track, you will still get run over if you just sit there. (Will Rogers)
I agree with most everyone. I think you got yourself into a mess.
Run don't walk and talk to hubby. If he is against the new pup, that is the end of the talk. IMO you are letting your childs emotions run your thinking. Take you daughter out of the equation, now look at it. Do you and hubby want another dog? Do you want a Yorky?
Much easier to decide if your daughter is not part of the discussion. Maybe,just maybe you really want this pup as much or more than your daughter?
Good luck, and if you ever dog sit again, make sure you get payment terms Before, they leave, and get it in writing.
chowestie you need to slow down on adding pets. You said before that your daughter wanted a kitten and you didn't want a kitten and then you went and got 2 andway. Then you are looking at a schnauzer pup for her and now you came home with a Yorkie that you tried to say no to but got anyway. She's 9 years old. Who is in charge here? You can say no. Before that you said that the westie will do whatever your daughter tells it to do so that one must be hers too. How many pets can one little girl need to be happy?