Hello! On the Tyra Banks show they are talking to teens about sex,drugs and other 'teen' issues. I am AMAZED on how young some of these girls lost their virginity! As young as 12!! Contracting herpes and other stds at 15! I'm 25 but I don't remember myself or any of my friends having such an active sex life so young!
What kills me is how the adults at the end said something about the girls being uneducated in sex, and that was the problem. That was the biggest line of BS I have ever heard. Those girls know what they are doing, they just don't think it will happen to them. I was raped at 14, and then became sexualy active. I used every kind of protection, and did everything I could not to get pregnant. Here I am at 32 healthy, and still not pregnant.
I'm 14 and I'm home-shooled. I am so glad too. My friend is 13 and she goes to school. All she talks about is sex,boys and how she wants to sleep with a guy sooo bad. I think it is so weird when me and my friend talk and the subject is on sex. I mean its ok to talk about sex but when you're young and it's your best friend, it's just kinda weird. I was so close to (kinda)having sex with this guy Tommy. It was about a year ago and we were just sitting in his room playing truth or dare and one of the dares for me was I had to sit on his lap, so I did and he kissed me and he said "want to get more comfortable". I just got up from his lap and left the room. From that day on we have had problems ever since, like pinching my butt, calling me his baby boo and winking. We actually now do not even talk cuz there was a little fight on the phone between me and him. I had met Tommy in my home school classes. So I guess it does not matter if you r home schooled or not. We all still think about sex.
turbolillyangel this is the guy you were considering going out with recently. You've in effect answered your own question - he obviously doesn't respect you and you should definitely tell him to quit pinching your bum. May seem small and unimportant right now but it could lead to something more serious, if you don't object he will see that as a sign that its ok. On the wider issue of young girls and sex I don't think its a bad thing to talk about it openly. The reality is todays 12 year old is not the same as when I was 12 (some 35 years ago) so I think it is beneficial to make them aware of the risks and consequences of being sexually active, STD's etc.
My mother was very controlling but still at the age of 18 I managed to get myself pregnant because of not using contraceptive and had to go through an abortion on my own as I didn't feel I could tell my parents and my boyfriend at the time was basically a jerk. So if there had been more open discussion about sex and contraception in secondary school I probably wouldn't have made that mistake. I'm lucky, I wasn't scarred by the episode, physically or mentally, but I know others who have been.
im 24 and all of my friends at the time started at 13-15. But thats why they had kids before they graduated high school and I didn't. My sister, who is 2 years younger than me, has some nasty stories about her friends and how they go to the bars and it is their mission to pick up a new guy everynight and buy condoms like I buy lattes. I am so glad my sister is smart. Im also very happy I am not a teenager right now! I have no idea what I would do if I had a teenage child right now!
The hardest years are those between 10 and 70. -- Helen Hayes
I find the whole thing pretty sickening. I used to be a subsitute teacher and I got out just in time. I can't tell you how many times I felt like slapping some of the Sixth grade girls. Being that boy crazy, ever, is just plain ridiculous. I guess it's a matter of self worth. My mom stills subs and told me last week about a highschool jr. that was bragging to his friends about his three kids! Something's gotta give, but I don't know what. I live very close to Lubbock and it's ranked #1 in STD cases in Texas! Lubbock is way smaller than Dallas, Forth Worth, San Antonia, Austin and Houston. The number of teen pregnancies around here are shamful. People would just prefer to ignore it. I'm not upset about people being immoral, I worry about the life the poor little kids are gonna have. When I subbed I saw how many of the smaller kids had parents(former teenage parents) who had no interest in their kids life. They could care less if their kid couldn't read or was failing, they had parties to go to and people to screw around with. Hearing a first grader talk about his "new daddy this week" is heartbreaking. Half of them lived with their grandparents. It's only gonna get worse, until people wake up.
People need to get their priorities straight. It's fine to have a good time, but your kids should come first. I was raised by a single mom and she didn't have to have a man around all the time. She stressed being a good person and making good grades. I never needed skanky designer clothes or attention from boys to feel good about myself. I think that's where a lot of the problem lies with these girls.
I have 2 daughters...10 and 6. I would love for some of the younger girls on this site to give advice on what they like in their mom. Tell me ways to keep connected with my daughters. Both my husband and I work and we want to give our kids the best, but the best must start with values. I want to make sure they know they are perfect just the way they are. I don't want them to think they need all the newest latest things to be popular. Any thoughts would be great. I work in a Neonatal Intensive Care Unit and see so many very young teenage parents and it scares me to death. I don't want that for my girls and would love any advice on how to talk to them.....any thoughts?
Maxpup my kids are 10 and 11 going on 12 and I agree it's difficult. However since my mum died (she used to spoil them rotten) I really have made a big effort to cut back on presents in general. Its great to want the best for our kids, but hey I grew up in a relatively poor family and although there was little money for toys, clothes etc., I always felt very loved and feel my parents instilled in me the values that I feel are important for any child. Wanting the best doesn't have to mean the latest playstation, sneakers, computer. Neither of my kids have a playstation, my ex bought them each a gameboy end of school term for passing all their exams, but to be truthful they hardly ever play with it. I have made an effort to enrol them in positive activites after school, the school itself offers for a very small fee all kinds of cool classes after school such as chess, languages, computers, music lessons etc. I also do not let my kids out in the street unchapperoned, call me old fashioned but if they want to go to the park with their bikes they have to be with an adult.
Also at xmas we go through their old toys and the ones they don't use anymore we take them to the local childrens orphanage - I think it's good for them to see the flip side, children who really do have very little and help them appreciate and value a bit more what they do have. As for when they want to buy a toy, magazine or such they have to use their pocket money and to get that they have to do household chores, just like I had to do when I was a kid. I have to say I am very fortunate where I live, my son who is about to turn 12 is way more innocent than I suspect most other 12 year olds; here I feel children have more more time to enjoy their childhood than in some places, cities etc. About sex I think as a parent I must try and remain openminded and be open to discussion with my kids about all aspects including the long term implications for a teen parent - however I have to say if my son or daughter had sex at 12 I would be horrified. I have to ask if 12-13 year olds are having sex then it obviously isn't during school time, so I assume they are being given free reign in the afternoons to be out unsupervised. Of course all this is easy to say, the proof of the pudding will be in 10 years time, I'm keeping my fingers crossed!
...Yes and a friend of mine keeps telling me about when she "fools around" and to day i looked at her and said hey i dont care nor do i wanna know about your sex life so stop telling me she got a lil upset but will get over it i mean seriously keep it to yourself and theres a couple boys that try to pressure me and I told one DONT PRESSURE ME INTO SOMETHING I DONT WANNA DO and the other keeps making i guess body language and signs at me about things and i look at him and just say NO! because 1 its my choice not some boys and 2 we are learning about STD's in health and 1 word GROSS she keeps telling us boys have cooties lol but yea and i was talking to my friend and he was like O my fav is virgins because no matter what they will ALWAYS remember you and I told him how sick that was. Its terrible especially when i rode this bus that girls had to sit on 1 side of the bus and boys the other becuse 6th graders were messing around in the back thats SIXTH GRADE i was 11 in the 6th grade i mean my god people whats wrong with this picture it just drives me insane that(some) people have obviously no control over there kids seriously!!!
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