How do I tell my wife that if her dog bite's our unborn child that I will have it put down? The dog has a documented history of biting and my wife has a documented history of defending her. Our baby girl will be here in less than 2 weeks, hints and suggestions dont work with her so I wanted some advice on what to do? Thanks, from a loving soon to be dad!
my daughter is one year old now and we had the same problem with our very jealous german shepherd. First the best thing for you to do and i know this sounds silly, but you need to show the dog who is boss. when he or she acts out, they need to know that you stand dominant to him or her. Getting the dog fixed is a very good way to calm it down as well if you havent all ready. When you learn to dominate the dog then introducing the baby will be easier. When you do go slow and show the dog the same affection as you do the baby. this will show them that they havent been forgotten and that they are still loved. My shepherd was very jealous at first but when we finally got the hang of being dominant we took small steps and treated the dog with lots of attention, things got better and now she and the baby are inceperable. another good idea is to get the dog something else to focus on when the baby comes. like a new toy or bonw just for him or her. small bits of special attention will really help in the long run. good luck and i hope this helps!
I'm sorry but I don't believe the original poster found the support he needed here to do what he knows must be done for the safety of his soon to arrive newborn daughter. The wife's dog has a history of biting - & the wife has a history of defending the behavior - & a baby is due to arrive momentarily. I'm actually shockingly surprised & worried that the wife's maternal instincts have not kicked in long before now, over these past 9 months.
It was obvious to me that the original poster has no intention of leaving the baby & the dog together unattended, but it appears the wife might not be quite so conscientious. Not only that but, in my opinion, when "baby" becomes "toddler" an unstable dog in the home is a tragedy waiting to happen.
What I also find disturbing is that the original poster is concerned about his wife's reaction should he put the dog to sleep after it bites the baby & that's unconscionable to me, action coming far too late to possibly prevent serious harm (scarring, disfigurement, or worse!), to the baby.
In my opinion the dog should be removed from the home now, either placing it in a stable environment only where people are capable of dealing with the dog's obvious aggression issues or, in the absence of finding such a home for the dog, putting the dog to sleep now (to save a new adoptive home from possible disaster).
Those who know of my devotion to dogs from my previous posts know I don't arrive at these conclusions lightly & without serious soul-searching but a dog with a history of biting & a baby is an amazingly dangerous mix & can't be tolerated!
Dogs have taught me all I need to know about life, love, loyalty, & laughter; & (heartbreakingly), loss & "letting go" of a loved one as well. God bless ‘em…
I would like more info from the poster about the biting problem. Is the dog truly aggressive or has someone provoked it in the past by poking or prodding it or some other behavior that would cause it to bite. Is he/she only aggressive to men or to everyone.
Putting a dog down is not a decision to make lightly and I wouldn't suggest even considering it without a lot more info.
My dogs are my family and I would spend my fortune on them if they needed it. HOWEVER; I am in total agreement with LuckyLady. When it comes right down to it if it is a matter of the dog or the kid, the dog will loose every time. I don't care if the dog will only bite if the kid provokes it. Kids are kids and they will provoke the dog intentially or not, they will. You read too many articles in the local papers about dogs turning on kids.
I believe your dog is a product of 50% genetics and 50% environment. With that said the genetics already tell us the dog is a biter and the environment with kids tells us at some time sooner or later the kid will provoke the dog.
DIFFUSE THE SITUATION NOW
Find a home for the dog or give it to the local ASPA/rescue and ask them to find a home totally disclosin the history of the dog.
I don't understand defending this dog, not in this situation
If a dog has bitten in the past it WILL BITE AGAIN. This dog should be either placed with a person who has experience in dealing with agressive dogs or it should be put down before it bites again and possibly severely injures or kills a baby or small child. I love my dogs but the safety of my children always was a higher priorty than owning any dog.If I was this person the dog would be gone tomorrow if not today and the wife would just HAVE TO GET OVER IT.
You have every reason to be concern. A month ago in Mesa, AZ a Chow/Mix killed a 3 wk old baby. Both parents were police officers with the City, so it wasn't like they were chronic loosers. The baby was left unattended in a bassinet for just a few minutes while Mom used the bathroom. The dog had no history of aggression.
You and your wife are wise to discuss this now before the baby arrives. I love my dogs to pieces, but love my kids/grandkids better and I would have eyes in the back of my head and take every precaution. If there's any indication that the dog won't accept the baby, the dog should be placed elsewhere. You're only going to have 0 chances to get this right.
Lucky Lady says it all. Shame for even thinking of your wife's feelings as the first consideration in this situation. I seriously question whether either of you should own a dog or anything else. You are not responsible pet owners. I only hope and pray you show more intelligence in raising a child.
If the dog bites a child and the child needs medical care, then it is a mandatory report situation for the medical facility and the dog will be taken by animal control. If that happens, the owner has no control at all over the fate of the dog and he may be put down whether the owner agrees or not. Your dog would be much better off if he was rehomed now to somebody who can handle his aggression and behavioral issues before that happens. My own animals come first and I chose not to have children. I can not imagine the person who would be brave enough to tell me I had to put one of my animals down. However, speaking for your wife who loves the dog and for the dog who does not know any better than what he was taught, I would use that example with your wife and see if she will agree that the safety issue could lead to the dog being taken by animal control.
"One cat just leads to another" - Ernest Hemingway
Sorry - didn't mean to bite your leg off. I've been a nurse over 36 years and have seen some real damage from family pets. There are so many wonderful animals out there that are crying (and dying for that matter) for lack of a home. Disposition is, in my mind, the most important trait when considering owning an animal - even over health. Poor genetic health will break your bank account. Poor disposition will cause injury to your family and those who come in contact with the animal. Vet bills don't even come close to a law suit.