Hi everyone, im back again. So tonight I was given this big talk about how our 3 month old puppy is getting in the way of a lot of things around the house and my family. My mother complains that she can never get any work done around the house or cook if Rocky is wondering around the house because she then has to watch what he does. He bites the shoes, chews on anything, and sometimes even has an accident. She wants him to stay in his crate so she can get things done. But I don't really want him in the crate when someone is home. He stays in his crate when we are at work or school. But when we let him out, he goes crazy around the house inside.
So my mother tells me that it's my responsability to take care of him, because she does not alot of time to dedicate to him, and watch him around the house, to cook, and to go to work. I work part time and go to school full time. She said that she can give him walks and feed him when she comes home from work, but after that she needs to get her stuff done and I need to take over when I come home.
I feel like my family is turning their backs on our puppy and on me. I do need a little help from them. He is only three months old. Yes I know he chews on everything, and may have an accident.
Any advice you can offer me on how to handle this? When is it appropriate to keep Rocky in his crate, besides when we are not at home? My family says its even hard to eat dinner if he is not in his crate because he goes everwhere. I want to the best for my family and for Rocky, I just don't know what to tell them.
Is it possible that you can take him outside and let him burn off some of that puppy energy. Play with him and brings some toys and just have fun the two of you. You can bring some treats and teach him how to sit and a down . Do you have a fenced in yard? If you don't then a long lead would do. In the house you have to watch him very close. When my dog was a baby I had her on a 10 foot lead in the house. It was very light weight but it meant I had control of her at all times. Is it possible that you could take puppy kindergarten classes with her? I am sure you would enjoy it and the instructor could answer your questions. It is a lot of work to have a well trained dog. So don't get discouraged. I find young people make the best trainers because they are so patient. Hope every thing works out ok for you.
Thank you for your reply. I know I have to step up the most out of my family and take care of Rocky. I just have to balance work, classes, and other things. He is very energetic and wants to play alot, even after we come back from long walk or even runs...he still wants to play. I think the biggest thing for him is that he wants someone to play with him because his teeth hurt and he always wants to chew on something....and that bothers my family because he goes everwhere in the house.
He has learned to sit and he then gets a treat, but I do want to teach him more, but it will take time. I will look into puppy classes and see how much they cost. I guess I just have to be patient. I am not asking my parents to change their whole lives because we have a puppy now, but a little help will be nice.
The crate is an excellent place for your the puppy to be when there is no one available to watch him constantly, even if someone is home! By crating the puppy, it keeps him from getting into something that he's not supposed to, like poisonous plants, electrical cords, etc, and even keeps him out of danger (like tripping your mom up in the kitchen).
What was the family's plan with getting the puppy? Was this to be YOUR dog, that you were supposed to be the primary care giver for? If so, I don't think that your mother is "turning her back on you" as you mention - she may just be reminding you that you have a responsibility that needs to be taken care of. If it was supposed to be a "family effort", then maybe you need to ask for a family meeting, and work it out with the rest of your family about who is going to do what with the puppy when everyone else is busy. This puppy didn't ask to be a part of your family, but now that he is, it is the families responsibility to make sure he is taken care of properly.
Having the puppy on the leash while in the house is also an excellent idea - some trainers call this "umbilical training" - google it since I can't post links without being in breech of the TOS!! It does work, and helps to focus the puppy on you and what you're doing. Even if you're just sitting at the computer doing homework, it will teach the puppy patience. Doing research about different aspects of training will only help you if you do decide to call a family meeting.
Puppies are a lot of work, and regular, short periods of play, mixed with short training exercises many times throughout the day is the best way to tire a puppy out.
A tired puppy, is a happy puppy (and a sleeping puppy is a happy family!)
You have enemies? Good! That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life.
THe good thing is, at least your parents help with your pup! I have to do eveyrthing for my puppy, no one helps with a thing LOL, but I don't mind, since I love my puppy cookie. Whenever I get home from activities I take cookie outside and run around with her for about 30-45 minutes. Ocassionally she gets walks, but we have a huge backyard over an acre, so its easy to run outside rigth away. After I run with her, her room is in the laundry room, so I close the laundry room door, throw toys and a chewy bone on the ground, and leave the room to go get things done. Cookie has gotten used to this routine and gives no problems for me, at night she goes in her crate to sleep, and she is in her crate when we all leave. Me and Cookie do spend alot of time running out back together and I play with her in the laundry room, since it is very spacious in their. Doing all of this really burns out her energy. And normally I give her a good size greeny almost every other day, or I fill a kong up with treats, put it outside and she has alot of fun with those things. I also have an agility set full of jumps, weave poles, etc. and I run around with her over the course, she loves it, and it burns all her energy out. Currently Cookie just got spayed so I can't do much with her, she is 6 months old and is going to get her stitches out in a couple days. I wouldn't expect your parents to do much, don't be asking them to help too much or else they might threaten to get rid of your puppy :(
oh right, I forgot, maybe work on obedience commands with your puppy! Almost Everyday, I get small little healthy treats out and work on tricks with cookie for about 5-15 minutes a day, it teaches cookie to listen when needed and it allows her to extra one on one attention. Cookie now has learned alot, she sits,stays, comes, lays down, goes potty, and gets down, all on command! After she gets her stitches out from the spay I'll try other trickes with her, but sit stay and come are very important, especially if your dog gets loose and doesn't know any commands, then you'll never be able to call them back. good luck, and I hope everything works out for you.
OMG, I can't believe Cookie is already 6 months! OP, you've gotten some great advice and I would love to know the answer to Doggydaddy's questions about the plan for the puppy when you got Rocky. I am a huge advocate of crate training and I think 3 months is way to young for a puppy to have full run of the house. If you don't want him crated while someone is home, try confining him to a smaller area with a Xpen or baby gates. You could also keep him in a bathroom or laundry room like Mypoodlerocks does with Cookie.
Thank you all so much for your replies and the advice. To answer the question....we got the puppy for the whole family. I am not saying that my parents don't help...they do help and take him for walks and other things when I can't. Plus I understand that they have other things going on in their lives and so do I. But I will take everyone's advice here and do the best I can so that Rocky is happy, my family is happy, and I am happy. I have order a couple books on Dalmatians so I can read up on different things. We use the crate and he does not bark or whine when he is in it. He sleeps the whole and when he wakes up he goes for the back door to go outside. So I am training him different things and he is learning for three months.