Oh dear Drogheda, I am so sorry to hear of your husband. How horrible. I think alcohol has touched many lives, leaving pain and grief in it's wake. I pray my brother is never the cause of this pain. It sounds like you have been able to pick up the pieces and carry on. Have you ever been able to forgive the drunk that took your husband's life, or the life of your friend's son? I think I would have hatred eating me up if that had happened to me.
Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog it's too dark to read!! Groucho Marx