I apologize now if this gets long winded. I am very stressed about my situation. My husband and I adopted a dog as a companion for us and for our other dog, Daisy. We thought we did everything by the book as far as introducing them on neutral ground a number of times, bringing the new dog in the house for visits, and finding a dog that appeared to get along well with our dog. Adoption day came. We were good for about the first 24 hours. After that the dogs started fighting. I am sure they are trying to establish pecking order, but the fighting isn't stopping (5 days later). Separate they are both the sweetest dogs and even at the off leash dog park they are wonderful together and with other dogs. Get them in the same room in the house, and I am looking for blood on the carpet because they really are fighting that hard. Needless to say my husband and I are slowly giving up hope that these two will get along. I've talked to the place we got her from (a dog shelter)and they said they would accept her back. The problem is is that they put dogs to sleep whenever they need the room in their kennels for boarding purposes. I cannot put her back into a shelter that doesn't really seem to care about whether or not the dog is adopted out to a good home. I am wondering how I go about finding a rescue or shelter for her? Obviously I want a no kill shelter. If anyone is in the Norfolk, Nebraska, area do you know of a no kill shelter? I've already sent out a few emails to places I have heard about in the area, but no response so far. I know I've probably made some mistakes by adopting this dog, please do not criticize me--I already have enough stress with this situation. No one is a worse critic of me than me. I just really need some advice and help. I already love Lily after a week, but I also love Daisy and she is not happy at all with this situation. Help! Thanks!
I know this is a difficult situation, but in my opinion, the dogs need more time to get accustomed to each other. What breeds are they, and are they male or female? How old are they, and are they spayed or neutered? For now, I would keep them separated, either by a crate, or by a gated off room. I would let one out, and have the crate in an area where the dog inside can still hear and see what's going on. I would put a kong in it, stuffed with peanut butter, or something like it.I would alternate the dog in the crate, and just keep doing that, or if you're using gates, same thing. Slowly, they will become used to each other.Watch the body language when the dogs look at each other. Are they turning their heads away, licking their lips, or stiffening up, ears back? I know you probably just want this over with, but it takes more than 5 days to get the dogs to tolerate each other. There are already good signs that they could get along since they play well in the park together.
it took my dogs a long time to get used to eachother- i cried for a week at least. Be patient, monitor the dogs. My dogs right now are sitting on the couch together, i really think you're just having the same kind of reaction i had when i adopted my 2nd dog.
The hardest years are those between 10 and 70. -- Helen Hayes
Lily has an appointment to be spay on Monday. Nothing much has changed, but we are hanging in there. I just feel really bad for both dogs because it can't be fun being locked in a room for a couple of hours during the day. We do get them both out to the off leash dog park for at least an hour a day. There they just ignore each other and play with the other dogs. Thank you for your comments. I've felt like crying more than one day this week, but I still am hopeful that this will work out. They are both female. Lily is a one year old border collie/lab mix. She usually stiffens up with Daisy gets near her. Daisy is a 1 1/2 year old poodle/terrier mix. She stiffens up and snarls at Lily. Eventually she ends up attacking and this makes Lily fight back. I have no doubt with Daisy that she is trying to protect the house and us. She has pretty much ruled-the-roost since we got her when she was 8 weeks old. The thing that confuses me about her is that we've had many other dogs here before and have dog-sitted for friends and Daisy never had a problem with any other dog. Lily has thrown her over the edge. Plus she never showed any sign of aggression when Lily and her met on neutral ground. All the meetings were full of playing. I gotten long winded again. Sorry, it is quiet in the house right now and I finally have some time on the computer. Thanks again!
Just a quick update about Lily. We stuck things out for about a month. I grew attached to Lily, of course, but couldn't get the two to get along. We did find Lily a home with a family that we go to church with. They have a 5 and 7 year old. I've seen her a couple of times in the last two weeks and she is a perfect fit for them. They agreed if for any reason they can't keep her, they will contact us to make sure she finds another good home. Thanks for all advice!
I'm sorry things didn't work out so that Lily could stay with you. But it sounds like you have found a wonderful home for her. Hopefully you will be able to continue to visit her occasionally. Sure sounds like the second best solution for all concerned, both two-legged and four-legged!