I am in college and my boyfriend recently graduated and moved a little distance away. He comes to visit most weekends. We have been dating for about 3 years. He has a dog as well and the two get along really well. They are both SPCA rescues. Before he left we used to be together all the time. Also, when our class schedule was different we used to watch each others dogs so they could play together.
Before he left she used to be fine around him. No funny behavior or anything like that. She loved to snuggle with him and would get excited when he came over. Now when he comes to visit she acts real strange. When he goes to pet her she rolls over on her back and acts all submissive, sometimes she even pees on his side of the bed. I know she does not have a uti because I had her checked.
When it's just my dog and I she is completely fine and normal. My dog is extremely loving and has a great personality. Before I got her she was beaten and had a really tough life. I have had her for about 3 and a half years and she has really made a huge turn around from when I got her as a puppy.
I need help. I want to break her of this behavior but I don't know what is causing it. Is it a dominance thing? I also want to not have to wash my down comforter every weekend :( If anyone could shed some light on the issue and what I should do to fix it, it would be much appreciated.
I wonder if she has become afraid of men in the time that she wasn't around him. My friend's dog that lived with me off and on for a few years didn't like/was afraid of men. If my boyfriend, who never laid a hand on him except to pet him, even so much as called his name, he would pee. He would also try to nip at him if he walked by too close to where the dog was laying. And my friend had had this dog from birth, he had never been abused by men. But he had not had much socializing with men, as my friend and her 4 girls were generally the only people he was ever around.
If he isn't a danger to people, and you aren't worried that he is going to nip at at a man, maybe some gentle socializing 2 or 3 times a week in public where you will run into both men and women that might want to pet and talk to her could help. And lots of treats from the boyfriend!
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